Help me with my walk...

[LacyC]

This is my first thread so bare with me! Well i have a little bit of an issue that i am needing to get help with... Balancing my relationship with God and my husband. My husband is definitely a believer, just not a follower of Christ. He has lots the "passion" of wanting to obey and live his life for God. I continue to stumble with my relationship with God because i do not know how live for God and obey Him, while my husband is not. I use to push the issue on my husband and letting him know how much i wanted him o live for God and it only caused problems, i was so strong in my walk with God then, but now i am letting it be and not saying anything to my husband about his walk and i have slowly faded away from my relationship with God. The problem is a lot bigger than it is sounding i just dont know how to put it in words. i just know that i cant get my relationship to where it once was with Him.

Any suggestions?

 

[Coconut]

Hello Lacy :`)

Can you tell me how you related to God in the beginning of your walk with Him?

 

[LacyC]

what do you mean by how i related to him?

 

[Coconut]

You said you cant seem to get your relationship to where it once was with God, so I was wondering why you feel that you have faded away,
what was it like in the beginning?

 

[LacyC]

Well i mean its my fault, maybe the passion isnt there for Him like it once was.. im not sure. i mean i want so bad to live the way He wants me to but i just cant seem to get it. At one point(in the beginning), i was doing everything i could to obey Him.. if i was sinning, first chance i got i asked for his forgiveness... i prayed all the time, read my Bible 2 or 3 times a day, was doing things with the Church.. i just felt Him there at all times and i did all i could to walk with Him... but i just cant get to that point it seems like. And what is crazy is i want to be at that point more than i ever have before but i just cant seem to get it right. Does that make sense??

 

[Coconut]

Yes it makes perfect sense, I`d say most of us have been there at one time or another...

Whether you can believe it or not, you are in a better place now than you were before. That sounds like a strange thing to say I know, but you see you were doing everything you thought was important to please God, but that only hindered you from entering into His rest and simply enjoying your relationship with Him. A young bride tends to act like you did in the beginning, its not so much a bad thing, but all the doing and doing and doing, striving to please the husband, will soon wear a girl out

It seems you have worn yourself out spiritually, but that puts you in a real good place to accept what God really wants from you, simple trusting in His constant presence, (He promised to never leave you or forsake you) trusting in His love for you, (wow does He ever love you) trusting in His guidance and plan for you. We can never please God by striving to please Him by all we do in the flesh (Romans 8:8)...but He tells us He wants to fill us with His Spirit, so He can relax and let Him do all the work thru us. How wonderful is that!?

Learning to rest in God, is a process, and it can be a long one for those of us who are used to doing everything for ourselves. Some of us are fiercely independent (what God sees as pride, and has no place in relationship) and He has to break us of that. But truly it all comes down to a matter of belief. Do you believe you can trust what God has said? If you believe, then you only need enter His rest, and begin to enjoy the relationship He is offering you.

Blessings

 

[dchena]

Hi there,
What coconut said.... plus what you're describing sounds a bit like what I go through from time to time, just before I get a huge gift from God. It's possible to let our relationship with God stagnate. We keep doing what do because it worked in the past and we start relying on our actions to get us that close feeling we want with God. And we stop listening for God and what HE wants in the relationship. Well, I've found that God likes us to change. He likes me to change, anyway. Like cocnut said, trusting HE is there even when we don't feel Him, and opening ourselves to Him all over again... 'What does He want?' Start listening again. Go for a walk, Talk to Him. Sometimes all I do is let all the gunk in my head unravel. I say, all this is going on, can I just tell it to you, and it goes on and on ... and then it gets quieter, and I feel Him again.

Sometimes He surprises me and gives me more of himself than I ever felt before, and it is a gift. But it does come in changes in me. I think He does that so I rely on Him, not my habits.

I don't know, maybe just be quiet, go for a walk, let Him know you're listening to Him. See what happens. It'll be how you like it again. Or ask for growth in an area in your life, that'll surely bring on change and His presence again.

 

[Coconut]

"Sometimes He surprises me and gives me more of himself than I ever felt before, and it is a gift. But it does come in changes in me. I think He does that so I rely on Him, not my habits."

