Escaping a fornicated relationship

[BrotherOne]

Okay, during the early stages of my newly found life with Christ, life felt renewed. I was with my GF before and after. So, We took a two month break at the beginning of my walk and as time goes by, I ran into her unexpectedly. Were talking, so we decided to go to her house. So there's this thought in my head telling me to resist her, because I felt something was going to happen and it did. As much as I didn't want to, I wanted to. After I left, I felt so depressed with shameful thoughts, a heavy heart, and I even had a dream about Jesus that night that was so heart breaking. Ever since then, my life took a U-turn. Now, I'm back to a fornicated relationship. I tried on numerous occasions to fix my situation with my GF but they never work. She says she understands me but she doesn't want to follow through with me. I just feel so lost and out of place now with no since of direction.

 

[Travis]

Hey Brother,

Fornication is not not a big deal. It sounds like you know that. We all fall into sin, but some has worse consequences than others. Sexual sins are kind of of a category of their own.

I couldn't understand from your post though, you have broken off the relationship, or you are still continuing in the relationship, and in the fornication?

Is your girlfriend a believer?

And I guess my final question is: do you have any other believers in your real world life that are mature and that you can talk to?

Sorry for all the questions, but I think they may be able to help everyone.

Blessings,

Travis

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Greetings @BrotherOne

The word of God has the answers for you....consider His word prayerfully and ask for His leading and His strength to do what is His will in your life:

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me
Philippians 4:13

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14

Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
Do not err, my beloved brethren
James 1:13-16

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
1 Corinthians 10:13

Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong
1 Corinthians 16:13

Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the LORD.
Psalm 31:24

Now unto Him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen
Jude 1:24-25

 

[Christ4Ever]

Okay, during the early stages of my newly found life with Christ, life felt renewed. I was with my GF before and after. So, We took a two month break at the beginning of my walk and as time goes by, I ran into her unexpectedly. Were talking, so we decided to go to her house. So there's this thought in my head telling me to resist her, because I felt something was going to happen and it did. As much as I didn't want to, I wanted to. After I left, I felt so depressed with shameful thoughts, a heavy heart, and I even had a dream about Jesus that night that was so heart breaking. Ever since then, my life took a U-turn. Now, I'm back to a fornicated relationship. I tried on numerous occasions to fix my situation with my GF but they never work. She says she understands me but she doesn't want to follow through with me. I just feel so lost and out of place now with no since of direction.

@BrotherOne
Of cause they won't work. At least not as the Lord intended. You know what you are doing is wrong. So attempting to make it right by continuing to do what is wrong and expecting different results. Is what's driving you crazy. From the little you've said, you are both satisfying the flesh. Yet, as a believer you are drawn to the spiritual and what is right, but she wants nothing to do with it. I can only assume that she is not a believer, or if she is. It's one that has fallen off the path she and you should be walking.

You cannot change her, and the only person you can affect is yourself. This ability comes from the fact that you know what it means to submit to God. It is by this very act that you will be able to resist what is happening to you. "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." James 4:7

For it will be God that is providing you the way out. "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it]." 1 Corinthians 10:13 You must be willing to do this! Flee as soon as you see the escape route.

You say "we decided to go to her house..." Put yourself alone in a situation that you know is precarious for your lack of strength, renewed walk and what do you think would happen? Flee!!!!!!!! = to be saved by flight, to escape safely out of danger!!!
"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."1 Corinthians 6:18

Now you feel lost! Not knowing which way to turn! Guess what? It's knee time brother! Time to spend some time on your knees. He's the one who will be able to help you! He's just waiting for you. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9

Ask for wisdom to be aware of these type of situations and to have the strength to follow through with the "fleeing" part! "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all [men] liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him." James 1:5, "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Philippians 4:13

Now follow through with it! Avoid the situations that would have you fall. Right now it's the GF or xGF whichever it may be. You've been given verses by Sister Fragrant Grace which are good and ones you should be aware of. It's not just walking as our Lord has walked, but reading His word which is providing you the ammunition in which to fight the upcoming battles that everyone of us has to go through. Yet it is up to you to allow Him to fight for you. "The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace." Exodus 14:14

You know what you have to remove from your life. It will be hard, because a part of you doesn't want to. You also know what you need to do.....
"Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed [is] willing, but the flesh [is] weak." Matthew 26:41

Stay faithful, pray, continue to grow in His word, and walk as He would want you to walk! I'll be praying for you brother. As I am sure others will as well.
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[BrotherOne]

Hey Brother,

Fornication is not not a big deal. It sounds like you know that. We all fall into sin, but some has worse consequences than others. Sexual sins are kind of of a category of their own.

I couldn't understand from your post though, you have broken off the relationship, or you are still continuing in the relationship, and in the fornication?

Is your girlfriend a believer?

And I guess my final question is: do you have any other believers in your real world life that are mature and that you can talk to?

Sorry for all the questions, but I think they may be able to help everyone.

Blessings,

Travis

I'm currently still in the relationship, and I'm still dealing with the same problems. And yes, she's a believer.

 

[Travis]

I'm currently still in the relationship, and I'm still dealing with the same problems. And yes, she's a believer.

My opinion:

If you can't stay sexually pure while remaining in a relationship with this person, you should probably break off the relationship.

If she does not respect you or the Lord enough to desire to stay pure herself, let alone care about your wellbeing, that's not a good sign. Not the best character for someone who professes to be a believer.

But, that's just my opinion.

Blessings,

Travis

 

[B-A-C]

1 Cor 6:9;
Heb 13:4;

There is mercy, grace and forgiveness. But there is also a way out.
God doesn't let any of us be tempted beyond what we are able to bear.
I have been in those shoes more than once. Fornication is a very difficult thing to walk away from.
But with Christ all things are possible. I for one will be praying for you.