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[mackem lady]

I am not a very good person> I have not led a good life. I have done bad things and have known i am doing them although I am a Christian.
I have broken up marriages and families by sleeping around. I am troubled by lust and fantasy.
I want to change and go back on a good path.

ML

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings mackem lady,


I am reminded of Jesus and what He once said to a lady, years ago.....


And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto Him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,
They say unto Him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?

This they said, tempting Him, that they might have to accuse Him.

But Jesus stooped down, and with His finger wrote on the ground, as though He heard them not.

So when they continued asking Him, He lifted up Himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

And again He stooped down, and wrote on the ground.

And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.

When Jesus had lifted up Himself, and saw none but the woman, He said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?

She said, No man, Lord.

And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
John 8:3-11



Bless you ....><>



Br. Bear



John 8:12 Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.

 

[mackem lady]

I felt really judged by the first reply and cried and cried. The second made me feel better but i still sin. I seem to be a slave to sin. How do i fight my body and its needs. Go and sin no more but I always do.
How do people do this?

 

[Br. Bear]

Dear mackem lady,

I pray you do not feel judged.... no... far from it.

Sin is a pest. It niggles away at us constantly... and will wear us down if we are in it's power, for surely it's wages are death... and torment while we still live..... BUT.... and I repeat, BUT we have an advocate, Jesus Christ the Lord, who will deliver us from it's power.

Can I ask, do you know Jesus?

Bless you ....><>


Br. Bear

 

[Giggles4God]

Now, I am going to try to say what I need to in love. Mackem lady, it sounds like you are already beating yourself up over this so I will try to refrain from that.

I see some differences in our lives. We both profess to be Christians. We both sin, but our lifestyles are different. I also struggle with lust at times and I rebuke it when even the smallest inkling comes into my head.

Crying isn't a back thing...it purifies, cleanses, etc. Let yourself cry over the things that have occurred. And yes, you will need to repent. Ask God to wipe you clean. See, you are going around with your sins still controlling and manipulating you. You need Jesus' blood to cleanse you and His love and power to keep you far from those things that make you live in a sinful lifestyle.

I do believe Brother Bear spoke of the woman caught in adultery, but I want to talk about the woman who came to Jesus at the Pharisee's house. She washed Jesus' feet. All those there knew who and what she was, but Jesus saw something different.

Don't let me or anyone else tell you who you are in Jesus. Sometimes we need to hear the truth so that it can change our lives. If I have offended or hurt you, I didn't mean to do that. I just know that Jesus is the answer to this and all other things that are going on in our lives.

Pray to Him. Seek His face. Cry. Let His Presence wrap you in His love. Don't let satan walk all over you. Tell him to get lost! Read about when Jesus was tempted in the desert. Read how He spoke to satan. What Jesus said there is to help us, to show us how to battle satan with the Word of God.

*reaches out hand* I would like to be a friend to you. Someone who will listen and pray for you.

Blessings sister and I do hope that I have not hurt you in anyway.

G4G (Jen)

 

[mackem lady]

thank you for these replies. Apart from the first which was much too long and intense and judged me, the others I will think about. I am trying to pray even on this forum for people.

How Giggles4God do you nip lust in the bud so easily. I struggle with attraction and fantasy and saying no.

ML

 

[BrokenWings]

I hung on every word of the first reply and I know it made good changes in my heart and brought me closer to the Lord. The scripture in it was sound and true and really hit home for me. Thank you so much for sharing it. I am passing it along to others.

Blessings,
BrokenWings

 

[Giggles4God]

Mackem lady,

I do have some hard times, but IF I catch it soon enough, I just tell satan where he is going and how small he is and step on him a bit Then, I praise Jesus for all he does and the lustful thoughts leave.

Of course, being married helps, too. I just think about my husband

Hope that helps some.

Blessings,
G4G (Jen)

 

[mackem lady]

thank you.
I didnt mean to be rude about 1st post. It just condemmned me.
I feel disgusting dirty and rotten as a person. I will think about all that is said.
thank you again

ML

 

[BrokenWings]

thank you.
It just condemmned me.
I feel disgusting dirty and rotten as a person.

I think that is how the Holy Spirit began work on me when I first turned my life over to Jesus.

