Help For My Love(s)

[StrongMan_PH]

Hello,


This is my first time creating a post and I hope that I will be able to properly convey my thoughts. I have read entries before as a casual reader but I was compelled to create an account to hear what other like minded people believe.

I've been dating my precious love for almost five years now. We've shared everything together and I can't imagine my life without her. Two years ago I found Jesus and opened my heart to the Lord. My girlfriend does not believe the same as I do and she is very much against this. I've tried to explain to her my beliefs and convictions, but she has said that she will never change her mind and does not want Jesus in her life. I can understand that when we began our relationship I was without Christ in my life and we did not have the friction from out seperate beliefs.

Now I've found that her family/friends view me a little differently and snide jokes are made about my faith. I know her mother has told her that it would be easier to be without me because of the problems we may face from our views. I love her with all of my heart and I want to be with someone who I will spend an eternity with. She says that she accepts my choice and still loves me and wants to spend our lives together.

It pains me to think that she will not be saved and that I can't make our lives together work. So, my problem is whether I should stay with her and attempt to help her find the Lord, knowing that if I am unable to show her the way that she won't be with me. The other option is to end our relationship and move on without her in my life.

I was hoping people would have an idea regarding this situation or maybe they have been in a situation like this before and they can explain their experiences from their choice...

Love in Christ

- Patrick H.

 

[Chad]

Hi brother Patrick. Let me explain a few things all based on Scripture.

First, do not intend on marrying her if she is still an unbeliever. Generally (this hurts) you must move on to someone else that GOD has in store for you.

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

Now, you love her and you share much. However, our GOD is a Healer of our hurts and a redeemer. He is also all knowing, all powerful, all wise beyond our understanding.

Isaiah 55:9
“ For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts.

My point in quoting Isaiah is this: GOD has already a special someone for you that you will cherish. If it is GOD's will for you to be married (likely it is), then be faithful, joyful because He has a great surprise for you.

On a side note, pray for your girlfriend, pray for yourself that the Holy Spirit guides you and helps you move on and away from your g/f if that is GOD's ultimate choice. Do not be afraid nor discouraged. Trust me on this, I've gone through this a few good times as well and I'm only 27.

GOD bless.

 

[miss]

Hi brother Patrick,

I imagine how shall be difficult this situation for you. I never passed for an experince of theses, but I have friends who suffered also when they needed to decide about the relationship of them with a person without Christ .
I believe that the best way is you to look for direction of God to the your relationship. The Bible says:" The heart of the man can make plans, but the right response it comes of the Lord." Prov.16:1
But an important thing would be good also you to know: Jesus can salve your girlfriend being you dating with her or not, she will need only opens the heart in the time who HE to chose to call her. I understand your worry, you can and shall pray for her, but to be salved or no, it will depend just her.
The Word of God says: "Delivery your way to the Lord, trusts in HE, and all more HE will make." PSalm: 37:5

Brother, I hope humblly who I can to have helped you.

The peace of the Lord Jesus,

Miss.

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings Patrick,

May I recommend to you what Chad has said.

Brother, I understand the love you have for your girl, but may I suggest you consider your words.... I love her with all my heart.... for this is where you can come unstuck. Loving your gal is wonderful and words are probably not able to fully express such love... but, your Lord requires that sort of dedication for Him and Him alone, i.e. ... your whole heart.
Please put Jesus first in your words, for your sake. If you continue with your lover, it will become an obstacle for you if you say you love both her and the Lord with your whole heart. She must know that Jesus comes first to you, and she must always play second fiddle, If you were to marry, you could play together in harmony, so sweet, to the Lord, as one.

I would suggest that you allow the burning desire for the Lord to consume you, and prayerfully love your friend with His love, as a witness, which means sometimes you may need to say no to her and to you, in order that the love of God is undefiled.
God knows the outcome. Trust him, and do not, I repeat, DO NOT, think for Him, and figure that if you marry this lass, it will be better or that she will come around in time. If you marry her, as an unbeliever, you will be instilling a sense of sort of ..... no need to consider if I should become a Christian, he married me as I am so why should I now change?
You must consider your friend, and her life. Allow your decisions to take into account that if you truely love her you can and will say 'no' if it means life to her.
We will be praying for you, my brother. I ask always that the Lord opens and closes doors for me, and I ask you to do the same, and this will make it clear. If and when a door closes, you must trust that the Lord has closed it and do not then try to open it again.

Also, ask yourself as honestly as possible, do you want her to become a Christian so you can get married, or do you want her to become a Christian so she will be set free from the power of the evil one?
Does she know your heart and mind on this matter? In other words, does she understand that you are wondering about whether you should remain in a relationship with her as a non-believer?
Love is about giving of yourself, and in this instance you may have to give up your desire for you both to be together, in order to do the right thing by her. It would be nice if marrying her would solve the problem, but it won't.
The mere fact that you ask, is indication that the Lord is trying to tell you something. Remember that Jesus loves your girlfriend more than you ever will and His love is what she needs.
For you, my brother, you too need His love more than hers, and indeed He loves you more than she ever will. So, listen to Chad's advice and seek the Lord. If your girl is that much to you, I know she is worth the prayer and waiting for, but put God first, as He is Lord of your lives, whether together or not.

May you have clarity as you seek the Lord and strength to follow His guiding hand in your life, now and always.

Bless you,

Br. Bear