Well I guess I am pregnant. Absolutely no one knows. I am not sure what to do. It all happened kinda fast. Abortion is one of my options, but I know that it shouldn't be. I don't have a supportive family. I have a very strict Baptist family on my Dads side who told me once that if I ever got pregnant they would disown me. My father told me if I ever got pregnant he would kick me out of the house. My mom would support me, but she always works and lives in a different city. I have no job, no car. I spend all my money on college. And the father is my ex boyfriend who is very immature who will not step up to take responsibility for his child. It would be easiest to just abort since its only been a couple weeks, but it just feels wrong and plus I know it would break my heart. I know I could give the child up for adoption, but I know there is no way in the world that I could hand my baby over. It just wouldn't happen. My whole life the only thing I ever wanted was to be a mom, but just not now. I made a mistake and I know I need to take responsibility for what I did, but how do I even begin to start telling people. I just really need some POSITIVE feedback I really don't need the whole "you are stupid and a horrible person for thinking about abortion" talk. I just want actual help.
19 and pregnant. Abortion?
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Hello Leash,
My heart goes out to you and the situation you are dealing with. I can tell from your reading your post you are scared and feel alone which concidering all you are dealing with are normal feelings right now, but rest assured you are not alone God is there with you and knows your heart and what you are going through. God also knows your baby and is forming him or her right now and has plans for this precious little one. It's never easy to have to tell someone when you yourself are scared, but I encourage you to pray to God for guidance in talking to those who you feel should know about your situation and the baby. He will give you strength and courage to do what you need to do for both you and your baby.
Noone is perfect and we have all done things and made mistakes, but God loves us and when we cry out to Him is there to lift us up again and help us through those things. Noone should ever call you stupid or tell you that you are horrible because you aren't. You are scared and wanting to make the right choice and feeling overwhelmed right now. You are God's daughter and He loves you very much and sees you as a precious Jewel in His kingdom. Life is scary and there are alot of big decisions you will most likely need to make along the way and right now you are faced with one of the most important decisions of your life that not only effects you but your unborn little one. You said you aren't ready to be a mom...my advice to you is this choose life for your little one because once you see his or little face and hear that first cry all the things that you are going through now will be more than worth it. God Himself created you and gave you life. Now He is asking you to choose life for your baby. He knows you and will help in every way you need as you take care of your baby. Will there be struggles the honest answer is yes because life is full of struggles we must all over come, but through God's strength and with His love, mercy and grace you can over come and you can be the mom you want to be even though it comes at a time when you aren't ready.
Psalm 139:13-16 For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.
I'm so sorry for what your dad and his side of the family have said and how they have made you feel, but know this your heavenly daddy will never kick you out or disown you He will take you in His arms and keep you always. He loves you with a love that goes beyond anything we can imagine. You are loved and now you have us at Talk Jesus who will pray for you and be there if you ever should need to talk and we love you too because you are precious to Jesus and that makes you precious to us too.
I will be praying for you and your little one Leash that He gives you the strength, courage and wisdom to talk to those who you feel need and should know about this pregnancy so you aren't going through it all by yourself. God is there but I think you need some human encouragement too. God bless you and keep you and your little one always.
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My heart goes out to you and the situation you are dealing with. I can tell from your reading your post you are scared and feel alone which concidering all you are dealing with are normal feelings right now, but rest assured you are not alone God is there with you and knows your heart and what you are going through. God also knows your baby and is forming him or her right now and has plans for this precious little one. It's never easy to have to tell someone when you yourself are scared, but I encourage you to pray to God for guidance in talking to those who you feel should know about your situation and the baby. He will give you strength and courage to do what you need to do for both you and your baby.
Noone is perfect and we have all done things and made mistakes, but God loves us and when we cry out to Him is there to lift us up again and help us through those things. Noone should ever call you stupid or tell you that you are horrible because you aren't. You are scared and wanting to make the right choice and feeling overwhelmed right now. You are God's daughter and He loves you very much and sees you as a precious Jewel in His kingdom. Life is scary and there are alot of big decisions you will most likely need to make along the way and right now you are faced with one of the most important decisions of your life that not only effects you but your unborn little one. You said you aren't ready to be a mom...my advice to you is this choose life for your little one because once you see his or little face and hear that first cry all the things that you are going through now will be more than worth it. God Himself created you and gave you life. Now He is asking you to choose life for your baby. He knows you and will help in every way you need as you take care of your baby. Will there be struggles the honest answer is yes because life is full of struggles we must all over come, but through God's strength and with His love, mercy and grace you can over come and you can be the mom you want to be even though it comes at a time when you aren't ready.
Psalm 139:13-16 For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.
I'm so sorry for what your dad and his side of the family have said and how they have made you feel, but know this your heavenly daddy will never kick you out or disown you He will take you in His arms and keep you always. He loves you with a love that goes beyond anything we can imagine. You are loved and now you have us at Talk Jesus who will pray for you and be there if you ever should need to talk and we love you too because you are precious to Jesus and that makes you precious to us too.
I will be praying for you and your little one Leash that He gives you the strength, courage and wisdom to talk to those who you feel need and should know about this pregnancy so you aren't going through it all by yourself. God is there but I think you need some human encouragement too. God bless you and keep you and your little one always.
