Rachel, you asked a very important question, and the answer is simple and clearly written in the scripture. If you are a child of God, He has given you His Spirit, and His Spirit is to be your teacher, and your guide.
You are to follow God, and God alone, no other, regardless wether he calls himself preacher, teacher, leader, or prophet. The job of being your guide was not given to them, it is the work of the Holy Spirit, period. These who call themselves leaders, are your fellowservants, thier job is to serve or minister to you, to edify and encourage you in your walk with God. But
it follows that your walk is with GOD, and HE alone is your guide.
I have this little plaque on my desktop, it says "Make time for the quiet moments, as God whispers, and the world is loud" It is true that not only the world is loud, but the church can be pretty loud too
God talks to all of His children, wether or not we hear, depends largely on wether or not we are willing to shut out the voices around us and listen, really listen for His voice. Prayer is how we have conversation with God, and God is not so rude He expects us to do all the talking and He never responds. The simple truth is, most of the time when we cant hear Him, its because we wont shut up long enough, or are not tuned in enough, to let Him get a word in edgewise
Trust me when I say, if you go spend some time alone, just talking with (notice I said
with - not TO) God, and opening your heart and mind to what He has to say, you will hear Him...maybe while you are in that place of meditation and prayer, maybe later that day...who knows, but when we listen for Him, we soon learn, God is not silent. His is that still clear unmistakable voice that speaks so quietly to us, we have to be really listening to hear. Sometimes I dont realize God has been trying to tell me something, until He repeats Himself several times...but then i`m more hard headed than most
Blessings
John 10:27 My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me;