Adultery

[Shell84]

Hi,
I met a christian man whom lead me to christ and i've since been born again. We have had such i strong connection and our lives feel so insync. He is a bit older than me but we just get along so well, we feel 'safe' with each other and talk so freely about everything. The problem begins because he is married (he is seperated and has been for 12 months and the divorce papers have been signed i think it goes through next wk),
We both spoke about our love for each other and agreed we had to wait until the time was right... ANd we have tried so hard to not take things further but on 3 occasions it has and last night it went ALL the way. The shame we both felt after was so unbearable more so for him than me... He is really struggling today with what happened.
Our walks now have become quite yuk!. I feel to blame as i have enticed him and lead him to do what has happened. I should be leading him to god not away, And now i am worried that our beautiful friendship may now be over.

 

[augustus shook]

Prayer

Hi,
I met a christian man whom lead me to christ and i've since been born again. We have had such i strong connection and our lives feel so insync. He is a bit older than me but we just get along so well, we feel 'safe' with each other and talk so freely about everything. The problem begins because he is married (he is seperated and has been for 12 months and the divorce papers have been signed i think it goes through next wk),
We both spoke about our love for each other and agreed we had to wait until the time was right... ANd we have tried so hard to not take things further but on 3 occasions it has and last night it went ALL the way. The shame we both felt after was so unbearable more so for him than me... He is really struggling today with what happened.
Our walks now have become quite yuk!. I feel to blame as i have enticed him and lead him to do what has happened. I should be leading him to god not away, And now i am worried that our beautiful friendship may now be over.

This is a very hard subject. Sin can destroy lives as well as relationships. It also seperates us from God.
John 8:10,11 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemend thee?
(11) She said, No man Lord, And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condem the: go, sin no more.
I pray these scriptures will help you. I hope your relationship will recover. You all know what has happened to cause the problems now.
Forgive one another and ask God for forgiveness. Then pray for the relationship to recover.
Study your Bible, this would be a good place to start with the 8th chapter of John.
God Bless You

 

[Boanerges]

Hi,
I met a christian man whom lead me to christ and i've since been born again. We have had such i strong connection and our lives feel so insync. He is a bit older than me but we just get along so well, we feel 'safe' with each other and talk so freely about everything. The problem begins because he is married (he is seperated and has been for 12 months and the divorce papers have been signed i think it goes through next wk),
We both spoke about our love for each other and agreed we had to wait until the time was right... ANd we have tried so hard to not take things further but on 3 occasions it has and last night it went ALL the way. The shame we both felt after was so unbearable more so for him than me... He is really struggling today with what happened.
Our walks now have become quite yuk!. I feel to blame as i have enticed him and lead him to do what has happened. I should be leading him to god not away, And now i am worried that our beautiful friendship may now be over.

My friend, stumbling is all to easy. Do not be anywhere alone with this person. Go to Pastoral counseling. Decide where you both want this relationship to go and make your decision based on that.
I will be praying for you both.

 

[levipattar]

Praise the Lord

Satan always first makes us to believe him, then blinds us through our lust and then when the sin is conceived, he brings shame. Till then shame is not at all remembered. And during that time we are totally imbibed and intoxicated in sinful pleasures. We become blind.

Well. I do not know how most of the people take divorce as. But more than once in the Bible it is written that divorce is sin. A man can divorce only if his wife has been unfaithful to him and then he cannot remarry. The same is with the woman too. If a divorcee remarries, it is a sin of adultery. Maybe, this particular thing is taken lightly or in unbelief rejected by many and hence have many excuses and arguments to stand against the truth.

Satan always wants us to believe "does God really mean to say that?...No. It is not that..." and then he will present you with new ideas and there you follow him. There might be many who would cite me of many servants of God who are in service of God already that are divorced and have remarried. My friends, I do not care who they are and what they have done. But the word of my God and my Bible tells me that divorce is sin and much more is remarrying while the spouse is not dead.

Dear sister, I have been through those times. I have committed those sins too but I finally begged God to forgive me and give my wife back to me who was separated from me for over 2 and a half years. I didnt know where she was and she didnt know where I was but the Lord brought us back together and we had a son before we were a separated.

Please understand, I am not against you. I am against the sin that will lead you to hell. This time the feeling is that you are full of shame. Satan is not going to stand by. He will come again with the same poisonous fangs. He will attack you. Now you are already weak. You will not be able to stand against him and you will give up. If this continues the time will come, you will not feel that it is a sin and will go on shamelessly. If you are sorrowful, then it is fine if it brings you to repentance.

The only way you can defeat satan is to be in His presence as much as possible. Do not even sleep or eat food. That is what king David did when he sinned. That was acceptable to the Lord. You both have to be separated. I do not entertain you to be even friends. For God's sake, you will have to bid goodbye to eachother so that you will see each other in heaven. Believe me, I have been there done that. I thank God for giving me that strength.

There is forgiveness with Him. He loves you both. He wants you both in His arms but He will not compromise His Holiness and Righteousness. In righteousness, He has overcome this world. He wants that from us too. So be joyful to obey His commandments and to do His will. The love of God is above all. Walk in Spirit so that you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh thereof and do not give any place to satan to attack you. Flee away from all appearance of evil. There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth, if you do not repent and come to the Lord. Remember He can still forgive you. He loves you. Today is the day.

Hebrews 3:15
While it is said, To day if ye will hear his voice, harden not your hearts, as in the provocation.

and again

Proverbs 29:1
He, that being often reproved hardeneth his neck, shall suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy.

So you do not know when this will happen. I know it is hard and even I have been striking you with hard words. I want you to be with us in heaven. That is my point. I also know that during these times, you will be seeking soft words where the forgiveness of God is. I assure you by faith that He will forgive you. I have not accused you but rather provoked you in the love of Christ to repent lest you perish.

May the Lord be with you both. In Jesus' Holy name. Amen

 

[Richie]

Hi,
I met a christian man whom lead me to christ and i've since been born again. We have had such i strong connection and our lives feel so insync. He is a bit older than me but we just get along so well, we feel 'safe' with each other and talk so freely about everything. The problem begins because he is married (he is seperated and has been for 12 months and the divorce papers have been signed i think it goes through next wk),
We both spoke about our love for each other and agreed we had to wait until the time was right... ANd we have tried so hard to not take things further but on 3 occasions it has and last night it went ALL the way. The shame we both felt after was so unbearable more so for him than me... He is really struggling today with what happened.
Our walks now have become quite yuk!. I feel to blame as i have enticed him and lead him to do what has happened. I should be leading him to god not away, And now i am worried that our beautiful friendship may now be over.

My friend,

All that happened doesn't matter. There is no sin so great that can not be forgiven. All you need to do is to seek God's forgiveness, turn to Him and He will strengthen you.

Even if you grieve over it you cannot go back and change it. It's over. It's finished. It's done. You cannot go back and undo it.

All that can be done is that if you humble yourself before the Lord, seek His face and confess your sin to Him, He will forgive you and restore you.

Just turn to Him. It is not who you are, but who you can be.

It happened for a reason and I believe that God wanted to show both of you something.

 

[HoneyBare]

As hard as it sounded, I believe what levipattar said is true. I also believe that you need to separate yourselves and don't pursue this relationship further until you have both fallen in love with Jesus. So much so, that things will be looking different to you, and you will only want to follow Jesus. I'm glad you became a Christian, but you need to continue in your relationship with Jesus before you begin another one.

It can seem so special, that person who led you to Christ, and you can have special feelings for that person, but no matter how you justify it, what led you into sin was not of God. Sin is so easy to disguise in the moment, but when it is over, then comes the guilt, which is not a bad thing, but shows us where to turn.

I know you will do what your heart wants to do in the end, but you should "seek first the Kingdom of God, and everything else will be added unto you." I pray you do what's right.