Am I Out Of Reach Of God's Willpower?

[Alive4Jesus]

Dear Brethren,

When I was a little boy i decided not to get married except God disagrees.

Today I have turned forty years old (I was born in 1981, please). And most people around tell me I should get married because it is not good nor safe to remain single.

In fact, I took such a decision because I saw that life in a couple isn’t somthing easy and I wanted to serve Jesus Christ and go everywhere I want without any pressure. I wanted to share the Gospel around the world. This was a very big decision and I maybe did not realize the weigh of such commitment.

I met a brother in Christ who told me that he dreamt of me. He told that there are two main problems are blocking my life: job and marriage. In fact, I’m a teacher (I recently posted a topic entitled ‘‘I HAVE BEEN WORKING AS A TEACHER FOR TEN YEARS BUT I DO NOT HAVE A SALARY’’) and he works in another state school. I told me about my decision when i was a young boy. He let me know that God did not agree but the evil kept it. I am very confused. And last year, a colleague told me she dreamt of me that I got married.

Sometimes my colleagues and chiefly my supervisor and his close friends laugh at me because of my celibacy and my single life, too.

And if I have to marry, I don’t want to lose my eternity in Jesus. I’m very shy and I never had a girlfriend. But sisters love approaching me for advice and prayers. And even in school, I feel beter with kids and so I sometimes pray with them or lonely at home. Most teachers are not interested in them with the matters they face every day.

Did God approve of my decision? I do not know yet. But I know there is an open door since I told God not to consider my decision in case it goes out of His willpower. Now I am still wondering what to do.

Here are the main Bible verses that I focus on my prayer request :

Ecclesiates 5 :1-6 ; Matthew 19 :12; 1 Corinthians 7 :6-11 ; 2 Corinthians 6 :14-18.

THANKS FOR YOUR QUESTIONS, ADVICE AND PRAYERS!

 

[Andyindauk]

Dear Brethren,

When I was a little boy i decided not to get married except God disagrees.

Today I have turned forty years old (I was born in 1981, please). And most people around tell me I should get married because it is not good nor safe to remain single.

In fact, I took such a decision because I saw that life in a couple isn’t somthing easy and I wanted to serve Jesus Christ and go everywhere I want without any pressure. I wanted to share the Gospel around the world. This was a very big decision and I maybe did not realize the weigh of such commitment.

I met a brother in Christ who told me that he dreamt of me. He told that there are two main problems are blocking my life: job and marriage. In fact, I’m a teacher (I recently posted a topic entitled ‘‘I HAVE BEEN WORKING AS A TEACHER FOR TEN YEARS BUT I DO NOT HAVE A SALARY’’) and he works in another state school. I told me about my decision when i was a young boy. He let me know that God did not agree but the evil kept it. I am very confused. And last year, a colleague told me she dreamt of me that I got married.

Sometimes my colleagues and chiefly my supervisor and his close friends laugh at me because of my celibacy and my single life, too.

And if I have to marry, I don’t want to lose my eternity in Jesus. I’m very shy and I never had a girlfriend. But sisters love approaching me for advice and prayers. And even in school, I feel beter with kids and so I sometimes pray with them or lonely at home. Most teachers are not interested in them with the matters they face every day.

Did God approve of my decision? I do not know yet. But I know there is an open door since I told God not to consider my decision in case it goes out of His willpower. Now I am still wondering what to do.

Here are the main Bible verses that I focus on my prayer request :

Ecclesiates 5 :1-6 ; Matthew 19 :12; 1 Corinthians 7 :6-11 ; 2 Corinthians 6 :14-18.

THANKS FOR YOUR QUESTIONS, ADVICE AND PRAYERS!

Hi Alive4,

The short answer to your question is no. Please on major decisions like career, life partner, celibacy - please ignore well meaning friends' advice but instead live each day open to the will and guidance of God through His Holy Spirit. Like the Children of Israel, we want signs, guidance, micacles; and we want it now. Rather wait upon God, be led by His Spirit, be happy and content with Him. If He wants you married you'll bump into someone, if not, you won't - simple as. For now concentrate on that love in your life, that true all pwerful, amazing God by focussing and following Him, and all these things shall be added unto you.

In brief, take it as it comes, let God's will prevail and relax and bask in the love of our Lord Jesus Christ. Please just revel in His love and adoration of you and don't worry. Jesus said: Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? Matthew 6:27 NKJV as one who stands at 5ft 4 inches, I can relate to this verse. Leave it to God; don't try and wrest control of your life away from Him: you're not equiped. Do you have total perfect and complete knowledge of all things? Are you able to see into the future in intricate detail? Are you in total control of literally everything? I thought not. No, just seek the will of the one who is and who loves you dearly.

