Advice

[Francesca]

Hey Guys,
Hope you are all doing ok. Just came on here to ask for a little advice regarding my relationship with my husband.

It seems to be that when me and my husband have a disagreement about something we never can seem to resolve via discussion or talking. So it ends up that we always end up shouting at one another. It really upsets me because it is like one never ending circle. I just am a little tired and fed up about this and am on the verge of giving up and accepting it as something that came as part of my marriage.

I was just wondering if anyone here could help me and give me advice on what I can do to stop this?

Many thanks
Francesca

 

[peeps]

Hey Francesca have you ever asked yourself "WWJD" in this situation?

you know my hubby and I have been there too . . . whenever we were just living for ourselves . . .selfish and ego enough to just be right!

not let the other one win!

just to be on top of it!

thats why our marrige went downhill . . .

WWJD means = What would Jesus do? (What would Jesus say? Where would Jesus go?)

if God intended marrige to be Holy and a commitment made out of pure love in hearts. . .then why was it so difficult and of hard work to keep it in good shape?

well because we both just lived for ourselves!

we were heading to divorce . . .because we were at the end of our ropes after a few years. . .always fighting wears you out. . gets you tired!

thats when God stepped in . . .slowly but surely He won my heart

my husband too . . .we got baptised together and rededicated our marrige under Gods hand to restart . . .asked Him to help us make it work . . .

of course we were not puppets on a string .. .it took a lot of effort to learn to deal with problems in our marrige . . .but we had Gods Word now and His promises . . .and learned every week . . .more and more we became a new married couple, new parents to our kids, are married now for 13 years and KNOW: We would have never made it to today without God in our lives

I will stop here . . .because that describes most of what you asked about . . .would love to talk more or help you along the way . . .just keep on asking sweetie God bless your seeking heart and fill you with His love and peace Greetings to hubby too

 

[Chad]

Ephesians 5:22-33

22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Matthew 7:24-28

24 “Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: 25 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock.

26 “But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: 27 and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.”

28 And so it was, when Jesus had ended these sayings, that the people were astonished at His teaching,

Luke 6:46-48

46 “But why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do the things which I say? 47 Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: 48 He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock

As you can see here Jesus Christ should be the foundation of our lives in ALL areas including marriage, business, etc. I suggest you (as anything in life, any matter) pray to GOD with your husband about this. Let the Holy Spirit intervene and take over. You both need to humble yourselves before the Lord and wait faithfully and patiently. God will make it alright.

 

[AlabasterBox]

I agree with Peeps, I was there too! God also transformed my marriage. First He changed my heart, then my hubby's. Then in Christ, our marriage was transformed. It takes a 100% commitment to both God and your hubby.

When done Gods way it is very rewarding.

The best thing for any wife to do is to pray for her husband.

Prayer changes things!

Love your sister in Christ,
AlabasterBox :girl:

:rainbow:

 

[J.c.]

I was just wondering if anyone here could help me and give me advice on what I can do to stop this?
Francesca

Dear Friend,

Before people marry a man will say about the woman he is to marry: "I love her because . . . because . . . because . . ." And she will say "I love him because . . . because . . . because . . . " And after they have been married for about 15 years. He will say, "I love her inspite of . . . inspite of . . . inspite of . . ." And she will say, "I love him inspite of . . . inspite of . . . inspite of . . ."

So which one is love? You tell me?


I wish you well.


J.C.

 

[Francesca]

Dear J.C.,
I think in reality term the answer should be " I love him inspite of"? However I guess when reading what you had written and truly thinking about it. I've always gone with the first question "I love him because ....." etc. I've never really stopped to think about the inspites off. I've always been brought to to believe that if the good times you share with somebody out weight the bad times, then there is always something worth fighting for. In reality when you put that theory into pratice on a day to day basis it is much harder then to achieve than you thought it would be to do.

Does this make sense?

Thanks for the advice, it has helped me re- think things a little better!

Love
Francesca