good advice needed

[squidget]

i have a friend that over the last few months has been progressively beco,img angry , and rude , towards anyone that disagrees with him .
the kast visit a few months ago now he set himself up in a chair and demanded my wife serve him , my childeren to wait at his feet while he was served .
i called him out to the garage where i was working on my bike it needed urgent repairs so i could get to work. and he got really mad , and ended up storming out saying " i am a mand of GOD i must not be treated as a regular person "
over the months between i tried to contact him to see how things are going and hoping it had blown over .and we could get bacdk to having the fun we used to .
yet all thats happened has been angry emails from him . to the last one that was outright rage and abuse .
i emailed back saying to nolonger keep incontact or to come over as he is causing too much disruption with my childeren and wife .

heres the thing he is a brother and i still see him as a friend , yet i cannot accept his behaviour .
asking him to stay away was a hard thing for me to do as what he is going through is not him and i dont want to have him go through it allone .
so if anyone has been through this or has anything that might help id appreciate it .

blessings to you

squidge

 

[Coconut]

"i am a mand of GOD i must not be treated as a regular person "

Php 2:5 The attitude you should have is the one that Christ Jesus had:
Php 2:6 He always had the nature of God, but he did not think that by force he should try to remain equal with God.
Php 2:7 Instead of this, of his own free will he gave up all he had, and took the nature of a servant.


Joh 13:16 I am telling you the truth: no slaves are greater than their master, and no messengers are greater than the one who sent them.
Joh 13:17 Now that you know this truth, how happy you will be if you put it into practice!

 

[Property Of God]

I think he is going through STRAINS!
If he has been having so much stress for a long period of time, then he is becoming depersonalised, it means he becomes emotionless towards others and cynical and so practical.

I had a depersonalised friend and it was extremly hard to put up with him and it only hurt me to even try to stand him.

Keep your distance for now, until he becomes a little better and he'll be the one to contact you again, just don't make it worse by *trash-talk* and e-mails and so on, just politely disconnect yourself from him.

You are not forced to talk to him, just pray for him and wish him God's grace.

 

[squidget]

thank you both for the reply .
and yes nermeen i did just pull away .
it is hard to leave a friend that seems to be going through a situation like that .
i do pray for him .

thank you both
bess you
squidge

 

[bonnie_girl]

Hey squidge. Dude, it sounds as if your friend has been involved in something that he perhaps shouldnt be. Probably spiritual, gleaning from his attitude. Without sounding too simplistic, ask the Lord what the problem with your friend is, ask the Holy Spirit to give you inside revelation of the problem and how best to deal with it. We all know how incredibly clever the Lord is and He will be able to do this without embarassing anyone in any way. Your friend is in trouble and I suspect that the reason he is pushing you away and being insulting to your wife is because you are probably in the best position to help him. I pray the Lord give you exceptional wisdom at this time in helping your friend. Keep in mind though, no man has any right to be ordering your wife and children around at any time, your family are off limits to any persons abuse and dont be afraid to tell him so. It is your responsibility to protect them first and then help your friend. God bless you heaps. Bonnie

 

[sunsetts]

Hi Squidget:
That would be hard, but I think you did the only thing you could do while you pray for ths person. You cannot let someone order your Wife and family around.
Sweet of you still wanting to be there for that person. Good for You...
Ask God if He would reveal what is going on with this person and for guidence how to help them. God Bless.

 

[savo]

Hi this is savo, the person squidget is refering to in his posts.
As u know, there are two sides to every story.
I can assure everyone here i am not an angry person, in fact i am very surprised to see a post regarding a dispute which occured earlier this year being posted by a friend on a public forum.
I won't go into detail, but I can assure you the particulars of that night are quite different to what was originally posted.
It's not my place to say what happened, but it was merely a basic dispute which could have easily been resolved on the night.
His view of the events are worrying to say the least.
I shall choose to leave it at this, but advise anyone on this forum that you must always stay open to the fact there are two sides to every story.
Thanks

 

[peeps]

still . . .

Hi . . .

I think its good to see that both parties are able to know the truth about one another writing in here . . .

Secondly I think the problem is not only theirs . . .

We all might have or have had this situation in our lives . . .

Question still stands in the room: What to do?

I have a situation in my life where I had to let go as well . . .considering the day im letting go of it . . hope begins to grow for a different future than the past. . .

Does that make sense?

I think the basic question or the problem still stands in the way:

What do I do when there is nothing I can do to fix the problem?

Let go of it and pray . . .Love the person, pray for the person and leave the person alone. . .if God intends for you two (us two) to be in contact again . .He will work on both of our hearts and will lead us back into position where we can start working on it?

Thats what I think at the moment . ..but maybe one of you has already passed this situation and can help us out with experience?

:heart-animated:

 

[sullivandianna]

I think I can help

Hey Squidget, My sister is a preacher,and she is having the same problem with her sister-in-law. She finally had to tell her not to call or come around. He sister-in-law is also a sister in the Lord.she prayed and prayed, She decided to not have any contact with hwe,but to pray constantly for her. She got her answer from the bible. The bible says to shun evil. I also gave advice to her. Jesus said in his word. What has light have to do with darkness? So, my advice is just pray for him and what he is going through,pray with all your heart. I will also be praying for you and he.Just stay away and let him stay away from you. If he gets the anger out of his heart,he will call you. if he doesn't then shun evil. Lots of Love in Jesus, Sis. Di :rainbow:

 

[peeps]

i agree with sullivandianna . . .

if you notice your neighbor walking down a path where you cant follow as a christian and you have said so:

Pray and continue living!

I believe that is all we can do, pray in love for that person to our heavenly Father who knows us and everything of that relationship

and then trust that His plan is the right plan for our life!

And that His plan is a the best plan!

I want to live and follow those promises

 

[sullivandianna]

I like the way u word this

We have to pray , I mean really for that person.God, will then do his will. If God sends them back to us thrn amen. If he doesn't then keep praying until God removes the burden for them.