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feeling hate and anger

andreas

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Hi all!

I have talked to a woman who is dealing with anger and hate. She says this is definitely not me. She is feeling that she stands at a crossroad and that she has to make a choice. Today I saw a poem she has written about how she is feeling right now. The poem is called: "Lead me". Here it is:

Lead me.

Why all this darkness around me?
Where shall i hide in this storm?
Why is this crossroads so hard to choose?
If i choose wrong, what would i loose?

Why all this hate inside?
Why all this anger to fight?
When will my soul find some peace?
Help me to do the right.

All my prayers every day.
Still i can't see my way.
Where will i go?
What shall i do?
Jesus, take my hand and lead me through.

I ask for a good advice in this case. I want to mail her and encourage her. What would you have said to her?
 
God's Enoughness. - God`s grace is enough for us no matter what.


Often after trying to deal with a particularly trying situation or person, we are left with a lot of emotions to deal with, and it can leave us baffled and confused and floundering out of water so to speak. I have done a great deal of thinking about this, and how we as Christians can overcome during the most trying of circumstances, and what personal resource we have to draw on to do so. I have concluded this resouce is grace. I have to confess tho, that I do not fully grasp the meaning of grace, else I would not struggle with it so. Does God`s grace cover not only my sin, but the very ugliness of my humanity, even my anger, my frustration, my hurt, my pain? YES!

I read grace defined in this way: "You are accepted." You and I are accepted, fully and totally accepted by God, now, always, without condition, without deserving, without question. To be accepted in this way means to be cherished, to be loved. It means that who we basically are is valued, honored and respected. It means that we don't have to earn or deserve such care; it is simply there for us, a gift. The grace of God is an expression of God's love for us, of God's desire, of God's unconditional acceptance, an expression of the very nature of God's being.

In the Bible, grace is synonymous with unmerited "favor," "mercy," "compassion," "kindness" and "love." Grace is not something we can obtain by our own efforts. By unmerited, it means unearned. By favor, it means, help. In other words, God extended to us help when we did nothing to earn that help.

What if that single word could be understood in terms of not only who we are, but also how we journey as Christians? A deeper understanding of the privilege we have been given to live in God`s grace, can change the way act, think, and talk, and do much to help us let go of unwanted emotion.

I believe grace is truly the most valuable gift that could be given to anyone at any time. God has given us His grace. Now this gift is ours. How can our lives be a reflection of that gift? Where do we begin? There is an old saying, "What you are is God’s gift to you; what you make of your life is your gift to God." We all have those encounters, wether it involve people in our lives we are close to, or strangers, where there is misunderstanding, confusion, or hurt. Does the action or the words spoken merit our "favor," "mercy," "compassion," "kindness" and "love." Undoubtedly the answer is easy, but we are left with a choice. Do we now use this as an opportunity to use this gift God has given us, or do we lay it aside to give them what they really deserve? It may sound simple, but once we have truly made this choice, it releases us from the grip and power of those emotions that are so harmful to us and others.

We are to be an example, to demonstrate the ability that is our gift and our blessing, to go forward into this world knowing we are to are undeserving. And when we encounter things we do not understand, we ask that God`s grace continue to embrace us, and help us to open our arms to allow others to be embraced by His grace also.

There are things in our lives that don`t always make sense but "the just shall live by faith" (Hbk 2:4). What does that mean? Faith is believing that God is big enough to bring some good out of what is happening in your life. Living by faith means waking up in the morning and saying "God, I don`t understand what you are doing, and I don`t understand why these things, or these people who have come agianst me, and I don`t see the good in any of it, but I know YOU care for me, so I am going to get out of bed and trust YOU with today"

At any given time, many of us are engulfed in private battles against illness or betrayal or finances. The days can get very bleak and the nights offer no relief. God knows why we are in turmoil - the feelings of helplessness, fear, confusion, and dismay that lead to our internal struggles. God intimately knows the inner workings of our minds and spirits, and God knows our limitations. ( 1Co 10:13) God already knows our every emotion - if not, then God isn't God. Being all-knowing, God is very aware of our situation. He knows the events and experiences that are the reason behind our struggle. So if God already knows about our feelings, understands the source of our emotions, discerns why we are confused, and can easily handle our pain, we can rest assured for all these His grace is sufficient!

What is needed is trust. We often struggle because we feel powerless, and God knows our powerlessness. And we often struggle because we see do not see how any good can come out of our situation, or we feel hopeless about the end result of our struggles.

This is where the child of God stands on His promises! God allows NOTHING in our lives that is not for our eternal good! How about the painful experiences of your life right now? Have they made you more willing to hold the hand of a fellow struggler? I’m sure the answer is yes! Do you see that God takes the difficult things in our lives and uses them to extend His grace to others through us. God uses our pain and struggles for His own Glory!

Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast [our] profession.

For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as [we are, yet] without sin.

Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

Finally, I have found peace in the midst of turmoil is found only in truly believing God is interested in every minute detail of my life, as David did in Psa 121:1 and in trusting God is working everything out for my final good as written in Rom 8:28 and in worshipping God thru it all!.
2Co 12:9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

 
I would say ?Do not go by your feelings .ASK GOD to replace the hate and pain with HIS LOVE .Tell HIm you desire to be free of this bondage and want to know HIM in a more perfect way .Then thank HIM in FAITH .Knowing HE will quickly ansure your prayers .Then ask HIm could you be a living blessing to others as ,yiou desire to bless and love ,all thiose whio have no one to love them .You will have more joy than you ever knew .Yopur life will have great meaning as our LORD is looking for thiose who will be a blessing in spirit and TRUTH .:love:
 
Gods uncondictional Love

Some one hurt me very bad one time and every night i would ask my Father God to love this person through me as i could not love them because of what they had done and said to me. It took awhile to mend the heart and mind but when we ask God for something he allways comes through and gets all the glory. Praise the Lord your sister in our Lord Jesus Gerlene love with the love of God that passith all understanding.........Thank you Jesus
 
I do not know enough of the persons situation to give anything specific but one thing comes to my mind. Some people often have overly high and idealistic views on other people. People should realize that other people are just that, "people". And that means imperfection. When we are young we often place our parents into a position of gods without realizing that they also are just people. Often it is the children who have placed their parents in the highest esteem that often become the most bitter and rebellious teens when they discover their parents faults.

Anger and hate is a heavy burden to carry. Wisdom is knowing and accepting that people are just people and bad things will happen in this world. Once we accept the truth then we are not disappointed when we are let down or betrayed by men. We can have hope in people and love them without placing our faith in people. Our faith should always rest with the One who is Perfect and will never let us down.



All Praise The Ancient of Days
 
sounds like your friend needs healing. I know how it is to be afraid to let go of the pain. Encourage her to keep seeking god but to talk to someone maybe someone she looks up to at church about whats going on.
The best thing you can do is be a friend she can talk to and pray for her.
I think she needs what we call at my church "carpet time". Time on the carpet or at the alter with god, he will meet her at her point of need.
-Andrea
 
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