I can only speak for myself on this one brother Spocrates,in order to forgive,I had to want to forgive. There are no magic words to say,there is no sacrifice one can make to obtain this. There is only a will, and a purpose you have personal, to want to do such a tough action. And it can be very tough! WHY Should I? Indeed why? I will never see this person again in my lifetime,they cannot hurt me anymore in any way,except in one area of my life! My mind! The reason to forgive, can be more important then forgiving itself to me bro.
For from the reason one chooses to have,the hope is that a lasting result may take place to be able to let this go!( rom 15:13)Hope is a good thing brother. Hope is what we in Christ Jesus always begin with,for from hope,( Hope is the door Jesus is knocking upon to let him in ) Love can indeed enter in through hope! When Jesus came along he reminded the people of there hope.( exodus 14:13-16,) For I AM( john 8:58) sent him! And now I AM your hope as well! IF!!!! You believe!( john 6:28-29) Your only work in me!
Hope to me brother is not talked about enough,love looks to replace hope,but to me brother, one can never love without first having hope in that love! For what faith or love can be acted upon without first having hope that what we do will even work?? Believing God's words over our emotion and feeling is indeed to me brother keeping hope living! And since hope is kept alive,love and faith can mature and grow daily inside us. Life is tough enough to consider daily to me,I need simple bro. lol I do not have full wisdom,but i can say I hope in the wisdom from God i do have. And if another brother or sister is encouraged in there walk,then God's hope which lives in me,can be moved unto another,because having hope for self,comes before one can ever have hope for another. Blessing bro.