Confused...any advice welcome!

[clairebear]

Hi Everyone,
I apologise now for the length of this post but I could do with some advice because I'm a little confused. My boyfriend and I have been together for several months and whilst everything is good between us, I am a little worried because he hasn't told his church about me. I am a non christian and I understand why he has not told them, as two friends of ours (one of which is a Christian and the other not) have had a lot of trouble from the church. It resulted in him leaving the church and I am worried that if my boyfriend tells them, we will have to go through the same ordeal and it may result in a similar outcome.

I know that his relationship with his church and with God means a lot to him and I do not want to jepodise it, however I feel that he is being dishonest by not telling them. I am interested to know what people feel about this and whether you agree that he should be honest even if it puts strain on our relationship. I feel we are strong enough to get through it but, as his church is his place of sanctuary, I don't want to cause him hassle there.

One thing I can not understand is that Jesus teaches love and yet the Christians from his church have tried so hard to break my friends up. I know the line about being unequally yoked with unbelievers but does this truely mean that we (and them) shouldn't be together? I would be interested to know if people believe that being with me will harm his relationship with God because that is the last thing that I would want to do. I am confused as to how our relationship is supposed to be bad as my questioning him about God has caused his faith to be stronger and has also made me more aware of God and the closest I have ever been in my life to believing. Surely this is a good thing??

Any thoughts and comments would be welcome as writing this has made me more confused!!
Thank you in advance,
Claire

 

[Chad]

Since you are not saved, I would be more concerned about yourself now instead of your boyfriend.

Please check out these sticky threads here:
Get Saved Now! - Talk Jesus

and here...
Evidence, Prophecy, Facts - Talk Jesus

Learn about Jesus/GOD and give your heart to Him. GOD will guide you both from there in your relationship.

I can tell you now that GOD does not approve of a believer and unbeliever being together in marriage.

2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

 

[ephesians4_23]

It is true that God does not want us unequally yoked. But He does have good reason. He doesn't say it just to make life difficult. He actually says it because a life between an unbeliever and a believer is made more difficult by being married. You and your boyfriend are not on the same path right now. Your focus is not his focus.
That doesn't mean that it can't change, though. One day you may have enough of your questions answered that you decide to trust in Jesus. I hope that day is soon.
I want to apologize on behalf of God's kingdom for the experiences you have found at your boyfriend's church. We are still very imperfect people and sometimes we act that way.
Feel free to post any questions you have about Jesus or the Bible on here. Not everything can be answered, but so many things can be.
God bless

 

[SpiritLedEd]

2 Corinthians 6:14[/URL][/B]
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

The study notes in my Bible say that Paul wrote this message to instruct the Corinthian church to not make any connection with the false teachers who were among them spreading heresy. I doubt that he ever intended it as counselling for boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife relationships.

SLE