God bless, keep and guide you dear brother.

 

[Alive4Jesus]

I thank you ever so much brother [B]Andyindauk[/B] and God bless you through Jesus Christ.

You sent me a very comforting message.

 

[brighthouse98]

Alive4Jesus,What do you think is the difference between feeling,and faith? Feeling is based upon the uncertain,you may be right, or wrong. Faith is based upon an assurance,meaning your action is based upon belief that this is what the Lord wants,or does not want in your life.Through our life Jesus show us how important it is to not just have faith,but also covet faith! Did I say covet?? LOL

I was also shy,but where has that got me? If I wished for a girlfriend and am to afraid,because shy really is a fear,how then can I ever attain what I believe I need,note the word need. Just a thought bro. God never gave us a spirit of fear,but rather of POWER,LOVE<and most of all a SOUND MIND!!( 2 Tim 1:7) If one looks to be led by the Lord,then one must act upon ones belief.( Rom 8:14-16) I lost when I was afraid,I won when I threw my fear out the window!

Did I make mistakes in how I thought the Lord was leading me? SURE!! SO!! I learned! The fear of failure is most believers biggest concern,but we are going to make mistakes,but the end result is what matters to me,sometimes through a mistake Jesus still came through for me! WHY?? Because he knows our heart brother!! ( 1 Sam 16:7)

Since we are always looking to be led by our Lord, then the Lord will decide what is right for us.(2 Sam 10:12) I no longer have any fear,because my life is not being led by me,but rather by my best friend!! Jesus! I hope this will do two things. 1. give you great comfort,and 2,get you tail moving in faith rather then being led by ones feeling. Blessing to you!! Stay in his will,by staying THANKFUL!!! ( 1 Thess 5:18) This has helped me greatly bro,and so I send this to you to judge for yourself.

 

[Alive4Jesus]

God bless you throuh Jesus Christ.

 

[PloughBoy]

In this day and Time, Christians are Leading other Christians into Great harm and not the world who are causing them harm. Christians are always leading The Lambs astray. What did The NEW TESTAMENT SAY to Those who are in "Christ Jesus" our LORD! It cannot get No plainer that this. Are you too ,so DULL of Hearing! What did the NEW TESTAMENT SAY?

Other Believers: Christians.
Christians seeks and lead other christians to get "DIVORCE" To get Married, Marry unbelievers, to commit Fornication, Adultery, Homosexuality, to lie, steal, cheat, all in The name of "JESUS". .......... [I am going to say this and you wrap it around your soul]'................... And remember the whole 119 "Division of Psalms" ................... For you have a "LOVE for GOD" and that love will be divide and split if you get married, .............. "Jealously will arise" ........ "others do not have a love like you have Cherish in Christ"...............and they are trying to lure you away from that type of LOVE in Christ. and they do not know it.

But the BIBLE says:

"How can a young man cleanse his way?
By taking heed according to Your word.
With my whole heart I have sought You;
Oh, let me not wander from Your commandments!
Your word I have hidden in my heart,
That I might not sin against You.
Blessed are You, O Lord!
Teach me Your statutes.
With my lips I have declared
All the judgments of Your mouth.
I have rejoiced in the way of Your testimonies,
As much as in all riches.
I will meditate on Your precepts,
And contemplate Your ways.
I will delight myself in Your statutes;
I will not forget Your word."


(! Corinthians 7)BSB
Are you committed to a wife? Do not seek to be RELEASED. Are you free of commitment? DO NOT look FOR A WIFE...... BUT if you do marry, you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. BUT those who marry will face troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.…

"I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, and his interests are divided."

And you will not have the same Full Sanctificating Anointing you are experiencing now, because your interest are divide. For many Christians have and are full with the holy spirit but not like The Sanctification and HOLINESS HE has place in your life that you are experiencing.

And remember this a whole lot of christians are Worldly and they love it! And they want you to enjoy the worldliness of what they experience.. But you are experiencing something and a level, they will never experience on earth the level of Expectations of what is to come.

 

[Hekuran]

@Alive4Jesus God will honour all that you have done in service to others. We exchanged messages a few years ago regarding your work and lack of wages. I give thanks to God for your faithfulness.

Regarding marriage, its good to stay single and it's also good to marry. Please dont be pressurised into a decision because of the words of others though. Keep your heart close to God and seek his wisdom.

Praying for you.