The first thing I began to notice is that I became disgusted by the sin in my life - how I talked, how I acted. It became putrid to me. Then I began to change it.

That's a good sign that the Lord is working in your heart. Go with that feeling and turn from the actions that disgust you about your old self.

And when thoughts creep in - and they WILL - that are sinful, I step back and say "I rebuke this thought in the name of Jesus". And I CHOOSE to turn my attention elsewhere instead of going ahead and wallowing in that sinful thought, though wallowing in it may be emotionally enjoyable in my flesh.

When I noticed a good looking stranger, I rebuked the thought and stopped LOOKING at the attractive person. I'm married. I made a vow. I made a decision and I'm standing by that decision no matter how tempting something else might look.

Seeing someone who is attractive to you is a natural thing and isn't wrong. But when you choose to KEEP looking, add sinful thoughts, and revel in those sinful thoughts and imaginings, or worse - ACT on them, that's when you have sinned.

It begins in your thought life.

Choose to tell your SELF no. It's about self control. It's about making a decision and standing by it. It is about being faithful to your Lord and Savior and doing what is honorable in His sight. He is your Heavenly husband and wants your faithfulness. And that is also being faithful to yourself. You are hurt terribly in your heart when you do these things.

Your struggle is between your flesh and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit whispers to your heart "No, this will hurt you." Your flesh screams "YES! This looks like a great time!"

You must choose.

It IS hard to refuse your flesh what it wants at first. But you'll find the rewards well worth it when you begin to feel better about yourself.

You are going to have a GREAT testimony one day about how the Lord turned your life around and made you into something YOU respect. Listen to the whisper of the Holy Spirit and take the first baby step of telling some random sinful thought that comes up "NO! I rebuke you in the Holy name of Jesus Christ. I'm a child of God! Get away from me! And DON'T come back!"

Keep on studying the Word. That will grow your faith stronger and your love for the Lord deeper.

You are not condemned. You are loved. Reach up to your Heavenly Father and cry out for help, and for the strength to say no, and for a Godly warm hug when you are hurting.

I get so much comfort and peace from picturing Him giving me a loving hug when my heart is broken.

Blessings,
BrokenWings

 

[peeps]

hey mackem Lady

im not wondering where your heading at the moment. . im wondering where you are coming from?

not your country. . .but your history, your family, your childhood, teenyears, growing up to be a lady . .. .part of this world and where is your church/christian background coming from?

How old are you and if your young: Where are your friends, your fam, your parents?
If your grown up: What happened that you feel so unloved, where is this hole coming from your trying to fill with quick moments where you know they dont last but destroy you and others in the future?

lots of questions on my mind when i read you . .. I dont know if your willing to share some. . .but sometimes it helps to talk about things . . .even if they seem unimportant. . .

Lots of love and Gods blessings for your heart your way, peeps

 

[mackem lady]

ok thank you. I am 41 from England. I gave my heart to God a long time ago but my life has not been very good. I have tried.
I seem to weaken around men and needing a man to care for me which often leads to going too far (sex) then I feel guilty.
I looked at this site for a long time and felt the need to change and to pray more.
I feel so dirty and disgusted with me.
thank you

ML

 

[Giggles4God]

I am married and I have learned that I don't really rely on my husband because he can let me down. He is after all human (though he says he is an alien in a strange land...Heaven being his home). I have learned that I have to remind myself that I DO NOT depend on my husband for my needs...physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc...BUT I DO depend on Jesus for them.

You might be asking...why then did you get married? So that I wouldn't 'burn' as it says in the Bible. I love my husband, BUT we both know that our relationship with each other is second to our personal relationships with Jesus.

I think a big part of the problem might be that you are 'burning' and hmmm well having sex with these men without even thinking about stepping back and seeing if they are marriage material.

I remember in college a professor coming to our floor to talk about pre-martial sex. I went to a Mennonite college (which is SO liberal now it is scary!). She was a gym teacher and she talked about if we have pre-martial sex with guys...when we marry not only would we be marrying the guy we wanted to, but also those other guys, too, because we gave ourselves to them.

And yes, Jesus CAN and WILL wash the sin away, but just think about what you are doing...thinking, etc. BEFORE you DO anything. Ask God to help you. Draw close to God and He will draw close to you. The key to that verse...is that WE DRAW CLOSE FIRST!

