Anxiety

[rizen1]

This Friday ( 23rd ) is my b'day and is going to be the first b'day ,I'll spend without my close friend of 5yrs. His b'day is on 25th. It's been 9mths since we've spoken on the phone, our last conversation was hurtful.

I've been doing good, spent my time in pray and asking God to remove all unforgiveness I may have for him. And that he to will find it in his heart to forgive me.
Well as our b'day approaches my anxiety is high. I really miss our friendship and our tuesday night dinner dates ( as friends ).

He's also a Christian, but we didn't handle the situation very well, making it hard for either one to really come out and apologize. I guess we both know we're sorry. ( So I tell myself )

I'm tempted to call, but I'm afraid of the outcome, what should I do
I'm not trying to get the friendship back ( I really hope happens ) but I want to apologize for my words and actions.

We're both at fault ...

What can I do....
Would it be okay to drop a note , call.....well we do email each other ( mostly inspirational forwards ) and that's not personal.

My anxiety this past week has been high,
I've been trying to get myself at a higher spiritual level with God, but this situation lingers and I feel as though I'm not right with God. I'm not at peace.

 

[stephen]

Nothing ventured....nothing gained.......Give him a call and say God Bless You.

As your birthdau draws near you have a reason.

God Bless You

 

[ladylovesJesus]

The Bible says do not be anxious.

Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you. Matt.6.33.

Phil.4.4
4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Why not send him an ecard for his birthday. That is personal and may open up a way for communication.

You could send an email apologising and telling him you have forgiven him too.

Ask the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you in your decisions. That is the best way forward.

God bless :rainbow: :rose:

 

[rizen1]

thankx

Thank you both for the great advice and encouragement...

I will take this to my Father in prayer....

 

[Faithful Son]

I'm not trying to get the friendship back ( I really hope happens ) but I want to apologize for my words and actions.

We're both at fault ...

What can I do....

I decided to quote your post in this way sister rizen1. I think you need prayer with Father, for sure. Ask Him to help you set your mind and priorities straight, because it's not.

You don't want the friendship back? But yet you hope for it.

You both are at fault, so you are still seeing the things which he did wrong.

And what can you do?

Forgiveness is an act, a willful act. It is needed and required and there are no limits to forgiveness, just like you know.

You both are indeed at fault and you can't live in this void, separated and hidden from each other. Do you know that Lord Jesus was in hiding when He was on earth?

Matthew 12:14-16
14But the Pharisees went out and conspired against Him, as to how they might destroy Him.

15But Jesus, aware of this, withdrew from there. Many followed Him, and He healed them all,

16and warned them not to tell who He was.


We are entitled and it is our full right to hide and withdraw from the grasp of our enemies, but we "do not" hide from our friends and fellow brethren.

Make peace, as you should, like you should. Seeing your long lost friend personally would be the best action to take. Go see him on his birthday and give him a huge hug and a kiss on the forehead!

Don't worry about what to do, but ask Father to strengthen you.

God bless
Much love
teraside

 

[sunshine307]

My anxiety this past week has been high,
I've been trying to get myself at a higher spiritual level with God, but this situation lingers and I feel as though I'm not right with God. I'm not at peace.

hi rizen1, Until you sort this matter out you will not be able to move on in God. It doesn't matter how your friend reacts to you - as long as you do the right thing. Do the right thing for yourself and ask your friend for forgiveness and forgive him for what he has done to you. Jesus tells us that unless we forgive others He will not forgive us. This then leaves the Holy Spirit room to work in and through us again.

Matthew 6:14 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you."

John 20:23 "If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.”

 

[rizen1]

I have no excuse......

Teraside.... you are right about my priorities for I have allowed this to effect my worship and daily bible readings.

As for my statement about wanting the friendship....well it's very complicated .

My first intentions was to explained to you what I meant , by not wanting it yet hoping for it but....... I've search and only came up with excuses beginning with " I think "

Which is not good

Proverbs 20:24
"A man's steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand his own way"


I think I've been doing this my own way, instead of asking God to Direct me.
That would explain my anxiety and confusion....

sunshine307, yes I do need to sort this with God's guidance and the removal of all fear ........



Everyone has been encouraging and I thank you all....

 

[rizen1]

Praise God,.....

_______Friday on my b'day I received an email from my friend:shock: , well wishes, not an ecard or forward but his own words. I was brought to tears and replied with a poem I wrote. The message was sent 8am, which means it was the first thing he did when he got to work. Next to God blessing me with life and providing me with a great family, his well wishes was all I wanted for my b'day.

_______ My friends spent the weekend at my house, so while we were out Saturday night my mind was wrestling on calling him, I waited for 12am( sunday morning ) and called, we spoke he was driving so I didn't stay to long. He was happy to hear from me and concern about how I was doing. And grateful that I called him on his b'day.

________Thank you guys....without your advice
I'd probably be crying right now about not talking to him. I was also able to enjoy my b'day weekend .....

God is Good.......
Doors have opened for a reunion:boy_hug: :girl_hug:

 

[ladylovesJesus]

That is wonderful news dear sister. I am so glad to hear that he made the first move too. It proves he still cares about you too.

I am glad you had a good birthday as well and have a good weekend.

God is indeed good all the time and His timing is perfect.

God bless :rainbow: :rose: