forgiveness

[miskit]

i am having a tough time getting along with my mother in law... it's a typical inlaw problem. we totally disagree and she has spoken awful things about me and i'm nowhere near perfect and have her too. just not to her face. i have prayed and prayed and it has gotten much better. it just burns me up when i think about the way she criticizes me and how i raise my kids! or how i dont really love her son!

i did invite her to my daughters bday party, though we didn't speak it's a small step. ugh it's just tiresome. but i am very uncomfortable around her, i mean she said some pretty harsh things about me, my family, the way i raise my children.

i know this... Jesus died for me. for all the awful things i have done. and still do, i still sin against Jesus and He forgives me. so i should get over this. i have forgiven i just can't forget. any advice please or scripture that may help. thanks all!

 

[Coconut]

I have been married 26 years ... (thems my credentials) ...and yes I have a bit of advice...

Logical practical clear decisive thinking and acting takes care of most 'emotional' issues when it comes to others (it does`nt necessarily make others act any better but it will go a long ways in helping you rise above situations) We can let ourselves get all emotionally bent out of shape at every little word people say crosswise, (that`ll make life one long bumpy ride) or we can tell ourselves that we will only accept and deal with truth as we see it, and discard everything else as hogwash (a sense of humor goes a long long way!)

So...my answer is turn your eyes upon your husband, and dont take them off him. He is the man you married, he is the man you adore (hopefully :wink and if you concentrate on your relationship with him, and being the most devoted wife you can be...the 'voices' that criticize you will fade into the background.....as a matter of fact you`ll probably find your obvious love and commitment to your husband has silenced them...but even if they get louder, you will be too busy focusing on your spouse to take time to listen...

Isnt that just like our walk with Christ?

A lot of our struggles in life are 'struggles' simply because we refuse to let go...(thats not the other persons problem, but ours) ...or we dont want to deal with the situation, so we do nothing and the situation keeps returning usually worse than it was before....the truth is we cant control what others say and do, we can only control ourselves...and the sooner we recognize that the sooner we let go and stop trying to change those around us......and the sooner we decide how we are going to deal with the situation once and for all, regardless of what the other person says or does, or how they react.

I should add, it is critical to for a home to have boundaries, you must be decisive and firm about what you allow anyone to say and do within your home that you feel has a negative impact, and may be detrimental to your children, or your relationship to your husband, but this is something you discuss with your husband, and hopefully you stand together on, and have agreed on how it is to be handled. It is okay to now allow persons (including family) into your home if they persist in crossing those boundaries.

Blessings

 

[HisFollower]

By coincidence I also have been married now for twenty six years, and concerning forgiveness, We see in (2 Cor 2:5-11) that this is the one thing that Satan will not do; therefore we have the advantage, and because now we are not ignorant of this method of Satan to sow discord; and our advantage is our example in Christ Jesus.