 

[PloughBoy]

@Alive4Jesus God will honour all that you have done in service to others. We exchanged messages a few years ago regarding your work and lack of wages. I give thanks to God for your faithfulness.

Regarding marriage, its good to stay single and it's also good to marry. Please dont be pressurised into a decision because of the words of others though. Keep your heart close to God and seek his wisdom.

Praying for you.

That is right. "and it's also good to marry." because you get a chance to have some sex" But you are going to have TROUBLE! and That is a Promise and GOD's WORD does not Lie. "it ain't worth it" Over rated. But if you do not have the "HOLY GHOST" I do understand.

(1 Corinthians 7)BSB
" But those who marry will face troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this."

Like the daughter, told her Mother I like him and want to marry him, but he is not a christian and a believer in "Jesus Christ". Her Mother replied: You like him, OK marry him anyway, When we get through with him, He will be! Between the 2 of us, He will "Speaking in Tongues"!

People and a lot christians act like women are "ANGELS" tender and kind, They more like cats than Angels. She start crying and sobbing, purring and lay her head on your should. Talking about deception! and Can Lie like you will not believe. If you can get one to tell you the TRUTH she tell you.

 

[Alive4Jesus]

(! Corinthians 7)BSB
Are you committed to a wife? Do not seek to be RELEASED. Are you free of commitment? DO NOT look FOR A WIFE...... BUT if you do marry, you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. BUT those who marry will face troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.…

"I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, and his interests are divided."
[/QUOTE]

I thank you for answering my post.

Sincerely, I need your supporth through advice as you are doing and of course prayers.

When I was a littler boy, I had dreams lie most boys of my age but later on, I started tpo declare not to get married. And the firstI read 1 Corinthians chapter 7, I was very surprised to discover that most of my thouygyts of decision were meeting what the Apostle Paul wrote in.

In fact, I would not like to get married if I was not created for marriage. If God judged better for me not to get married, i wil obey. However, i am still wondering how and why to reach what God planned for my life.

If God wills, I will write with more details.

Shalom!

 

[PloughBoy]

(! Corinthians 7)BSB
Are you committed to a wife? Do not seek to be RELEASED. Are you free of commitment? DO NOT look FOR A WIFE...... BUT if you do marry, you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. BUT those who marry will face troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.…

"I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the work of the Lord, how he can please the Lord. But the married man is concerned about the affairs of this world, how he can please his wife, and his interests are divided."

I thank you for answering my post.

Sincerely, I need your supporth through advice as you are doing and of course prayers.

When I was a littler boy, I had dreams lie most boys of my age but later on, I started tpo declare not to get married. And the firstI read 1 Corinthians chapter 7, I was very surprised to discover that most of my thouygyts of decision were meeting what the Apostle Paul wrote in.

In fact, I would not like to get married if I was not created for marriage. If God judged better for me not to get married, i wil obey. However, i am still wondering how and why to reach what God planned for my life.



Shalom!
[/QUOTE]
Answer: Devote your life to studying GODS Word, and Read The "Autobiographies' Of The "REFORMERS" "John Knox, John Hux, John Calvin, Martin Luther, John Wycliffe, Notice: i did not say study their teachings, I say read their "Biographies" by a reliable source. And just read and study your Bible in whole. Genesis to Revelation until you see the parallels of the BOOKs in your Spirit. And do not be swayed by those who try to sway you into another path. Get to know GOD, is your Goal, The GOD of THE BOOK! You might not like HIM at first but you will. Remember, many people think they know a person but the closer they get to that person the more they get to know them. And most of the time it is not like you thought.

Your dreams will be, you walking down "The Streets of JERUSALEM" in other words, "your Dreams will be sweet" You will walk the roads written in The BIBLE and not the IMAGINATIONS of Your MIND. So your dreams will enrich your memory of what is written in THE BIBLE, Line upon line, text upon text. systematically. your dreams will be the "WORD of GOD" as it is written in the BOOK!

"For HE is A REWARDER TO Those who "Diligently" seek HIM" and this type of reward will never leave you, throughout "Eternity" it will not fade away.

NASB 1977
“Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words shall not pass away.
Amplified Bible
Heaven and earth [as now known] will pass away, but My words will not pass away.
American Standard Version
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and'spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts unto God."

For this is your Goal, This is The will of GOD for YOUR LIFE! Nothing More and Nothing LESS! You go to work to fulfilled this Mission, and let GOD do the rest>
(1 Thessalonians 4)
"For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;"

Stay far away from that woman. come not near her door! She is a trap! The devil and not the demons set traps for men like you! Many Christians have no idea or have encounter "The Devil" for they are a waste of his time. The little demons can take care of them. And strong demons, But the DEVIL goes after a special group keep your self clean!

 

[Servant of God]

Dear Brethren,

When I was a little boy i decided not to get married except God disagrees.

Today I have turned forty years old (I was born in 1981, please). And most people around tell me I should get married because it is not good nor safe to remain single.

In fact, I took such a decision because I saw that life in a couple isn’t somthing easy and I wanted to serve Jesus Christ and go everywhere I want without any pressure. I wanted to share the Gospel around the world. This was a very big decision and I maybe did not realize the weigh of such commitment.

I met a brother in Christ who told me that he dreamt of me. He told that there are two main problems are blocking my life: job and marriage. In fact, I’m a teacher (I recently posted a topic entitled ‘‘I HAVE BEEN WORKING AS A TEACHER FOR TEN YEARS BUT I DO NOT HAVE A SALARY’’) and he works in another state school. I told me about my decision when i was a young boy. He let me know that God did not agree but the evil kept it. I am very confused. And last year, a colleague told me she dreamt of me that I got married.

Sometimes my colleagues and chiefly my supervisor and his close friends laugh at me because of my celibacy and my single life, too.

And if I have to marry, I don’t want to lose my eternity in Jesus. I’m very shy and I never had a girlfriend. But sisters love approaching me for advice and prayers. And even in school, I feel beter with kids and so I sometimes pray with them or lonely at home. Most teachers are not interested in them with the matters they face every day.

Did God approve of my decision? I do not know yet. But I know there is an open door since I told God not to consider my decision in case it goes out of His willpower. Now I am still wondering what to do.

Here are the main Bible verses that I focus on my prayer request :

Ecclesiates 5 :1-6 ; Matthew 19 :12; 1 Corinthians 7 :6-11 ; 2 Corinthians 6 :14-18.

THANKS FOR YOUR QUESTIONS, ADVICE AND PRAYERS!

Hello Alive4Jesus

I am in my thirties and I also made a decision not to marry. I made the decision when I was a teenager. I also have not had a boyfriend or gone on a date. I do get approached by guys. The problem is that I have a small frame, am short and look younger than my age, so I tend to attract teenage boys!

There a many reasons why I do not want to marry, but the main reason is that I do not desire to do so and cannot see myself as a wife. I also do not desire to have children.

I do not believe that we are all required to get married as Christ said in Matthew 19:12

I have told people about my decision and the initial reaction is shock and unbelief. However, I would explain my reasons and afterwards some people would understand my decision.

However, I have met people especially men, who have tried to change my mind. They would say you should get married so that you feel loved. My response would be I already feel loved by my family. Some say, what if your family dies and you are the only one left and you will be all alone. My response would be any decision that a person makes should not be based on fear. A person should marry if they have found someone they love and that person is godly. The fear of loneliness is not a good reason to get married.

Over time, my colleagues and those who I have come across have accepted my stance and some women who initially thought I was crazy decided that my reasons were logical and now they too do not see the importance of marriage.

We live a society where many women feel that if they are not married and have children, then they are not fully complete. Unfortunately marriage especially, for women is something that is not entirely within their control. It is not easy to find a life-long partner who you can spend the rest of your life with. Some men are already married, some are too young, some are ungodly, some are gay and some are in prison. So where does a woman find a husband?

I feel that my stance is liberating women and causes them to feel less stressed and depressed about not being able to find a husband.

I agree with you that sharing the Gospel is a big commitment. It is not easy to balance being married and being dedicated to the work of God. In fact, I have seen many brethren who were very zealous about spreading the Word of God who soon backslides when they got girlfriend or lost their zeal when they got married. There also very few women who are interested in spreading the Gospel or being a preacher’s wife.

With regards to the “brother in Christ” who told you that God did not agree and the sister with the strange dream, I doubt that their advice or dreams are from God. If God wanted you to be married, He would have showed you who should marry. God will not tell you to do something without providing clarity and guidance.

Ironically the people who have made the biggest deal about me not wanting to marry are those who have never married. I have never met someone who is married or divorced who thought I was crazy for not wanting to get married. Most married people I have encountered do not even ask for reasons for my decision and are supportive. Probably because they know of the everyday problems that couples go through. It is always the unmarried that hassle me about not wanting to get married.

 

[Brad Huber]

Beware of this brother who "dreams" of you being married and saying its of God. He is a false prophet, and wishes to be seen as spiritual by giving his personal advice and saying its from God. You dedicated your life to God at an early age, and its always wrong to go against God in your vows. Although God could forgive you, He would not be happy that you broke your vow to please a false prophet.