A goal in your life when you're alone

[Mirjam]

Hi,

I wasn't sure of where to post this, the women section is the best I think.

Ok, I'm going to write down my biggest worry/problem in this topic, it's a bit scary to do. But I hope your answers can help me, give me other options or make me look at it differently.

Here it is: I'm 37 and single. I know you can never be sure if you meet somebody or not, but the chance that I will get children is very small. I now already try to face that I'm going to stay alone ( maybe only with a man ? )
Also I only have temporary administrative work all the time, it's almost impossible to get a contract. And when you're reaching 40 it's getting harder to get a job.

I'm really worried about sitting at home with no husband, children or job and be totally useless....
I know it's not the end of the world, but at the moment it scares me.
I'm trying to find out what God wants with my life, but it's hard to find out. I'm really busy with how I can make myself usefull should I have to stay alone.
Does anybody recognizes this ? Or have been through this ? When I look to the future now I only see emptiness and it makes me terrible sad. I'm praying a lot about this, to get a ( new ) goal in my life.

 

[petrasar]

Dear Miriam,

I have not been in any situation like yours; still, I will try to give you some advice. First of all, it seems to me that your fear is preventing you from acting. You 'already know' you won't get a job, so you are perhaps not trying hard enough. Thinking that your future is bleak proves that your relationship with God could be better, because God wants us to believe, be fearless and joyous. Praying without acting might not help, because you need to have faith. If you act and know that everything will be OK- that shows that you truly have faith.
As for men and children- it is NEVER too late- remember Abraham and his wife Sara? They were very old when they got their first child. This shows that nothing is impossible to our God. Also, have you considered adopting or volunteering? It might be a great chance to lead a full life. If you want any concrete advice, you can send me more detailed description of your state.
Keep praying, sister, and have faith.

 

[Coconut]

I'm really worried about sitting at home with no husband, children or job and be totally useless....

And hows that working for ya?

Kidding....a friend once told me that if I had nothing to worry about, I would worry that I have nothing to worry about haha...

In truth, Christ tells us worry is a waste of today, that we can not do a single thing about tomorrow by thinking about it...

...and He also says there is no need to worry, because you are more precious to Father than the birds, and His watchful eye sees every single one of them....when I find myself worrying....I look out the window and watch for a bird to light in the tree branches...(one always comes) then I reflect on His words...and soon find my worry has flown...worry cant stay where Christ is speaking peace...even when the sound of His voice is being carried silently on feathered wings.


I want to add, I`ve learned something about walking with God after all these years...(and admit sometimes I need reminded) God is taking care of all my tomorrows...the only thing I must do, should do, can do, with all the ability He has given me, is what He places in front of me today. I think thats why the Psalmist says "This is the day the LORD has made I will rejoice and be glad in it" He learned the secret to not worrying, He learned to live in today, for today is where God is...right here with me, right there with you.



Blessings

 

[Mirjam]

Thank you for your answers. :girl_hug:
You're both right. I have to grow in trust a lot more. I find it very difficult not to worry.
I've experienced at a young age that your life can change dramatically, bad things can happen any second. This made me very suspicious of life, scared.
I really have to learn/grow that God turns everything, good and bad, to something good.

Like Petrasar said : "If you act and know that everything will be OK- that shows that you truly have faith."
( that also concerns my job, I do have to try harder.. I just have to go out there again )

I also try to keep in mind that if God wants me to have a family, He will give me one. He can make it happen. And if I don't it's probably not His plan for me.