Just had to say that blessed me so much dchena...♥

 

[Trishann]

Wow what a beautiful message Coconut and dchena that you shared with LacyC. The very heart of God.

God Bless, Trish

 

[Guardian]

lacy, It seems your problem is not with God, or serving because you seem to wish to be able to, thus the thread. And no top of that you are willing to go to extreme lengths to find the answers, though just our opinions.

I would advise you to stop comparing yourself, God does not mean everyone to do the same thing. Like for one praising God, it might be singing, another dancing, and still you have others that might think, walk, run and so on. God made each of us different to fit into our place and sing the song of humanity.

 

[carlos marquez]

"Refresh my heart, part B"


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[LacyC]

Thank you all so much for the advice!! it really helped. i will definitely start spending more alone time with God becasue i definitely lack there, and it will help so much to build a better relationship with him. Thank you guys again so much!

 

[spirit1st]

I would guess you need to fast and it will help both of you!
I found it takes three full days water only for us to walk in our Spirit more fully!
The 2 nd day is very hard as satan will try his evil best to stop us!
the third day is easy!
Isa 58:6 Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke?
Isa 58:8 Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee; the glory of the LORD shall be thy rereward.
Isa 58:9 Then shalt thou call, and the LORD shall answer; thou shalt cry, and he shall say, Here I am.

He makes us 3 promises
1- break all yokes that hold us back?
2- brings healing to our bodies
3- He will come and talk with us
i found it True!

 

[LacyC]

this probably sounds bad... but i dont know if i can have just water for 3 days.......

 

[spirit1st]

its easy when we ASK for HIS help and Count on Him!He gives us everything we need!
He went 40 days as did moses !
Just ASK HIM ,what HE wants you to do and ASK HIM to put it in your HEART AND MIND .He will!

 

[Boanerges]

Mat 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

 

[spirit1st]

FASTING is NO FOOD water Only!

Mat 4:2 And when he had fasted forty days and forty nights, he was afterward an hungred.

WE do not give the body anything it can use for fuel

 

[spirit1st]

THAT is our Problem ?We want to live by our own Understanding And NOT OUR LORDS!
Fasting I found ,For three days ,Allows the Inner man [our Spirit] to gain control over the flesh and the flesh thinking !Then we are in direct comunacation with our FATHER GOD and We hear Him well and can be used By Him in a more perfect way!
In our understanding, We Just do what we Think?HE wants, When We Hear him clearly We do PERFECTLY And then SEE the miracles in our Lives and Others!
The flesh will not die after three days water only !We Fast to walk and Li8ve though our spirit!
Which is GODS CHILD and a HEAVENLY BEING, If Born -Again!
The outward is a tool to be used By Our Spirit,Which Will ALWAYS be Led 100% by HIS SPIRIT!
All our problems and battles take place in our Flesh mind!Our Spirits mind has No problems or tempations at All , Not even one problem!


Gal 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

Gal 5:17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.



THis is what is in our Spirit!
Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Gal 5:23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Gal 5:24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
Gal 5:25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.


Eph 4:24 And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
Col 3:10 And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:


Rom 6:22 But now being made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life.
WE have everything we need in our New Creature! and we have the HOLY GHOST to guide and teach us ,if willing?



He waits 24/7 for us to ASK!

HE searches our Spirit and looks to see if we have the Mind of Christ in our Spirit or Not?
Rom 8:27 And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.



1Co 2:16 For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.

That mind is in our Spirit at Salvation but of course needs to grow and mature !But it is Much better to live in or though that mind than our flesh mind!

That mind will not fail us or HIm , our flesh mind will!
if you do not understand? it is ok .We learn Spiritual trues only from the Holy Ghost!He alone Opens our Eyes to SEE such things!That is why, the World cannot see these things!
Bless All here that Love our LORD!
And none of us can see Everything at our beginning it is a slow learning process which many Never fully mature And I have not fully matured yet!

 

[Janette]

Why are we driving off road?