I hope some of this helped.

G4G (Jen)

 

[peeps]

I looked at this site for a long time and felt the need to change and to pray more.
I feel so dirty and disgusted with me.
thank you

ML

dear mackem lady

none of us is better than you are, you dont have to feel bad being here feeling dirty and yucky, Jesus sees your heart, God is Holy, He cant stand sin, but He is the first one opening His arms for you welcoming you here among us sinners . . .

This is the point where you CAN come clean, where you CAN sit at your screen and let loose of all your feelings, your worrys, your lonesome feelings, your desire, your low self-esteem you need to feed with quickies from men who dont love you but use you. . .give Jesus the CHANCE to fix this . . .

Give God your life again!

Ask Jesus for forgiveness and He WILL forgive you, Decide NOT to sin again and once you feel getting weak, pray for help and turn away from sinful situations, come here and visit us and write us and slowly but surely you will see progress. . .

But the only one who can do something about all this is YOU!

You have to decide!

You have to tell God whats up!

You have to turn away from sin!

and you have to come and join us here for different solution then desiring quick physical love against a life in peace in your heart

We are here for you no matter when, there is ALWAYS someone here for you . . .Im very sure of that! And your NEVER a burden or too much for us . . .thats the devil lying to you. . .

And satan knows your biggest problem mackemlady. . .He wont let go of tempting you . .he will keep trying and showing you men . ..

The point is:

You have to learn to say NO to the situation, cause you know Jesus is there by your side to help you through this problem!

Turn to Jesus not to temptation, you will see how little the problem gets when you just trust the SON OF OUR ALMIGHTY FATHER IN HEAVEN!

God I pray you follow mackemlady*s footsteps and help her through the next attack and temptation she WILL receive, in Jesus name I pray AMEN!

 

[mackem lady]

thanks for the replies. very helpful and I am trying hard.
I think my probs are because I need to be wanted and loved. But I look for the wrong sort of love, lust instead. Here I read and feel a diffrent type of love, I could perhaps make here feel more like a home and learn from all you good people. I feel ugly and bad.:coocoo:
Something needs to change.
I get nothing from my life just pleasure that goes in an instant and usually ends in tears. Here I feel people are happy and have something.
I will read more and more.
Help welcome.
ML

 

[peeps]

hey mackem lady :romantic:

good to see you online here daily . . .that encourages me to look for you and to see how your doing. . .

Where did you start your thinking procedure, where did this lead you already, your starting to wish for change in your life and your calling out for help thats a start!

Give yourself time . . .time to change. . .how long have you been in the habit of wanting to be loved? All your life? All 41 years?

Maybe you will need half of your time being in this habit to overcome the problem, see it realistic!

So dont think you have to rush . . .continue a new lifestyle, continue coming back and hearing other options, continue asking God for guidance and help in your life, continue wanting to live in peace with Jesus in your heart :heart:

If I ever catch you online we might be able to meet in the chatroom as well, so long we will have to use this forum, where everyone is glad to help out with love and open hands :hands:

So. . .How is your day?

Love, peeps :heart2:

 

[Giggles4God]

Philippians 4

1 Therefore, my brethren dearly beloved and longed for, my joy and crown, so stand fast in the Lord, my dearly beloved.

2 I beseech Euodias, and beseech Syntyche, that they be of the same mind in the Lord.

3 And I intreat thee also, true yokefellow, help those women which laboured with me in the gospel, with Clement also, and with other my fellowlabourers, whose names are in the book of life.

4 Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice.

5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.

6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

10 But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly, that now at the last your care of me hath flourished again; wherein ye were also careful, but ye lacked opportunity.

11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.

12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.

13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

14 Notwithstanding ye have well done, that ye did communicate with my affliction.

15 Now ye Philippians know also, that in the beginning of the gospel, when I departed from Macedonia, no church communicated with me as concerning giving and receiving, but ye only.

16 For even in Thessalonica ye sent once and again unto my necessity.

17 Not because I desire a gift: but I desire fruit that may abound to your account.

18 But I have all, and abound: I am full, having received of Epaphroditus the things which were sent from you, an odour of a sweet smell, a sacrifice acceptable, wellpleasing to God.

