Anxiety about divorce

[All4jesus23]

Hello my name is anne and ive been married for three months to a wonderful man. We are both believers. This year while i was dating my husband it was revealed that I have relationship anxiety. Everytime I would start talking to a guy potentially to date i would have an overwhelming feeling to cut them off and would have anxiety until i did. In the past I mistook this for the holy spirits guidance. Im still conflicted about this. When i fell in love with my now husband anxiety kicked in and i had terrible panic attacks. Everyday was a nightmare. Ive seen counsilors and spoke to my pastor and they all agreed that this was a fear I had to face. Never really certain I was doing the right thing I stayed with him. He never gave me a reason to doubt him. Ive had many confirmations that I should go forth and that this was Gods will. At the same time I doubted. In faith I married him and I hoped the feelings would leave. Now it has grew larger and I have this feeling that I should leave. Im in a constant panic and im always crying. My husband knows about all my feelings and he continues to comfort me. I know the bible says not to divorce unless there has been adultry, but why do I feel so wrong? Why am I hearing voices that I wont be happy until I leave? Rashionality says this is the enemy but the "what ifs" in my brain make me wonder if this is God? Shouldnt I have peace? Thank you for reading this I could really use some chrisitan advice.

 

[Brad Huber]

Listen to this valuable truth! Not all feelings, intuitions, leadings, and spiritual voices are from the Lord. It is critical that you understand this or you will be double minded, serving many masters, most of them evil. If any of these things does not agree with sound advice from scripture, then they are a false leading, etc. Study the truths found in scripture. You will need the truths found there though-out your life, not just now. You are safe for now, start now and spend much time reading and understand scripture.

 

[Travis]

God's desire for you is to remain with the man you have already married until death do you part. Scriptures tell us this, so we don't have to wonder about it a bunch.

I think God is more than able to make the marriage work, if you are seeking to do His (God's) will, regardless of the situation.

I hope that you find freedom from the anxiety that is overwhelming you.

1 Peter 5
6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.​

Travis

 

[MariaMc]

Hi Anne! I hope you are doing well today. Your post made me think about how I used to feel before getting my food sensitivities properly diagnosed. Anxiety can be a symptom of a physical problem and while the thoughts maybe be focused on a particular topic the actually cause of the anxiety may be physical not spiritual or mental.

I would encourage you to look into and try a fairly simple elimination diet that would help to identify if what you are eating makes the anxiety worse or relieves the symptoms.

Stimulants like caffeine have anxiety as a common side effect. It is not well known that common allergens: wheat, eggs, dairy and popular food additives can also cause anxiety in sensitive individuals. Have you had changes in your lifestyle since you have been married that might have contributed to the increased anxiety?

It may not sound realistic but I have gotten to know other women since marrying that also have food sensitivities that increase their bodily anxiety. The feelings of general anxiety they have (anxiety without a cause they believe in) lessened as the learned which foods triggered those reactions.

A big life change like marriage or dating with an eye towards marriage as you described can cause anxiety in anyone but since the anxiety is ongoing and you have addressed the issue in counseling I would really consider looking at other physical causes for anxiety and eliminating as many of those as possible.

Realizing there is help for anxiety and recognizing that you and your husband are not to blame for the anxiety are good first steps. You are doing good to seek help for it. Good for you!

God has a good plan for your future and while it sounds like anxiety has been very hard on you God is able to bring good out of your experience.

 

[All4jesus23]

Thank you everyone for your replies! Theyve really helped me! @MariaMc i have took caffiene out of my diet and it helps alot. However, I am struggling with an eating disorder. My family and my cousilor believe me anxiety will get better when I get better. Its just that all these feelings and panic come from my belief about my relationship. I just wish I can just feel okay again. Thank you for confirming that I need help with my eating. I know that my low self esteem is the root of this. Its funny how marriage has shown me how much healing that I need. Please continue to remember me in your prayers. I appreciate it.