As I tried to say before, to me Jesus meant when he said he did not come to bring peace , but he came to bring a sword simply means to me that he is looking ahead.
We would all have peace and harmony if all would follow him, but as not all will follow him, naturally this will bring conflict, resentment, and maybe even downright disrespect and even death by another family member.
So Jesus did not come to create disharmony and to actually bring a sword, he simply means that our own unwillingness to accept him will create the sword. That man himself will be the one to create the disharmony.
It is not so bad, not everyone in my family believes in God, but if handled intelligently and with compassion and not taken personally hey, they learn, you cannot tell Kit anything he will just grin at you and tell you that you are wrong. That little puppy you liked so well the other day is one of Gods creations........can you make a puppy??
With time opportunity for discussion will always open up, at first they scoff, they push, they tell you that you are an idiot.......slowly they wonder why does he persist?? And one day, the non believer becomes the believer.
To me to turn the other cheek is kinda like this. It is not about being a doormat or to turn away as a coward, or to accept without challenge.
Say I and you are in town and a person is holding up a sign, will work for food, or some such. So I do a U turn and find a safe place to park and to talk to him and tell him to come to the grocery store with me and I will buy him some food. I have no work but I will buy you something to eat............and you attack me. You tell me I am being taken advantage of, or you tell me hey I am in a hurry and you should have just given him some money, let him use his time. At this point it is a challenge of personalities. So I will accept the challenge but be somewhat of a pusher also. I will tell you that even if I am being taken advantage of, the intent is true, I will tell you that your time is not a concern, what are you going to do when you do get home, watch T.V.?? I will attack you, but not in a violent way. I will intend you no harm, but I will not back down on my convictions. Each time you challenge me I will simply tell you that you are wrong and should show compassion. That your statement of you are in a hurry and do not want to waste time is selfish. I may even walk more slowly.........I will challenge you . So to me Jesus is saying, turn the other cheek but by doing so with no intent of malice also show them the other cheek and challenge them. If they want to fuss with you for a mile, give them two. Or.........a politician says, poor me, we are having to do so much more with so much less. We lost our cost of living raise, and this is totally unfair. ......without violence I will challenge him and tell him you should be happy to have a position, as we the citizen are now living with very much less to support your very much more and your unwise use of our money. If he wants to push a mile, I will push back for two.........
As for violence and self defense, naturally revenge or to do after the fact or take justice into your own hands is wrong, and will only lead to not only violation of Gods morals, but also violation of the laws of men and resulting punishment by mans laws.
But if a thug is beating a old lady to steal her purse, or is in the act of taking a child, or is committing a robbery, or is beating on my door to do harm and mayhem, ........well I have only one thing to say, they had best be right with God, because I will send them to see him.
I have as much compassion for those who commit violent crimes and due physical harm to others, as I do for a cockroach. During the commission of the crime. But God says to leave justice after the fact to himself. To not seek revenge or to walk into sin yourself to seek revenge. That to me is Gods message, do not exact revenge, leave that to me. No matter how unfair you think it seems you can only hurt yourself with actions after the fact.
So to act in the actual time of the event, to or for self defense is fine, to act later for revenge is not good. This is both against the law of God and the law of man. It does no good in any event as the act or situation has already occurred and you cannot change what was and what is.
Hope I made some sense.
Kit