19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

20 Now unto God and our Father be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

21 Salute every saint in Christ Jesus. The brethren which are with me greet you.

22 All the saints salute you, chiefly they that are of Caesar's household.

23 The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen.



The bold part is the main reason I posted this chapter! Once you, mackem lady, learned though your sins may be as scarlet, Jesus can make them white as snow. He isn't shaking his head and pointing a finger at you. More likely, he is reaching out his hand. God is a loving judge. He will judge us righteously. We have an advocate in Jesus. That is why Jesus died for us...only the pure, sinless blood of one so holy and righteous could do that.

Again, I'll mention this. Don't let satan tell you lies. If Jesus is Lord and Savior of your life, you DON'T have to take anything from satan. My pastor says something like...'I'm not interested in the status of a fallen angel (meaning satan).' Who cares what happens to satan :-S Satan lost his chance at anything the day he choose to be prideful and want to be higher than God. So, don't give him an inch...or even a centimeter!

I love the verses I put in bold. Verse 8 speaks of thinking of things pure, etc...I think that will help you. Focus on something other than your physical needs...Jesus can take that away for you. And no, I'm not saying having physical needs are wrong...it is wrong to lust though. Jesus said, just looks at someone with lust in your heart is adultery!

I really think what might help is to spend some quality time with God...no distractions. Turn the phone off...TV off...computer off...and get into a quiet place to pray. Talk to God. Let Him talk to You. And I'm not saying to do this for a certain amount of time...more than 10 minutes though :wink:

blessings to you!

G4G (Jen)

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

I think my probs are because I need to be wanted and loved. But I look for the wrong sort of love, lust instead.

ehem...:shade:God bless you ML. When found the love of God in You, you will come to find out, He's more than enough for You..

Here I read and feel a different type of love, I could perhaps make here feel more like a home and learn from all you good people. Here I feel people are happy and have something.
I will read more and more.
Help welcome.

...one more smile here... It's been Jesus.. and the love of God.. Yea.. He is the one we are having here so with the sweet fellowship of the Holy Spirit.. And your right, TJ could also be a home too.. A Spirit-filled site. Amen.. To God be the Glory...


Welcome again sister.


Sister in Christ,


Reymielin

 

[seekingchrist]

Dear sister,
Keep things in perspective. There is nothing wrong with struggling. It’s when we quit struggling and give in that there is a problem. We all suffer temptation. It's what you do with the temptation when it arrives.Even Jesus himself suffered temptation in his life on earth. It is our attitude towards the problem that makes the problem bigger and bigger. Do not always keep thinking that you are dirty and stuff (I can see you do this a lot). A small stone when seen from far is small but when you bring it closer and closer to your eyes it gets bigger and bigger, but it is in reality very small. So stop worrying about your problems, do not magnify it and take an initiative.
Discipline and bring your body under control by daily exercise. Wear your body out through hard work and physical exertion so it won't be continually bored looking for something, or someone, to do. The most important thing is you should avoid loneliness. An empty mind is always a devils workshop. Keep your self busy. My suggestion would be spend time in this site, make frenz here.
When you are actively engaged in meaningful work, your mind is less likely to wander and be distracted with meaningless lusts. Avoid flirtatious behavior and people. Verbalize your case and commitment to become whole and live free of sexual enticement and addictions.
Seek a man of noble character.
Life is wonderful when we live it in a balanced fashion.
God bless you sister.
Remember you are not the only person having this problem most of the people have the same problem and have overcome too.
Spend time in this site, it is a blessing for me.

God bless you
Prem

 

[mackem lady]

theres many meassages and some private mesages. Thank you.
Yes I will keep visiting this site. I see people who have something good. Lust does not last.
Yes peeps 41 years of needing to be wanted sad eh.
I have never felt anything that stays or lasts. I want to know more about how God is really real in lives and hapiness he brings.
Men have used me and I have used them and I always end up crying but keep going back for more.
I am so pleased to be her on this site. A little family told me about it and said its where I could learn more. They are going through very very bad suffering but always singing and calm all cos of God. I am really pleased I did. Thank you everyone here. Please tell me more about what to do.

ML