Abuse + disabilities + no money--any ideas?

[inJesus]

I live in a very abusive situation (parental, not marital). And since I live with quote "disabilities" and numerous health issues, off of SSI, I don't have the money to leave the unhealthy situation (or stay in my own place). I've been here 22 years. Almost my entire life.

But I know that God is good and wise and has done things both in and through me here. He comforts me and strengthens me and uses me. And He will carry me to Heaven one day.

If anyone has some resources or ideas, email me at [email protected] or reply here.

PS: I have older adult friends who can verify that what goes on here is abusive. Three Christians have told me to call Adult Protective Services, but I don't feel that would be the right and Christ-like thing to do. God has called me to love. To "call the cops" would just destroy them, their lives and any chance at a real relationship with them.

PPS: Would you do me the huge favor of praying for wisdom before you respond?

 

[Boanerges]

Seek God for wisdom and talk to your Pastor. He has a lot of experience dealing with such issues and should know what resources are available to you.

 

[inJesus]

Seek God for wisdom and talk to your Pastor. He has a lot of experience dealing with such issues and should know what resources are available to you.

Thanks for the advice. I have and do seek God for wisdom. I know that He will show me what to do and open a door. Maybe someone here will be God's answer to my prayer.

Unfortunately, the person(s) involved secretly talked to my pastor before I had the chance to and told him things that weren't true. My pastor now has a totally distorted picture.

The person(s) involved also told those same things to my doctor, previous counsellor and three older Christian friends---all the people in my life who could do something if they knew the truth. As a teacher at my gradeschool, my mom would tell all my teachers things that weren't true. Once as a little girl, I started writing letters to a particularly loving teacher of mine. But then my mom talked to her, like she had everyone else. Once as a child, I called 911--but I hung up when the person said hello. Later that day they called the home saying someone had called 911. I was in biiig trouble.

Both of them are unbelievably good at convincing people of lies and distortions of truth.

I'm praying that the Spirit of truth would move in their hearts and in my life.

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

Both of them are unbelievably good at convincing people of lies and distortions of truth.

I'm praying that the Spirit of truth would move in their hearts and in my life.

Hello inJesus, and welcome to TJ first of all.


Just for background here, if you care to say..


So this is your mother saying these things about you to teachers and others,
and is also the same person who's carring on the abusive behavior on you?
And is this your mom only, whom your living with?


Marco

 

[inJesus]

Frankly I'm really afraid to talk about this, I wish I could delete this thread. I don't think anyone will believe me. They'll think it's my fault.

Gosh, I feel just like when I called 911.

How can you delete a thread?

It's alright, thanks for replying. God will take care of me and he knows the truth. I only trust Him with this.

Hello inJesus, and welcome to TJ first of all.


Just for background here, if you care to say..


So this is your mother saying these things about you to teachers and others,
and is also the same person who's carring on the abusive behavior on you?
And is this your mom only, whom your living with?


Marco

 

[inJesus]

I just thought someone could help.

I shouldn't have shared this.

 

[inJesus]

Heh, I'm not usually like this--it just brought up a lot of old emotions I guess.

 

[inJesus]

I praise Jesus: He has set me free and healed me in so many ways. He has held me and loved me and pulled me closer to Him. He has been my peace and comfort. He has wiped away my tears. He has taught me about Himself and how to love others. He has shown me the Truth and filled me with joy. He's my King.

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

Injesus,
I'm not meaning to intrude here. And I'll refrain from posting hereafter to this thread, but..

I praise Jesus: He has set me free and healed me in so many ways. He has held me and loved me and pulled me closer to Him. He has been my peace and comfort. He has wiped away my tears. He has taught me about Himself and how to love others. He has shown me the Truth and filled me with joy. He's my King.

I absolutely believe you when you say these things.

--it just brought up a lot of old emotions I guess.

This indicates your need for His touch still on old wounds, rather than old scars.

I just thought someone could help.

I shouldn't have shared this.

Your anonymous with me, and most on TJ. I do only want to help.

Frankly I'm really afraid to talk about this, I wish I could delete this thread. I don't think anyone will believe me. They'll think it's my fault.

