Feel Unwelcome

[pixie]

I always feel unwelcome wherever I am. Even here at TalkJesus I feel unwelcome. It is a feeling that has been with me most of my life and it makes me cry with sadness. I feel judged, even at this Christian site.

Could anyone make sense of this? I pray a lot and I do love the Lord, yet my heart still feels so lonely and unwelcome in this world. I was hoping to feel loved here at TalkJesus.

Please don't give me trouble or lecture me. I would only feel worse. Can a person be this unloved?

Pixie

 

[calluna]

I understand where you are coming from, as I have felt this way before, and sometimes maybe even felt judged, well there maybe an element of truth in what I am sensing, and I am being unwelcomed or being judged, then again it could be a load of hogwash and satan is just messing with my head. And sometimes we are our own worse judge and self critic.
These feelings of rejection and sadness may have something to do with childhood, and how you were treated, who knows. I know alot of my problems were to do with this.
But the Lord heals our wounds and makes us new again and helps us forgive those who hurt us and leads us into living a life of victory. John 10:10 ...'I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full' (abundantly). I don't think feeling sad is part of God's plan for us. There is joy to be found in knowing Jesus.

I believe the most important thing is for us to know who we are in Christ and allow Him to be our encourager above anyone else. We need to be ok alone, without seeking others approval. It is hard I know because we so often need a cheerleader, or want to be told how much we are loved, appreciated, we need to be heard and our opinions to be valued. Oh yes me too! And as brothers and sisters in Christ we ought to be lifting one another up, encouraging eachother, building up and not tearing down, But sadly people do let us down in that department, people do hurt people, it doesn't mean that we are unlovable though, that is just a plain old lie from satan. It's just man's failing in being sensitive to eachothers needs.

By the way, I think you're fine, and I would like to believe that TJ welcomes everyone. Just keep on doing your thing. You love Jesus, it is evident and that is all what matters. And the truth is God loves you. Just live for Him and His approval, try to find positive Jesus loving people in your life who are ready to admit their faults and shortcomings, and accept you. If you are lacking in these kind of people, pray and trust the Lord to bring them into your life.

Calluna

 

[abigya]

praying for you.....

with lots of Love

abigya

 

[mounty]

Pixie sister

I understand the feeling of being unwelcome ,but please remember you are wanted here at talk jesus.

I go through times were i feel as though im unwanted and a failure in life, but i remind myself im here for a reason. God wants me here ,my King has work for me to do, just as our Father has work for you to do. I will often read through psalms ,Gods love Letters and it helps to remove any doubt i have.

God has a whole book filled with love for you, everytime you feel like your unwanted just read it sister.:girl_hug::girl_hug::girl_hug:

God Bless and Much Love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[rizen1]

All I want to say is...

I love you...:romantic:

 

[ThatGuy]

I always feel unwelcome wherever I am. Even here at TalkJesus I feel unwelcome. It is a feeling that has been with me most of my life and it makes me cry with sadness. I feel judged, even at this Christian site.

Could anyone make sense of this? I pray a lot and I do love the Lord, yet my heart still feels so lonely and unwelcome in this world. I was hoping to feel loved here at TalkJesus.

Please don't give me trouble or lecture me. I would only feel worse. Can a person be this unloved?

Pixie

This is a spirit, how was your upbringing? Did you grow up with both parents? etc. Are you a loner? My advice is to gain some Christian friends, there is not such thing as a Christian superhero who goes through his or her life by themselves serving God.

 

[paganmystic]

Hi Pixie if you feel rejected here it's probibly because you are unfamiliar with the free for all's in chat. Sorry you have been left to feel this way. It makes my heart heavy. The invite I gave you in pm was sincere please take me up on it. As Christians we not only have an obligation to Jesus but to each other as well.

hopefully I see you soon in Chat God Bless you my sister

 

[Br. Bear]

My best friend was never very much loved....and He still isn't.

He is Jesus.

Bless you,

Br. Bear

 

[Mr. Armenian]

Hey Pixie,

Cheer Up! I know you're going through a lot, but you've got a friend in me. Besides, we're "almost" neighbours. I'm praying to God that he helps you with the feelings of loneliness and isolation.

 

[Chad]

My best friend was never very much loved....and He still isn't.

He is Jesus.

Bless you,

Br. Bear

Talk about an amazing example of being unloved by those He created! Great point brother. Sister pixie, you've been given great advice here and asked good questions. It sounds like you had something in your childhood that stayed with you, the feeling of rejection or being unloved. The greatest advice is to ask GOD to heal this for you in Jesus' name. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you what you must do (if anything) to break this bondage of bad thoughts or feelings.

Talk Jesus welcomes all people hands down. I cannot control what someone may tell you in personal messages except to deal with them if you report their un Christ like behavior to me.

