Help a Husband Help a Wife

[Boone]

Sorry this is so long...





A little background, over the past few years my wife and her brother had become very close. He had what most would consider a very misspent youth, but had recently given great effort to getting his life together. My wife’s brother was also agnostic and gay. Just before Christmas 2008, he was killed in a car crash.
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At the memorial service, the Pastor stopped just short of a saying that he had gone straight to Hell. While it’s possible that in his final moments he accepted Christ, only God knows, I don’t. While the Pastor’s words may have been ill-timed for a mother that had just lost a son or a sister losing a brother, I don’t know that he was wrong. Because of my wife’s deep grief, I have kept my fears to myself.
<o> </o>The situation… I have always had Faith, but I’ve not always been as observant as I should be. My wife (a better person than me, whom I love dearly) is in a similar situation.
I want very much for my wife and me to strengthen our Faith. Not sure how I broach the subject when it would be a constant reminder that her brother is now forever without God. How can I be a comfort to her as a husband without ignoring truth?



Boone

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

Just before Christmas 2008, he was killed in a car crash.
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At the memorial service, the Pastor stopped just short of a saying that he had gone straight to Hell.
While it’s possible that in his final moments he accepted Christ, only God knows, I don’t.

I don’t know that he was wrong.

I want very much for my wife and me to strengthen our Faith.

How can I be a comfort to her as a husband without ignoring truth?

Hi Boone, and welcome to TJ

Acts 15:8 declares God knows the heart.

1 Sam 16:7 declares this also.


He was wrong.
That pastor should be ashamed of himself. He's Not God. Only God judges the heart.

You can be a comfort to your wife by telling her these simple truthes.

No person has ever been given that authority. We judge day to day about the decisions we make..
as well as people we choose to associate with.
Never- on someone's eternal destiny.

The pastors words should have been on the good of this man's life ...even on however insignificant it may have been.

Did he kill anyone? Mame anyone?
Did help another human being out? Did he bring some laughter to anyone?

Surely there was some positive that could have been the focus, rather than pointing out to others in attendance
.." if you go this way also, you too will burn!
I can imagine some of his gay friends were there ..hence the focus. I could be wrong.


I would encourage you to ask Father to show the moments when you can share the truth in love...

He was wrong. Only the Father knows. Remember when..... lol...... yeah...



Father bless Boone with love, hope, faith, and more love..

Love ya bro, Marco

 

[stephen]

Sorry this is so long...
A little background, over the past few years my wife and her brother had become very close. He had what most would consider a very misspent youth, but had recently given great effort to getting his life together. My wife’s brother was also agnostic and gay. Just before Christmas 2008, he was killed in a car crash.

At the memorial service, the Pastor stopped just short of a saying that he had gone straight to Hell. While it’s possible that in his final moments he accepted Christ, only God knows, I don’t.

While the Pastor’s words may have been ill-timed for a mother that had just lost a son or a sister losing a brother, I don’t know that he was wrong. Because of my wife’s deep grief, I have kept my fears to myself.


The situation… I have always had Faith, but I’ve not always been as observant as I should be. My wife (a better person than me, whom I love dearly) is in a similar situation.

I want very much for my wife and me to strengthen our Faith. Not sure how I broach the subject when it would be a constant reminder that her brother is now forever without God. How can I be a comfort to her as a husband without ignoring truth?



Boone

SAd,,,Indeed What can we say in answer to such grief?

there will be an answer...bye and bye
For all the times we've wondered why
For all the tears life made us cry
There'll be an answer bye and bye

I believe there will.......
In Jesus

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

Well said stephen,

there will be an answer...bye and bye
For all the times we've wondered why
For all the tears life made us cry
There'll be an answer bye and bye

Here's lyrics to a song by Pam Thum. They are close to my heart as well.


Life is hard, but God is good

You turn the key
Then close the door behind you
Drop your bags on the floor
You reach for the light
But there's darkness deep inside
And you can't take it anymore

'Cause sometimes living takes the life out of you
And sometimes living is all you can do

Life is hard, the world is cold
We're barely young and then we're old
But every falling tear is always understood
Yes, life is hard, but God is good

You start to cry
'Cause you've been strong for so long
And that's not how you feel
You try to pray
But there's nothing left to say
So you just quietly kneel

In the silence of all that you face
God will give you His mercy and grace

Jesus never said
It was an easy road to travel
He only said that you would never be alone
So when your last thread of hope
Begins to come unraveled
Don't give up, He walks beside you
On this journey home and He knows

Life is hard, the world is cold
We're barely young and then we're old
But every falling tear is always understood
Yes, life is hard, but God is good


You and your wife will make it through Boone, in Christ ..you'll make it through together.
Praying for you,
Marco

 

[holyspirit]

Hope this helps you, and answers your question, my brother was agnostic he lied and cheated people for money for drink and in the end the drink killed him, and I had to go up to the hospital to the mortuary to fortify my brothers body, and as I waited out side the room, so they could get him ready, the door opened and I walk in to the room, and when I looked on the table I could see my brother lying there as I walked over there my heart was crushed, I felt Jesus and Jesus said this to me, peter its just his shell that’s died perter his gone home to god and that death its only a tempery separation, and they when I die I will be reunited with him, I never looked at it like that before and that really help me I thought yep it is only tempery.
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Jesus not only died for are sins he also died for all are FOULTS and he loves us with all are faults that means if we are gay as well you see with god all things are possible Jesus is a sub stain of the farther and Jesus love for each of us it is infinite, so much infinite are minds can not even comprehend it,
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They say out of the heart the mouth speaks, the pastor he was wrong that person has gone home to god.