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Fear thou not for I am with thee
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Greetings @Leash
I just wanted to confirm what others have already posted.
Jesus loves you, you are His precious child
And Jesus loves that tiny baby growing inside you
He knew that precious baby before he or she were even conceived.
Commit all your anxieties and worries to the Lord, cry out to Him
He will lead you and He will never abandon you.
Praise the Lord for the dear baby and thank Him for such a wonderful blessing.
(Even when you find yourself in a position you shouldn't really be in....it can become a wonderful blessing if you turn to the Lord and commit all to Him in repentance and submission to Him. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you).
Do you have anyone, maybe an older lady, a mature Christian who you know? Someone that you can confide in who is near to you?
Praying for you dear Leash.
Bless you
Thou art the guide of my youth
Jeremiah 3:4
Isaiah 41:10
Greetings @Leash
I just wanted to confirm what others have already posted.
Jesus loves you, you are His precious child
And Jesus loves that tiny baby growing inside you
He knew that precious baby before he or she were even conceived.
Commit all your anxieties and worries to the Lord, cry out to Him
He will lead you and He will never abandon you.
Praise the Lord for the dear baby and thank Him for such a wonderful blessing.
(Even when you find yourself in a position you shouldn't really be in....it can become a wonderful blessing if you turn to the Lord and commit all to Him in repentance and submission to Him. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you).
Do you have anyone, maybe an older lady, a mature Christian who you know? Someone that you can confide in who is near to you?
Praying for you dear Leash.
Bless you
Thou art the guide of my youth
Jeremiah 3:4
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my ex had an abortion, she felt it was more important to appear righteous in front of the congregation than to allow our child to live. take it from someone who has lost their child dear sister, life is the much easier choice. God promises his children will not go hungry or need clothing (Matthew 6:30-34) " Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? {31} Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? {32} (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek
for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. {33} But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. {34} Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof."
I pray you will trust and lean on his promises and you and your child will grow in his grace and mercy.
for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. {33} But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. {34} Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof."I pray you will trust and lean on his promises and you and your child will grow in his grace and mercy.
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Grace and Peace, Sis everyone have given you solid advice.
I've never been in your shoes, so I can't say I know how you feel. Our parents want whats best for us, sometimes they forget we are human, but I'm sure your family does love you. If you don't feel comfortable telling them alone, have someone with you. You are the same person you were before you got pregnant. Child birth is a natural process, the purpose of our reproductive organs, so it's not a mistake. The situation (out of wedlock) is not ideal, but you can't change that now.
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I've never been in your shoes, so I can't say I know how you feel. Our parents want whats best for us, sometimes they forget we are human, but I'm sure your family does love you. If you don't feel comfortable telling them alone, have someone with you. You are the same person you were before you got pregnant. Child birth is a natural process, the purpose of our reproductive organs, so it's not a mistake. The situation (out of wedlock) is not ideal, but you can't change that now.
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My mother sort of went through the same thing, she became pregnant when she was 17ish (not sure about the age), she was so afraid of my grandmother and what she would do and think that she had an abortion. (till this day no one but me knows this) It is a decision that till this day (and she's 49) she heavily regrets and is till hurting because of it. She even convinced herself that that particular sin is so great that God couldn't forgive her, I of course let her know that that is a lie and that God can forgive her. She believed me and she feels better but the emotional/mental scar is still there.
Leash, save yourself the years (or decades in my mom's case) of emotional/mental suffering because of it. The word abortion is just a word used to sugar coat/cover up what it really is, and it's murder. Satan so wants to pervert and distort our minds that he has convinced many that sin is not sin. Just because a baby is not fully formed in the first few weeks/months the baby is still a person, it is still a human being that God knits in the wombs of woman. No one is ever born a mistake, the situation that perhaps brought about that baby being formed might not have been God's will but it was His will for that baby to come in to being for if it wasn't you wouldn't have gotten pregnant. Please trust in the Lord to help you through this. Talk to Him and tell Him how you feel. If The Lord had love, compassionn and even blessed and helped hagar why wouldn't He have it towards you.
PS: It seems like that part about hagar just popped up in my head cause that was nowhere near my mind, I believe that came from the Lord. Read the book of Genesis to read about Abraham, Sarah & Hagar.
Leash, save yourself the years (or decades in my mom's case) of emotional/mental suffering because of it. The word abortion is just a word used to sugar coat/cover up what it really is, and it's murder. Satan so wants to pervert and distort our minds that he has convinced many that sin is not sin. Just because a baby is not fully formed in the first few weeks/months the baby is still a person, it is still a human being that God knits in the wombs of woman. No one is ever born a mistake, the situation that perhaps brought about that baby being formed might not have been God's will but it was His will for that baby to come in to being for if it wasn't you wouldn't have gotten pregnant. Please trust in the Lord to help you through this. Talk to Him and tell Him how you feel. If The Lord had love, compassionn and even blessed and helped hagar why wouldn't He have it towards you.
PS: It seems like that part about hagar just popped up in my head cause that was nowhere near my mind, I believe that came from the Lord. Read the book of Genesis to read about Abraham, Sarah & Hagar.
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