You've made 450 posts here, I doubt you feel unloved by us but more so an issue you *may* have been dealing since you were a child. Jesus loves you, but how many love Him?

 

[pixie]

Thank you

Thank you so much for showing me your love in words. I did have a traumatic life and I do ask the Lord to break this bondage. The encouragement you have given me, is written down on this thread, so if I ever feel rejected again, I can always turn to this thread and read of your love and your love for the Lord. I truly do love the "rejected One", Lord Jesus Christ and also love His rejected Father, the LORD.

Thanks again and much love in Christ.

Amenixie

 

[stephen]

Sister Calluna has given an excellent reply to your post sister Pixie. I support her wisdom in this situation of yours.

My suggestion would be that you get involved in a Pentecostal church. Assemblies of God if you have one. I am not familiar with the Canadian churches, but something similar to A o G.

Looking at the photo's in your profile I see you are a precious mother, and dear lady who just needs to be set free.

God Bless

 

[Singlemom]

emotions, can you trust them?

Hello Dear,

I am sorry you are having a difficult time. I wanted to say that I felt that way sometimes........then it hit me..........


Do not trust your feelings.....they are always changing...instead, trust th e facts. If there is proof of actions that are unwelcoming. That is another story....sometimes, It is the way that we feel at that moment.

I woke up today, had a strange burden.....I normally try to stay busy and fix things. Today, I knelt down and prayed for God to show me what the burden was, He took it away.......Go to Him always.....and ask Him to show you and guide you and Help you to focus on His love no matter what.........

People do not dictate who you are in Christ. They sometimes may hurt us without even noticing, sometimes they may not even mean to and it happens, and at other times, it is a result of our mood.

Hope that helps......

Love in Christ,
Brandy

 

[nzdaughter]

Just stay the strong Christian that you are. Its hard to believe but I have not exactly felt very welcomed at my church, yet I've still been going for the last several years, and intend to continue for a long time yet, with me being stubborn. I go to church for Christ, not for any person, and I won't allow another believer to somehow discourage me from staying if God has not yet told me to leave. Not that I'm blaming anyone [in fact I agree with lettheredeemed - this thinking does not come from God]. I had such a huge problem with rejection right throughout my life and I can easily carry it into my place of worship or when meeting new people at the slightest feeling of being unwelcome. Lectures- both good and bad correction, abound around every corner but don't get down. God uses any wounds to bring you closer to Him and He can use it all for His purpose. Joining a home-group or other group through church as well as serving can help immensely, but it is hard to feel alone if you feel shy or have no friends, although God sometimes brings a friend in your path even just for a season to tide you through, which can help with feeling accepted. Don't take anything to heart and just focus on God's love as He has already accepted you, as well as the others. God bless you.

 

[lettheredeemed]

I always feel unwelcome wherever I am. Even here at TalkJesus I feel unwelcome. It is a feeling that has been with me most of my life and it makes me cry with sadness. I feel judged, even at this Christian site.

Could anyone make sense of this? I pray a lot and I do love the Lord, yet my heart still feels so lonely and unwelcome in this world. I was hoping to feel loved here at TalkJesus.

Please don't give me trouble or lecture me. I would only feel worse. Can a person be this unloved?

Pixie

I am so sorry that you feel unloved. Do you know anything of the love of the Savior. Jesus always loves you and if you are his child he never leaves you lonely.

 

[Dreamer]

I think it's very possible to feel loved and accepted by God and not by people. I love you, Pixie, and you have always been an inspiration to me, especially with your Praise thread!

I too have been where you are, Pixie. Br Bear said His best friend wasn't exactly loved either. That was an excellent point.

Sometimes as Christians, we seem to assume that our brothers and sisters in Christ already know that we love them so there's no need to show it or say it. Well, I just want to say right now, that I love you, Pixie.

I need to be back here at talk Jesus with my friends and let them know that I love them and still think of them.

 

[sandygloria]

i love you pixie..

hi pixie!

i understand how it feels to be in your shoe. ive been there before, not when i come to understand fully the love of christ in us... and hey! i love you...in christ.:romantic::romantic:

 

[lettheredeemed]

As a christian having dealt with feeling similar to yours. The Lord through His Word has shown me that these kinds of feeling do not originate from Him. Jesus calls us to have the mind of Christ. When we stay in His Word the Holy Spirit is able to use the Word to cleanse us and help us to grow. I have found that in times of feeling unloved and feelings of dispondency that if we turn our focus to Him that it is them He enables us to get victory in our times of dispondency. Satan wants more than anything to keep this from happening so he tries to keep us caught up in feelings like these. I believe that we are allowed to experience things like this so that we can help others that are going through similar circumstances.