Ok,

Exactly how did this thread wherein someone asked about how to foster a relationship with the Lord when her own husband is being a stumbling block to her somehow turn into a trite little discussion of the proper definition and practice of fasting?!?

So back on track:

Young lady, your relationship with the Lord is your responsibility. There is NOTHING your husband can do or not do to affect it. Stop using that man as an excuse for your own lack of fortitude in the resistance to sin or for your own lack of resolve in your repentance of it when you slip.

Having said that, if your husband is being a deliberate stumbling block to you (bringing in porn or something else that's obviously not Christian), then it's up to you to pray for him because he's probably not in a place where he's strong enough to pray for himself. You may need the help of whatever church community you depend upon if you're dealing with something like that.

However, just because *you* have a desire to "be involved with the Lord" in a specific way, does not mean your husband shares that Calling. If you want to spend three hours a week at various bible study functions, understand that your husband may not need that kind of other-people-involved fellowship. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with him or that he's "not Christian enough." Some people desperately need the feeding a church can provide, others don't.

 

[trucker]

Help me with my walk

Lacy, your walk with God has to be a walk of Love, not a walk of trying to love by God by your works and actions. Reading your bible, praying all should be things done because you love God. What has happened to so many Christians they start their walk with God based on simply loving God, then someone comes along and says, Lacy you must read your bible everyday, act a certain way, dress a certain way and do all these things so God will be pleased with you. God is pleased with you, loves you unconditionally and wants you to serve him because you love him, not trying to gain brownie points by doing things for him. Doing things for God is awesome, but if your motivation is out of fear of rejection, or that your works will please him, its all in vain. Read the book of Galatians, Romans and Hebrews. These books will really reveal to you Gods love for you, the New Covenant verses the Old Covenant of Law and how to walk out your faith. Galatians was written to the Christians in Galatia who had accepted Christ and the Jewish people tried to put them under Law telling them that loving God and serving him out of a heart for him was not correct. They insisted they be circumcised and follow the precepts of the Old Law. Under the Old Covenant of Mosaic Law, to please God and be accepted you had to keep the whole Law. You were rewarded based on you behavior and obedience. Under the New Testament we look to what Jesus did for us. His sacrifice did it all for us. The only part we play now is accepting Christ, what he did for us and then live by Grace through faith. All the promises of God in the New Covenant are obtained by accepting Christ. He did it all. Under the new covenant we rest in Gods finished work of Christ. Yes your behavior is important, yes, reading the bible is important, yes acting in line with Godly values is important, but we do not do these things to try to please God. He is pleased with you already. In fact, while you were still a sinner, he died for you because he loved you. How much more now that you have accepted Christ as your savior!

Your walk with Christ is based on relationship. Your love for him will produce the works and actions you desire. Not only that, you have the Holy Spirit living in you to come along side and help you live this life! Grace is not just Gods favor on your life. Grace is Gods ability working in and through you to empower you to walk this life! Gods laws are written on your heart now. As you yield to the Holy Spirits direction in your life, your relationship with him will get more and more intimate. Do spend time in the Word of God, but understand that you are complete, whole and accepted in him. You are reading now to see what was purchased for you through Christ and resting in it. When God says you are more than a conquer through Christ which strengthens you, its a finished work! He already sees you as the conquer in life because he made you that way!

The book of Hebrews explains to the Jews its not about Law anymore. The law was types and shadows of the New Covenant to come. It was fulfilled in Christ. Paul is explaining to the Jews, that no longer does your acceptance come through the blood of bulls, goats and lambs. It comes through the one time shed blood of Christ. Isaiah 52-60 tells you what Christ did for us on the cross. II corth 5:17-21 tells us the bases of the new covenant!

As far as your husbands walk. You would do best if you just lived your walk out before him and not insist he live a certain way. Your conduct will be an example to him. Unless he is doing something illegal, immoral, violates the word of God or your conscience, then let him grow in his relationship with Christ.

Get to a church that teaches Grace and Love, not works and law to be accepted. I see you live in Oklahoma, I know there are good churches in Tulsa, Broken Arrow and the surrounding areas.

God bless you,

Trucker