Laurlaur99
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I never thought I'd have this problem because I've never been interested in someone who doesn't share the same faith as me— not only if someone isn't a Christian, but also someone's relationship with God. I've met many people who are Christians, but there isn't any discussion or connection about God with them... to them it seems to be more so religion.
I know of the equally yoked passage in 2 Corinthians. I did not remember that passage, but I always maintained that I couldn't see myself with someone who didn't believe in what I believe because there wouldnt be a connection. I met this wonderful guy online and we talked for awhile. There are multiple problems in what happened. 1) We both assumed we are around the same age, later we found out we're 12 years apart, but both legal (e.g. neither of us are underage). 2) I found out although he comes from a Christian home, he is NOT Christian. 3) We probably have talked more than other couples if they were in person. We've cried together and talked for hours at a time. There have been a couple of times we stayed up all night talking about ancient ruins, my belief in God and etc. I'd say we are very close and both love each other deeply. Perhaps based on my own wickedness, or I was truly blind, I did not feel conviction about pursuing him.
In every way besides religion and age, he matches me completely. Obviously, God is the most important. From the beginning of liking him, I laid down that if anything were to continue, my faith will not be compromised. I laid out what I want in a relationship and what I will not put up with. We've discussed differing beliefs – of course some of his contradict the bible, but the worst one is that he doesn't believe in Jesus. I told him I do not believe I could marry him if he wasn't Christian and I'd like to try with him because I care about him, but there would definitely be a day I'd want him to read the Bible with me and seek God with all his heart. I explained that I don't want him to just be a "Christian," but a follower of Christ. He seems to understand this which is shocking to me...
He seems open to God, he has made the connection that my faith, as well as protestants in general, is about a relationship with God, not religion. I find this interesting because I haven't heard many agnostic people make that connection. He has agreed to look into Christianity with me, but of course has made no promises. I also have said I wouldn't force him as that would be pointless— it has to be from his heart.
The other problem is that he has struggled with depression. Truly, I believe what he has struggled with is 0 hope and meaningless. He has recognized that, he has recognized that following Jesus would make the world better and that he isn't as loving as he needs to be.
I have been an encouragement in his life, I have been a friend that others are not willing to be. He has no other Christian influence in his life except his parents (that seem to follow rules moreso, and aren even doing that...). I first started really talking to him because he was struggling and I told him about God's promises, who we are in God and etc. I know it is God and not me, but I believe God has used to me to show him that there is hope. To show him that there is even joy in sadness. He does not completely understand what I tell him, but he told me he can see it's not normal.
He agrees that my faith has made me who I am and that any good in me he sees if from God (he believes that the ideology has helped me and that I feel something, he just isnt sure it's true).
A Christian friend shared with me 2 Corinthians 6:14. I have been praying for this man and us since the beginning and even after my friend shared this verse with me I did not think that it meant it was a sin. My sister has told me she thinks it is and I look up to her. This has led me to wanting to seek God harder— I know emotion can get into the way of things and cloud judgement. I pray daily that God opens and closes the doors that need to be. I pray for wisdom and for his salvation — regardless of our relationship.
I've felt so many doubts about our relationship because I'm unsure if I'm doing the right thing and following God. I told him these doubts and he said he would stay by my side and support me and to take all the time I needed to think about it and pray. However, I told him I didnt know if I could be with him and that I doubt us and it hurt him. The next day he stayed in bed until 6 PM and sounded depressed.
I do not want to be his God, I do not want to make him sad. I want to follow God. I know God is the one who speaks to our hearts, but I know he also uses people so I don't want to miss an opportunity. I believe the best choice is to be in the word and pray, which I have been doing, but right now he and I are trying to think about what's happening.
Until I hear from God, do you guys think I should cut off communication from him? Is it okay to pray and still be with him? I will not marry him if he does not become Christian. Am I only fooling myself?
As always, please pray for me. I do not want to follow man or my own heart, but God. Pray God opens my eyes and speaks to me. Pray that I do the right thing, that I have strength. Pray for his salvation and that the little light I maybe gave to him I'm not now stomping out that light (I feel like I am now).
