How do you take the decision to get married?

[Property Of God]

Lately a good guy proposed to me, I saw it coming but not that soon, I got happy but I felt scared, it's normal I guess, he's 9 years older than myself, is that too much?

I just want to know how you take such a big decision, what do you base it on? feelings, or logic? the Holy spirt right?

There's a big chance I'd be happy with that man, but what if I won't? I've always feared that word, marriage.

I need help from married people, what should I look for, what should I expect, how do I handle this big decision? A part of me wants to say yes to him, but there's another part, the scared childish part, telling me don't.

If i can't make that decision, does it mean I don't want him?

 

[Boanerges]

While I am not sure what that means I am sure of this; we should pray and get God's counsel on our every move. And even more so on such a life changing decision. Pray for His guidance and wait for His peace in your spirit before making a single step.

 

[Giggles4God]

I agree with Boanerges.

Also, my husband is 9 years older than me....but it all depends on how you look at things.

I know one thing...since you are questioning it....you aren't ready to make the choice yet.

So, pray. Pray with this man and pray alone...ask those you know who are good friends to pray. This is a big decision that you don't want to just go blindly into...or make the choice to not marry him and God wanted you to do so.

 

[stephen]

Lately a good guy proposed to me, I saw it coming but not that soon, I got happy but I felt scared, it's normal I guess, he's 9 years older than myself, is that too much?

I just want to know how you take such a big decision, what do you base it on? feelings, or logic? the Holy spirt right?

There's a big chance I'd be happy with that man, but what if I won't? I've always feared that word, marriage.

I need help from married people, what should I look for, what should I expect, how do I handle this big decision? A part of me wants to say yes to him, but there's another part, the scared childish part, telling me don't.

If i can't make that decision, does it mean I don't want him?

a good guy proposed to me

1 Is he a Christian...and following Jesus
2 Do you love him.
3 Does he love you

To me these things are basic.

Life can be difficult when you marry the right person. To marry the wrong person is a tradegy

There's a big chance I'd be happy with that man,


I say again. Are the both of you in love with each other? This is absolutely vital


In Hid Love

 

[Property Of God]

Oh dear stephan, you're a romantic man, I don't want to base it only on my feelings alone, I did that before and it wasn't enough, this time I want to make the right decision, I think as a Christian I've a super power, I have the holy spirt to guide me, not just feelings or logic, the heart is wicked and I must protect it.

Pray for me brother, pray that accept him as he is if he's the one for me

 

[stephen]

Oh dear stephan, you're a romantic man, I don't want to base it only on my feelings alone, I did that before and it wasn't enough, this time I want to make the right decision, I think as a Christian I've a super power, I have the holy spirt to guide me, not just feelings or logic, the heart is wicked and I must protect it.

Pray for me brother, pray that accept him as he is if he's the one for me

I hear you sister.......I hear you....and I Wish you well......in Jesus.....and I am praying

I spoke from my heart....I realise you are a mature woman....we love you here at t.j. and pray for your well being.....and happiness....in Jesus

I have enjoyed a marriage relationship 43 years........It began with love and romance and we remain in love, after the years.........and all the rest.........The basis has been our love and commitment to/for each other

I wish you well 100%......and with all of my heart.....Keep close to Jesus and those who follow Him, the both of you

In His Love

 

[SasyBoy]

Don't forget it's great to be attracted to each other otherwise you'll could struggle... depends on who you are.

I'm happy to say I have the greatest crush on my wife :shade: Yum!

 

[BlessedLady]

In Biblical days, the marriages were arranged. Thats why they have the command to love their wives. I think that in any marriage , love can grow. I believe that age does not matter. I am 6 years older than my husband. And we have had our rocky moments. But we are alright now because Gods guidance keeps it all going.


The only thing i would measure a marriage partner by is:

Does he or she love God more than you?

That needs to be a yes.

If it is a yes , they will follow the Bible. And that is very important.
Especially now that traditional marriage IN THE WORLD is changing so rapidly.
The Biblical form of marriage MUST survive.

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