Help please Help?

[godsgirl]

How would i know when God brings me my husband?
God told me 4 times that i was going to marry. But not to rush into a relationship right now just wait. So i got engaged to this guy who wasn't even a christian but god told me the whole time i was dating him that he wasn't my husband but i don't listen to God. As the longer i was with him it just got bad then it got to the point where i couldn't stand being in the relationship so i broke-up with him.
I'm soo glad but how can i tell when God brings me a boyfriend that will be my husband? Anyone got any advice for me?
I feel like i NEVER want to date again!

 

[Coconut]

Godsgirl take time to smell the roses! :wink:
The answer to your question is not found in following your
feelings and emotions, (these tend to be fickle as human nature goes)
but knowing that you are compatable with the other person
in all the areas that are most important to you.
May I suggest that while you are waiting, that you
use this time to foster an even closer relationship
with Jesus, and to re-access what it is that your goals
and dreams, and desires are, so that you will know
what you need and are looking for in a mate, and be better
prepared to enter into a marriage relationship.
Have you heard of or read the book
"I kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris? If not,
my teens highly recommend it for its sound biblical
advice for singles.

Here`s the link to show you what book i`m referring to:
http://www.family.org/resources/itempg.cfm?itemid=3961&pid=0&sid=0

 

[Freedomwhatelse]

Oh honey, there is no rush believe me!! God told you to hang on, Hang on!! I fully agree with what Coconut said, you need to be using this time to get an even closer relationship with Our Lord. When the time is right..., and I know that you are not gonna like this, I didn't either and it made no sense to me whatever, but when the time is right you will JUST know. when you are praying Thank God for grooming the Man that is to be your Husband, instead of praying that He brings Him to you now.
Take it from me God does know the right one and you will meet Him. It took until I was 28 till I met the man that was to become my husband and as soon as I met him I did know that he was the one. Now things happen the way that they do and at the present time we are not living together but God has brought us apart to build our relationship with Him and then I know that He will be bringing us back together. For we have a Love for each other that is so very different from what I have ever known and I could feel the strange feeling when we first met and spent some time together, it wasn't the lustful feelings either. I wouldn't know how to discribe what the feeling was but it was a very magical feeling.
Build yourself closer to the Lord and He will bring you right to your husband. That is likely what God is trying to get you to do. God's timing is absolutely perfect. The longer that you try yourself to find the person the longer it will be and the more heartache that you will go through. Trust in the Lord and get close to Him!!
God Bless,Love, Peace, and Prayers,
Yours in Him!:rose: p.s. and don't like Coconut said go by your feelings cause they can be used against us. You will Know!!

 

[The Wang Master]

I know God directs us all in some way, but I also believe he guides us by giving us tools or situations to do help us, we just choose whether or not to use them. Something like that. . .


Personally, I feel what you are going through is just how ways are these days. There is no neccessity for marriage as times aren't as tough as they were 200 years ago and with all the premarital sex and what not going on, we don't have to worry about the population.

About you though, you seem nice and your my age I think so I don't think it is your time to get married. Not till you are about 25 maybe? It's a long way to go but maybe your experiences along the way are needed to fully value your marriage to whoever it is you meet with. Marriage isn't just something you do, or at least I'd like to believe that, it's when you pick your favorite person in the world and share a home with them for the rest of your lives.

you know, I'm male and 19 and I have a pulse i think, did I forget to mention I'm shameless. Kinda alot to say just to hit on you. Wheeeeeee *runs away*

 

[Chad]

Wrong Wang. Marriage is GOD's idea, creation and purpose is His own. With your posts that I've read I would say it isn't safe to take any bit of wisdom from you whatsoever, no way.

Don't hit on anyone either if you do not mind.

 

[twob4_me]

I know God directs us all in some way, but I also believe he guides us by giving us tools or situations to do help us, we just choose whether or not to use them. Something like that. . .


Personally, I feel what you are going through is just how ways are these days. There is no neccessity for marriage as times aren't as tough as they were 200 years ago and with all the premarital sex and what not going on, we don't have to worry about the population.

About you though, you seem nice and your my age I think so I don't think it is your time to get married. Not till you are about 25 maybe? It's a long way to go but maybe your experiences along the way are needed to fully value your marriage to whoever it is you meet with. Marriage isn't just something you do, or at least I'd like to believe that, it's when you pick your favorite person in the world and share a home with them for the rest of your lives.

you know, I'm male and 19 and I have a pulse i think, did I forget to mention I'm shameless. Kinda alot to say just to hit on you. Wheeeeeee *runs away*

I CAN NOT believe what I just read here. You can't be serious?! Marriage is sacred to God. As a matter of fact my wedding anniversary is today. We have been married 15 years! If you don't want to marry you should stay celibate! Also it is NOT your place to tell someone when or when not to get married. A person will know when that time is right. *Walking away before I say something more out of anger*

 

[Createdtoworship]

No rush, You should read "lady in waiting". Basically its baised off of ruth in the bible and it explains how we need to seek god and be in love with him if we are one day he will give us our "boaz". I heard a story once of a little girl who begged her mom for these dime store pearls and even though they would turn her skin green and stuff she loved them. Well her daddy would come in to tuck her in at night and he said do you love me and she said of course i love you daddy!!! He said do you love me enough to give me your pearl necklace.
she said no daddy not my neacklace you can have my pretty pony with the long mane or my tea set but not my pearls.
This happened every night for days until one night he came in to tuck her in and she was standing there crying with her hand out and he reached out his hand and took what was in hers. It was her necklace. She said said through her tears i love you daddy.
It was then that he reached into his pocket and pulled out a long box and opened it.
Inside was string of real pearls. He was just waiting to trade her the real treasure for her dime store pearls.

God has someone perfect for you and you just have to wait and seek him and when the time comes he will tell you, trust that.
-Andrea