Between a rock and a hard place

[Leo_pard_]

Hi everyone. I don't know what it is what I'm trying to say. But I'm in a real bind here. Yesterday my wife told me that she wants a divorce and left me last November. Since then I've been in a treatment program with the Salvation Army where I've been learning and growing spirituality. Before coming here I had an alcohol problem and as a result of that I was really a bad husband. I didn't physically abuse my wife or anything of that matter but I was not always telling the truth. Before the corona virus hit I would see her every so often and we would talk about getting back together, but since then she's been going back and forth about it and I don't know what to do. I know it feels hard and feel like I deserve this and am willing to turn my life around as a result. Since then I've completely closed down my social media (Facebook, Instagram) because I don't want to deal with the burden of her messaging me anymore. She says that she doesn't want to talk to me until she contacts me and I feel like I'm running away. I love my wife but I feel like an ex-convit that has found Jesus that no one believes. I've been trying to pray and remain strong but at the same time I know that God loves us/me and don't want to shut him out because of this. Right now I'm trying to take the first steps to actually enroll into a bible college because it's something that I've been wanting to do for a long time now, but I fear that I'm going to get to a point where I might begin struggling with my faith.

 

[Dave M]

but I fear that I'm going to get to a point where I might begin struggling with my faith.

I see that a lot people who struggle with there faith is one main reason is they do not practice the spiritual disciplines IMO. The bible tells us to constantly renew our mind, when you study Great men of God they all seem to have some things in common. TO me these spiritual diciplines if practiced will help keep you strong in the faith, the fastest way to start struggling in your faith is to deliberately sin IMO

Spiritual disciplines IMO

1. Read the word of God every day straight from the bible. I think a minimum is 1 hr a day, maybe work you way up to that, or maybe your way past that?

2. Prayer time 3 times a day

3. fasting 1 time at least a week

3. Corporate gathering with other believers to worship

4. serving others in need

5. Fellow-ship with other BA people, the people you hang around has a very big influence on you, weather you realize it or not. The tv shows you watch,, the news you listen to.



If your struggling in sin (as we all have) you have to break it, at all cost,, no matter what,,, sin is what causes separation from God,,,when I say struggling I am talking about willing habitual sin......
you have no power over sin unless you are BA, yet its your responsibility to call out to Jesus and seek his power to overthrow the sin in your life, he will do it for you, he will take that desire from you to drink and make you hate drinking, but it may take a long time or a short time,,,,,,,,,,, you need to be praying on you face,,, fasting, asking other to pray for you... it has to be the most important thing to you to brake any habitual sin in your life..........


God bless

 

[Trevor]

Hi everyone. I don't know what it is what I'm trying to say. But I'm in a real bind here. Yesterday my wife told me that she wants a divorce and left me last November. Since then I've been in a treatment program with the Salvation Army where I've been learning and growing spirituality. Before coming here I had an alcohol problem and as a result of that I was really a bad husband. I didn't physically abuse my wife or anything of that matter but I was not always telling the truth. Before the corona virus hit I would see her every so often and we would talk about getting back together, but since then she's been going back and forth about it and I don't know what to do. I know it feels hard and feel like I deserve this and am willing to turn my life around as a result. Since then I've completely closed down my social media (Facebook, Instagram) because I don't want to deal with the burden of her messaging me anymore. She says that she doesn't want to talk to me until she contacts me and I feel like I'm running away. I love my wife but I feel like an ex-convit that has found Jesus that no one believes. I've been trying to pray and remain strong but at the same time I know that God loves us/me and don't want to shut him out because of this. Right now I'm trying to take the first steps to actually enroll into a bible college because it's something that I've been wanting to do for a long time now, but I fear that I'm going to get to a point where I might begin struggling with my faith.

Hi Leo-pard, I've been there and can empathise, You say you love your wife and the two of you have been discussing getting back together. was this predominantly on your part or was it mutual? If the later, there is hope. Sometimes speaking face to face can be a problem, So maybe you could write a letter, explaining how you are aware of your failings and understand how hard it must have been for her, and how you are working on them. Have you been delivered from the bondage of alcohol? if so you could mention that in your letter, or tell her you're at least facing the problem. you could remind her of the good times that you shared, the intimacies, and how you miss them. Anyway that's the gist. And seek the Lord in Prayer, nothing can happen without his Grace. bless you.

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi everyone. I don't know what it is what I'm trying to say. But I'm in a real bind here. Yesterday my wife told me that she wants a divorce and left me last November. Since then I've been in a treatment program with the Salvation Army where I've been learning and growing spirituality. Before coming here I had an alcohol problem and as a result of that I was really a bad husband. I didn't physically abuse my wife or anything of that matter but I was not always telling the truth. Before the corona virus hit I would see her every so often and we would talk about getting back together, but since then she's been going back and forth about it and I don't know what to do. I know it feels hard and feel like I deserve this and am willing to turn my life around as a result. Since then I've completely closed down my social media (Facebook, Instagram) because I don't want to deal with the burden of her messaging me anymore. She says that she doesn't want to talk to me until she contacts me and I feel like I'm running away. I love my wife but I feel like an ex-convit that has found Jesus that no one believes. I've been trying to pray and remain strong but at the same time I know that God loves us/me and don't want to shut him out because of this. Right now I'm trying to take the first steps to actually enroll into a bible college because it's something that I've been wanting to do for a long time now, but I fear that I'm going to get to a point where I might begin struggling with my faith.

Hi Leo,

No criticism at all mate but your post is a little bit jumbled, but I'm guessing that's because your head's all over the place at the moment. You say you were muting the prospect of rekindling your marriage which I'm sure would be lovely but then you closed down all your social media accounts because you don't want the burden of her messaging you? Does that mean that one or both of you no longer wants that?

If you'll clarify where you're both at and want to go maybe we can help: definitely we can pray for you.

Take care bro and God bless you,

Love Andy

 

[FullArmorofGod]

Stay off the youtube mgtow channels lol.

Get in contact with friends and family. Speak to your priest or pastor at your church. Busy yourself. Go for a walk, a run, home exercise, start a tinder, bumble, hinge, CMB, and a few other apps. Learn cold approach and meet other women.

I believe in God but I don't like the fact that many churches push marriage onto men. They market it to man up. Its not like my grandma and grandfather. He married her at 18. Not after riding the carousel and running through countless other men. A terrifying figure is 80% of divorce initiated by women pending your state. And if you follow the trail of money, its telling.

I am fine with marriage but between man, woman and God not the state. One of the ruthless elements of dating is seeing the selfishness in people and the divorce courts are as every bit man hating as you heard.

Pray brother. Busy yourself but get a lawyer. Document everything. Until the laws change, i have no interest in the business arrangement of modern marriage, high body count, and free money upon checking out. No dice.

I am a god fearing man but I am no sucker. One of the more interesting experiences is seeing girls in. My teens and early twenties not wanting to be serious yet, late twenties i need to man up now. I'm thirty and i don't think there's ever been a better time to be a bachelor.

The difficulties is the family and children life. The reality is that the education system is telling girls to chase career and wait to have a family. The culture promotes promiscuity and sex and the city. All the above virtually guarantee divorce.

I am not sure how to bridge the gap nor undo what I have seen and know. The amount of Internet porn married men consume is unreal. I don't get it.