Advice and guidance

[Mark3077]

Me and my wife have been together since I was 17 and she was15 we had are first son when she was 19 then married two months latter so we've been married for ten years after the first 5 years we started all the problems fighting about everything from how to rais are 3 sons to what to have for super at night she had an emotional afar shortly after the fighting began I moved out for about a week then cam home we talked and since then it seams like the fighting never stoped until she kicked me out and now wants a divorce. I am a born again Christian but have not lived it at all. the last week I have rededicated my life to the Lord she is not saved I have done a lot praying and reading I have learned what a Christian husband role in the family is I know it's late to start but I have started the best I can with the Lords help. She is in a hurry to get the divorce over with I have told her I don't want one but she says she feels it is the only way for us all to b happy. Now my question is.how do I deal with the divorce I want to give her space but also want her to know I love her and will always do my best to support her and the kids I have told her she can call for anything she needs even to tell me about her day or any difacultys she has so if it comes to the big D word should I try and keep half the stuff or leave it with my family I know the Lord had to break me down to get my attention and build me up so I can b the man I need to b for her and my boys she has agreed to 50 50 with the kids and we talk on the phone everyday about the kids and other stuff I just was looking for prayer and guidance
Thank you and God bless

 

[farout]

Mark: Many here in this forum has been wher you are. I am ssure there is lots of advice people can give you. I feel certan what I am suggesting will help! Two things I want you to get. Get the dvd FIREPROOF and the book that goes whit it that will help you make progress for you and your wife. LOVE DARE. This is a no joking way to help you heal your marriage. The movie will make you wake up to how your wife thinks. The book will direct your actions that will help heal your marriage.

I have been a Psator and very few men really want to take the huge effort it will take to win your wife back. How determined are you? If you are sincere than you must get with it before it's too late. Most men are sadly unaware there is a serious problem with their marriage before it's too late. So you need to work hard and get with the pprogram asap.

Are you involved with a Church? If not get going to a Bible believing Chhurch. Don't be afraid to go to the Pastor and ask for help. AS a Pastor I was always willing to help. Sadly I will say most husbands were lazy and just did not believe their wife would divorce them, until it was final annd child support was taken out of their check. But even them if you will stay with the LOVE DARE book there is hope. May I suggest you read the Book of John in the BIBLE. And then read 1John. I t is hard to counsel on the internet but I have given you the best advice anyone will give. Now it;s all up to you! be a Man of God and show her you love her and do what I have said. Bless youI will pray for you MARK!

 

[Mark3077]

I don't know if it's to late but I fermly believe God does not want us to get a divorce will this book and movie help me learn how to be the husband I should hav been and still want to be

 

[Thiscrosshurts]

Hi Mark,I only have a minute before I have to go to work but please check out these verses.

Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

Romans 11:32 For God has bound all men over to disobedience so that he may have mercy on them all.

There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the LORD. Proverbs 21:30

The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases. Proverbs 21:1

In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps. Proverbs 16:9

A man’s steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand his own way? Proverbs 20:24


These verses bring the idea of freewill into the light.
This is a great site:faithandmarriageministries.org

 

[Mark3077]

My mom has just taught me the serenity prayer may God Bless her she has been helping me a lot threw all this

 

[Mark3077]

It has been almost two weeks since my wife told me she want a divorce and asked me to leave. I have grown a lot closer to Jesus but the last two days is the first that she has not called me or answered when I call her. I am struggling to keep my faith and trust in the Lord on this. I ask that you would pray for me to be patience and trust in the Lord. I just feal so alone at times but I know I am not alone. The love dare book is very difficult to do because it is leaving it all to the Lord. But I am dedicated to doing whatever Gods will is and he will fix everything I have messed up in the past. Please pray for my wife that the Lord would softin her hart to his word so that she can come to know Jesus as her savior. God grant me serinity to accept the things I can not change courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference. I know I can not change her hart but God can the only thing I can change is my relation ship with God and with Gods help change me Amen