It's alright, thanks for replying. God will take care of me and he knows the truth. I only trust Him with this.

He will take care of you. But you need to take care of what you should do for you..
that.. which He won't do for you. But expects you to do for yourself, in Him. Zech. 4:6

Thats all I'm saying. God continue to bless you and protect you, LoJ

 

[Boanerges]

Thanks for the advice. I have and do seek God for wisdom. I know that He will show me what to do and open a door. Maybe someone here will be God's answer to my prayer.

Unfortunately, the person(s) involved secretly talked to my pastor before I had the chance to and told him things that weren't true. My pastor now has a totally distorted picture.

The person(s) involved also told those same things to my doctor, previous counsellor and three older Christian friends---all the people in my life who could do something if they knew the truth. As a teacher at my gradeschool, my mom would tell all my teachers things that weren't true. Once as a little girl, I started writing letters to a particularly loving teacher of mine. But then my mom talked to her, like she had everyone else. Once as a child, I called 911--but I hung up when the person said hello. Later that day they called the home saying someone had called 911. I was in biiig trouble.

Both of them are unbelievably good at convincing people of lies and distortions of truth.

I'm praying that the Spirit of truth would move in their hearts and in my life.

Well then my friend, go to another Pastor. There are more than likely several churches in your immediate area.

 

[Carico]

I live in a very abusive situation (parental, not marital). And since I live with quote "disabilities" and numerous health issues, off of SSI, I don't have the money to leave the unhealthy situation (or stay in my own place). I've been here 22 years. Almost my entire life.

But I know that God is good and wise and has done things both in and through me here. He comforts me and strengthens me and uses me. And He will carry me to Heaven one day.

If anyone has some resources or ideas, email me at [email protected] or reply here.

PS: I have older adult friends who can verify that what goes on here is abusive. Three Christians have told me to call Adult Protective Services, but I don't feel that would be the right and Christ-like thing to do. God has called me to love. To "call the cops" would just destroy them, their lives and any chance at a real relationship with them.

PPS: Would you do me the huge favor of praying for wisdom before you respond?

I too was once in an abusive situation. I also mixed love with fear. People who've been abused are conditioned to believe that it's their fault so they think they're doing something bad to the abusers if they leave. That's what the abusers want them to think.

But in reality, what's best for you is also what's best for others around you. If it's possible to leave, then not only will that stop the abuse, it will stop enabling the abusers to abuse. So it's best for everyone if you can do so.

Remember that Jesus tells us that we have to leave our families (and he even uses the word "hate") in order to be a worthy disciple of his. That means to put Jesus first before your family even if it means leaving your family.

 

[Janette]

Enough

I waited over 24 hours from reading this thread for guidance because something did not seem right.

In 22 years of abuse you've managed to be alive to post your complaints to us. It's nice of your abusers to provide you with Internet access. Things are awful, but you give zero detail. You speak of multiple people and officials coming into your lives yet somehow *all* of them have been swayed by the silver tongue of your mother and father. That is generally not how an abuse victim comes forward, and it's certainly not how doctors, the police or school officials work when even a flicker of abuse as a possibility comes forth.

I believe that you believe you have been abused. But the restrictions parents must place on a disabled child with a diseased mind are many and heavy. You sound like my daughter used to...I suspect you are afflicted.

Let those forces of evil which act in your life and the lives of your parents be wholly bound in Jesus' name.

See your situation clear eyes and a calm heart and act accordingly.

Either things are bad enough that you need to dial 911 and ask the police to escort you to a safe place, or they are not. You have chosen and believed for over 20 years that they are not.

Make up your mind.

 

[Coconut]

I stand in agreement with you Janette, and appreciate your willingness to use the gift God has given to you.


In Jesus name.

 

[inJesus]

EDIT, i was in such a hurry typing that i deleted the most important part of what i said here without realizing.

i'll have to come in a couple days and post my reply again.

They're going to disconnect the power any minute now.

I kept posting what I was typing (that's why there's so many posts) because I didn't know how long I had. They got distracted on the TV upstairs....

 

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