windmill2kids
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- Nov 4, 2008
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Hi. I've been having doubts about my husband again and whether we should be together. He never gives me flowers or surprises and he knows I love them! He does not pick up after himself. If he throws a shirt off it goes on the floor. He is a very plain and picky eater. He want eat but a few things and that's bread meat and cheese, and ofcourse lots of soda, and it drives me crazy, (I'm so worried about his health), there's nothing I can do about that. He's always so ill, all the time,,, I know that his job is stressing him out but that's no reason for him to raise his voice to me! We only knew eachother three months before we got married, and of course I had messed up with somebody else before I met him and had gotten pregnant. Ofcourse he took our child in like his own. He's a good person, but is good enough? If he doesn't give me what I need and doesn't have the qualities I would like in a man, should that be cause to leave him. I still am not one hundred percent sure if he's the right one for me sometimes. We have already had a child together, and they love their dad so much. Everytime I try to tell him that he's not giving me something I need, he always comes up with, "I've never been good enough for anyone",,, because honestly his ex-wife always treated him like he wasn't good enough, but why throw that up in my face! I'm so depressed and distraught. Anybody in my same situation? Is it just bipolar flaring up in me, or Satan telling me these things? I mean, he doesn't even cook! He doesn't clean much and when I ask him to he kind of does it with disdain. He's like a big child! He doesn't realize it but sometimes he likes to send me on guilt trips.. He's so tight with money because his ex-wife made him go bankrupt so when I buy the least little thing he gets upset with me.... Ok, so there are good things about him too. I know it is wrong to want your husband to change in many different ways, so why do I ? I expected to get married to a man who cleaned and cooked, and was more romantic, whom gave me romantic meals, and roses, and simple things. I know I don't NEED those simple things, but that is my love language,(as described in therapy),, I know his love language is not the same but when will he realize that mine is different. AAAAARRRGGGHHHH,:secret:I'm so frustrated. I do like his heart and there's things I like about him,,, but is being a Good man enough reason for being married to him? Im so lost.
Aimee
Aimee
