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OH here is a subject!! I have been reading many posts from many of our sisters out there,who do not understand there man. Well what I am about to share comes not from all men,but from a humble one,made to be this way because of who lives now in him.
Now what I am about to say, are only the thoughts of one man,I sure do not speak for any other men! LOL Women are drawn to Security,in a man,they use more faith for themselves then a man does in most cases.Not all, but most. When they say I do,they are not saying I do only to the man they love,but rather they believe in this man for the security he can provide.
Men say I do, not for security from the woman they love,but to know they will also be feed in love by there woman in the future years.( helped!)( or a helpmate) Most men who marry, marry without thinking about there obligations to the woman! They are to be an example of both love,and to create in there woman one thing!! A mirror of themselves!
This can only be done,if the man looks to become the mirror image of who first created him! Jesus! Most men do not consider this,because they are looking out for who they have always looked out for,themselves.They would never say this to the woman!! God Forbid!!
But in truth most men are this way. So the two marry,and all is pretty good for a while,the honeymoon gets over pretty fast after the first couple of years.Then the woman who is always thinking, begins to look more close at what she has gotten herself into,and sometimes,how to get out as well.
The man is fine as long as his freedom to do what he wants to do,is not tampered with! He can put up with a lot,but when the woman looks to enter his space,and start putting restrictions on her man,well things can get pretty ugly in a hurry. The woman would not have to do this,if the man is placing her above himself.
We are all selfish at times of course,but when we both said I do,that does not mean for now I do,but later I don't. A man likes to look at himself as the bread winner,like a mighty warrior going out for the hunt, and coming back with a reward.
And the woman should be grateful for it! I mean after all!! You are at home, sometimes with children,I am out there slaving away all day or night long!! Just for you all! But the man forgets, that the woman is also working very hard!
You look to take care of children!! By yourself! Mend the cuts,give always from self, and not receive anything but I am home,where is my supper?? And what if the woman does not have children but also works as well like the man??What is her reward?
Men blame women for there own lack? When the man is suppose to provide! When the woman starts grumbling,the man better take note of an earthquake coming and prepare! But not prepare in telling there woman how they should act,but rather they are to lead! The man should think humm??
Maybe I am not spending enough time with my helpmate,I mean she is suppose to be my helpmate,but she can never be this unless I provide her a way to become one. Enter The Lord! Now the man decides he better pray,now he decides perhaps he is not enough to help in the problem.
But the man has lied to himself for so long,knowing this problem was around the corner,it is to late.The woman has kept silent, she thought the best,about her man,well he will come around.But one day some little thing goes wrong,and the man hears what has been going wrong now for 2 years worth!! BUT!! Honey , I, I,oh forget it! And storms out of the house, he thinks to calm her down!!
When what he should do,is remember why he first took this woman to be his wife in the first place.The reason should have been not only because he loves the woman,but because he believes himself to be accountable enough to God in himself that he can lead!
And by what the man both does and says,gives the woman all she needs to know,in what she can ever expect from here man from this day!! Forward! Sometimes her faith in the man are crushed. Now!! Not to beat up on the men to bad,let us turn over the coin!
A woman who is unsure in her own faith with the Lord should never look to man,to become fulfilled! That is not mans purpose to the woman! His purpose is to be the example to her,but she has to follow this example as well! To rebel because she feels so much more important is not right either! The man should test much before he says I do,so he will not have to say latter I wished I had not said that!
That is what being engaged is all about! To engage is to battle now,before the real battle begins! Work out what to you both is in play,and what is not in play.Can you both deal with the others weakness? because what you see before you,is what you both will have!
Many look,and say well I can change him or her.LOL To my way of thinking! Sounds like bondage to me brothers and sisters! Maybe not with chains on yet,but I sure see freedom being lost sooner rather then later.NOW!! What if this is all water under the bridge,what if you are already in this spot?Now what? Proverbs 17:17 says this.A friend loves at all times.
It does not say,only if that friend receives love back as well. What is a friend? To many a friend is someone they can both help,and encourage without being involved themselves with them.
But that is not a friend!A friend endures with the other.A friend loves not expecting anything in return,a Friend loves without cause to love.Easyer said then done! I know this.But when you said I do,did you not consider this to be your very best friend? That no matter what happened, you both could indeed never be set apart from each other? But something has,so now what? matters not who's fault it was,you are both one in Christ!
So whatever happens to one happens for the other as well.Even if they do not think it so.Before the man or woman entered in your life, which you yourself allowed them to. Where were you then? In yourself i mean? Were you secure? Were you humble in Jesus? Did you look to the Lord to show you how to love? How to be of strong courage? How to be secure in yourself?What a friend truly means??
