having difficulty with parent

[Cherubpuff]

So ive been living with my mother for quite some time now and am planning on moving soon but in the mean time its been hard dealing with her. she's very domineering and believes her way and what she thinks is always true and right. living with anyone who thinks this way is difficult. and its just unhealthy mentalliy and i believe spiritually. its lead to many unjustified accusations and she seems to will her way over me just because shes my mother. i dont believe this to be right.
Oh i forgot to mention shes muslim. So the poisonous ideology she believes in is also influencing her mind. which makes my situation even harder. As far as she knows, im still muslim ( i never was,never learned to pray or even speak the language but I had a great desire to serve allah-that desire is now turned to bitterness and almost hatred towards islam).
She disowned my sister for marrying a non-muslim. She,as well as my aunt. my aunt disowned her daughter a couple years back for converting to catholicism and marrying a catholic man.
Now,my aunt eventually came around after nearly a year but i know she is still in pure disgust and anger over it. my mother on the other hand has not. She will talk to my sister and visit but there is no forgiveness and she wont even talk to my sisters husand.its been about a year and a half they have been married now. That,just one an example of the magnitude of things.
So I have had enough of this "holier than thou" "my religion is the right one and if you dont submit you will burn forever" mentality.
They both think the same poisoned way and i've had enough of it.
I would like to cut off ties with my aunt and distance myself from my mother. There are simply no more alternatives. They are so poisoned with their beliefs that no amount of prayer, no reason minded talks can change them. Now, dont get me wrong I love them both and forgive them (for they are being manipulated by satan) but i need to cut ties.
So my first question is, should i go to my aunts for easter? we go every year and this is the year i would like to end it.
question 2: how do i keep the 5th commandment when she is so condemning of me. I mean, she starts yelling at me for the most insignificant,trivial things and in many cases NOTHING! I cant take this crap anymore!!!!!!!
Im worried about breaking commandment 5 and angering god. i understand he knows whats going on but am i really supposed to sit there and just let her spew such garbage at me? I have no choice but to yell because its the only way she'll drop whatever stupid issues she has made out of nothing...its an unhealthy relationship.sh eknows it and i know it but it cannot change unless she changes.

 

[Cherubpuff]

A couple months back i came home from work i, saw my mom watching "escape from hamas" (youtube it) on fox news.
when i heard the pure hatred and, disgust and condemnation she directed towards him, i knew I shred his beliefs and had to come to terms that I would not be able to tell her of my conversion...at least not any time soon...

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

I can offer my prayers for you Cherubpuff. I wish I could offer more.

Be wise. This comes to mind:


Luke 16:8 ″The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light. "


As I said above, I wish I could offer you more.

Praying for you Cherubpuff,
LoJ

 

[Coconut]

Welcome to the family Brother

You seem to put a lot of thought into your situation, and I commend you for striving to do what pleases God, when you are obviously surrounded by so much strife. If I could give you one word of advice, it would be to distance yourself from this darkness as much as is possible, and if that means moving, then move, and if that means separating yourself from certain family members, by all means do it, until such a time as you see a change.

I have to disagree with one little thing you said, that "no amount of prayer will change things" Prayer is your only worthwhile resource right now, and it is powerful and effective, to give you the strength to deal with everything thats being thrown at you, and to bring salvation to your family. Take your family to God in prayer, and watch God do what you cannot. Wait patiently for Him to answer, it will surely happen in time if you will persist in prayer.

question 2: how do i keep the 5th commandment when she is so condemning of me.

At first read, I thought you were referring to the commandment to "Honor your parents"...but I googled which is the fifth, and its telling me it is "Do not Kill" I`m sorry i`m a little confused as to which commandment you are referring to...:embarasse

Anyways, let me assure you that God will not be angry at you for not being willing to make your dwelling place in the middle of this darkness, or for distancing yourself from it. Go with God young brother, and keep Him as Lord of your life, where ever you go.

