In the Ten Commandments Deuteronomy 5:16 says honour your father and mother. I don't want to sound bad but I have a volatile relationship with my mother. She thinks she is better than every one else and is constantly judging people- me especially. She is always harsh to me, puts me down, calls me stupid, all of my life ,and I am 36, we have not gotten along and I ended up with serious emotion issues due to this. I learned it's not my fault and I am not the person she tries to make me. I was not always a good person I ended up finding comfort in alcohol and drugs especially when we would fight or she would attack me verbally. I will be clean and sober for 4 yrs. on Aug. 5th PRAISE GOD!!! but she still treats me as she always did and what hurts me the most is my only brother is gay and lives in Las Vegas, works in a casino and with another man, has hepatitis due to this and he is her baby, best friend and pride and joy. She will be on the phone with him and bad mouth me if I walk in.... I try to stay away and just walk off if she starts, but she is vicious to me and is constantly trying to turn me dad against me too. How am I supposed to still go at this in a christian manner and honour her? I know to pray for her is a start. I could use some advice. I am an adult and still have nightmares about her.