Pray my eyes are open and I don't look for what my itching ears want.
I know of the equally yoked passage in 2 Corinthians. I did not remember that passage, but I always maintained that I couldn't see myself with someone who didn't believe in what I believe because there wouldnt be a connection. I met this wonderful guy online and we talked for awhile. There are multiple problems in what happened. 1) We both assumed we are around the same age, later we found out we're 12 years apart, but both legal (e.g. neither of us are underage). 2) I found out although he comes from a Christian home, he is NOT Christian. 3) We probably have talked more than other couples if they were in person. We've cried together and talked for hours at a time. There have been a couple of times we stayed up all night talking about ancient ruins, my belief in God and etc. I'd say we are very close and both love each other deeply. Perhaps based on my own wickedness, or I was truly blind, I did not feel conviction about pursuing him.
In every way besides religion and age, he matches me completely. Obviously, God is the most important. From the beginning of liking him, I laid down that if anything were to continue, my faith will not be compromised. I laid out what I want in a relationship and what I will not put up with. We've discussed differing beliefs – of course some of his contradict the bible, but the worst one is that he doesn't believe in Jesus. I told him I do not believe I could marry him if he wasn't Christian and I'd like to try with him because I care about him, but there would definitely be a day I'd want him to read the Bible with me and seek God with all his heart. I explained that I don't want him to just be a "Christian," but a follower of Christ. He seems to understand this which is shocking to me...
He seems open to God, he has made the connection that my faith, as well as protestants in general, is about a relationship with God, not religion. I find this interesting because I haven't heard many agnostic people make that connection. He has agreed to look into Christianity with me, but of course has made no promises. I also have said I wouldn't force him as that would be pointless— it has to be from his heart.
The other problem is that he has struggled with depression. Truly, I believe what he has struggled with is 0 hope and meaningless. He has recognized that, he has recognized that following Jesus would make the world better and that he isn't as loving as he needs to be.
I have been an encouragement in his life, I have been a friend that others are not willing to be. He has no other Christian influence in his life except his parents (that seem to follow rules moreso, and aren even doing that...). I first started really talking to him because he was struggling and I told him about God's promises, who we are in God and etc. I know it is God and not me, but I believe God has used to me to show him that there is hope. To show him that there is even joy in sadness. He does not completely understand what I tell him, but he told me he can see it's not normal.
He agrees that my faith has made me who I am and that any good in me he sees if from God (he believes that the ideology has helped me and that I feel something, he just isnt sure it's true).
A Christian friend shared with me 2 Corinthians 6:14. I have been praying for this man and us since the beginning and even after my friend shared this verse with me I did not think that it meant it was a sin. My sister has told me she thinks it is and I look up to her. This has led me to wanting to seek God harder— I know emotion can get into the way of things and cloud judgement. I pray daily that God opens and closes the doors that need to be. I pray for wisdom and for his salvation — regardless of our relationship.
I've felt so many doubts about our relationship because I'm unsure if I'm doing the right thing and following God. I told him these doubts and he said he would stay by my side and support me and to take all the time I needed to think about it and pray. However, I told him I didnt know if I could be with him and that I doubt us and it hurt him. The next day he stayed in bed until 6 PM and sounded depressed.
I do not want to be his God, I do not want to make him sad. I want to follow God. I know God is the one who speaks to our hearts, but I know he also uses people so I don't want to miss an opportunity. I believe the best choice is to be in the word and pray, which I have been doing, but right now he and I are trying to think about what's happening.
Until I hear from God, do you guys think I should cut off communication from him? Is it okay to pray and still be with him? I will not marry him if he does not become Christian. Am I only fooling myself?
As always, please pray for me. I do not want to follow man or my own heart, but God. Pray God opens my eyes and speaks to me. Pray that I do the right thing, that I have strength. Pray for his salvation and that the little light I maybe gave to him I'm not now stomping out that light (I feel like I am now).
Pray my eyes are open and I don't look for what my itching ears want.