Luk 6:20 Then Jesus looked at his disciples and said, "How blessed are you who are destitute, for the kingdom of God is yours!
Luk 6:21 How blessed are you who are hungry now, for you will be satisfied! How blessed are you who are crying now, for you will laugh!
Luk 6:22 How blessed are you whenever people hate you, avoid you, insult you, and slander you because of the Son of Man!
Luk 6:23 Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, for your reward in heaven is great! For that's the way their ancestors used to treat the prophets.


Joh 3:17 For God sent the Son into the world, not to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him.
Joh 3:18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe has already been condemned, because he has not believed in the name of God's unique Son.
Joh 3:19 And this is the basis for judgment: The light has come into the world, but people loved the darkness more than the light because their actions were evil.
Joh 3:20 For everyone who practices wickedness hates the light and does not come to the light, so that his actions may not be exposed.
Joh 3:21 But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that all may see that his actions have been done in God."

 

[Cherubpuff]

thanks for the replys guys
coconut,
im sorry if i confused you. I was indeed referring to the honer thy parents commandment.
i have to admit that even as i was writing about prayer not being enough to change her, i knew it wasnt true,he can do anything-that i know...its just extremely difficult believing that she could change when the seed has grown to such measures over such a long period of time. this i will work on.
thanks for the advice. I wouldn't need it if i believed the way i reacted in some situations was pleasing to god.but i know he cant be pleased at they way we sometimes treat each other. so your advice is confirming what i believed to be the right decision.

 

[Coconut]

I dont mind a little confusion Brother ~ i`m usually the one causing it

Truthfully, it may take many years for your mother to change, (speaking from personal experience) because although God is certainly willing and able to save, there are those who refuse to come to Him. However prayer is always effective, because prayer changes us, if not the circumstance. This is what is most important anyways, not what others are saying and doing, not what is happening around us, but whether or not Christ is being formed in me, and if I am growing in grace and knowledge of Him. I doubt any of us can say, we always react in ways pleasing to God, the constant recognition that must
always despair of ourselves, and how much we need God every moment of every day, is the sure path to growth.


Jesus prayed, 'Father I dont pray you take them out of the world, but keep them from the evil' The testimony of Gods power and wisdom, is not always in making our surroundings peaceful, but in speaking peace into our hearts in the midst of our surroundings. However I hope that does`nt seem to contradict my advice. I dont believe it is wise to make our dwelling place in the midst of strife, if we have a choice, and you are obviously no longer a child. Either way, God is certainly able to keep the one who is committed to living for Him.

In regards to 'Honor your parents' - this is not a command for a grown child to put themselves under the will of their parents. I have`nt saved a scripture study on this subject that I could share with you, maybe someone else has.

Blessings

 

[Dreamer]

You are indeed in a difficult situation, Cherubpuff, and it would be wrong for me to minimize it. Your feelings and reactions are validated here at talkJesus...it's no wonder you feel the way you do!

I can't add anything to what Coconut said, but I will add you in my prayers to the Father.

My husband is derisive like your mom is, so I understand how much it hurts. It hurts me the most when he is over-critical/loud with the kids. Do you know what? When you hurt over your mom's words, God hurts...He doesn't want you to hurt this badly...you do seem to need to be free of this environment/situation.

In my case, I am staying with my husband, because there has been some improvement. Lately, there has even been some repentance. He claims to be a Christian. I can't imagine how much conflict and spiritual disorder must be present as you among Muslims. I praise God that you have embraced the faith in Jesus Christ the Lord. Keep up the good faith and continue following Him!

Just as others said, pray for your family. But finding a new place, I think, and new friends will help you to keep close and walk with God.

Love in Christ,
Dreamer.

 

[Cherubpuff]

thank you for your time and prayers! your words of wisdom as well. they mean much to me.
i will continue to pray and stay in temperance. hopefully within the next 2 months things will fall in place and i'll have the "right" home and things will be better.
i will let you know how things transpire in the weeks to come.