If the answer is no,then now is a good time to do just this! For who can a blind person lead? And where does a blind person go to be helped? The woman needs the help,and the blind man cannot lead her unless he can see first! When the blind man helps the blind woman,she sees,and by what she sees,can be his helpmate!
And she can cause in her man what the man truly does need!! HELP HIMSELF!! And she can be build up,and strongly encouraged that Jesus in her,has both comforted and helped Jesus in her man,so that now truly!! You are not 2 but 1 in HIM!( ephesians 5:25-33) In my humble thoughts this is just what all of this means to me. I know many may disagree,that is fine! You have every right to voice you own thoughts! That is what freedom is,and what freedom in our Lord stands for,to never make others restricted in any way! I hope, this has helped many of you.
Now what I am about to say, are only the thoughts of one man,I sure do not speak for any other men! LOL Women are drawn to Security,in a man,they use more faith for themselves then a man does in most cases.Not all, but most. When they say I do,they are not saying I do only to the man they love,but rather they believe in this man for the security he can provide.
Men say I do, not for security from the woman they love,but to know they will also be feed in love by there woman in the future years.( helped!)( or a helpmate) Most men who marry, marry without thinking about there obligations to the woman! They are to be an example of both love,and to create in there woman one thing!! A mirror of themselves!
This can only be done,if the man looks to become the mirror image of who first created him! Jesus! Most men do not consider this,because they are looking out for who they have always looked out for,themselves.They would never say this to the woman!! God Forbid!!
But in truth most men are this way. So the two marry,and all is pretty good for a while,the honeymoon gets over pretty fast after the first couple of years.Then the woman who is always thinking, begins to look more close at what she has gotten herself into,and sometimes,how to get out as well.
The man is fine as long as his freedom to do what he wants to do,is not tampered with! He can put up with a lot,but when the woman looks to enter his space,and start putting restrictions on her man,well things can get pretty ugly in a hurry. The woman would not have to do this,if the man is placing her above himself.
We are all selfish at times of course,but when we both said I do,that does not mean for now I do,but later I don't. A man likes to look at himself as the bread winner,like a mighty warrior going out for the hunt, and coming back with a reward.
And the woman should be grateful for it! I mean after all!! You are at home, sometimes with children,I am out there slaving away all day or night long!! Just for you all! But the man forgets, that the woman is also working very hard!
You look to take care of children!! By yourself! Mend the cuts,give always from self, and not receive anything but I am home,where is my supper?? And what if the woman does not have children but also works as well like the man??What is her reward?
Men blame women for there own lack? When the man is suppose to provide! When the woman starts grumbling,the man better take note of an earthquake coming and prepare! But not prepare in telling there woman how they should act,but rather they are to lead! The man should think humm??
Maybe I am not spending enough time with my helpmate,I mean she is suppose to be my helpmate,but she can never be this unless I provide her a way to become one. Enter The Lord! Now the man decides he better pray,now he decides perhaps he is not enough to help in the problem.
But the man has lied to himself for so long,knowing this problem was around the corner,it is to late.The woman has kept silent, she thought the best,about her man,well he will come around.But one day some little thing goes wrong,and the man hears what has been going wrong now for 2 years worth!! BUT!! Honey , I, I,oh forget it! And storms out of the house, he thinks to calm her down!!
When what he should do,is remember why he first took this woman to be his wife in the first place.The reason should have been not only because he loves the woman,but because he believes himself to be accountable enough to God in himself that he can lead!
And by what the man both does and says,gives the woman all she needs to know,in what she can ever expect from here man from this day!! Forward! Sometimes her faith in the man are crushed. Now!! Not to beat up on the men to bad,let us turn over the coin!
A woman who is unsure in her own faith with the Lord should never look to man,to become fulfilled! That is not mans purpose to the woman! His purpose is to be the example to her,but she has to follow this example as well! To rebel because she feels so much more important is not right either! The man should test much before he says I do,so he will not have to say latter I wished I had not said that!
That is what being engaged is all about! To engage is to battle now,before the real battle begins! Work out what to you both is in play,and what is not in play.Can you both deal with the others weakness? because what you see before you,is what you both will have!
Many look,and say well I can change him or her.LOL To my way of thinking! Sounds like bondage to me brothers and sisters! Maybe not with chains on yet,but I sure see freedom being lost sooner rather then later.NOW!! What if this is all water under the bridge,what if you are already in this spot?Now what? Proverbs 17:17 says this.A friend loves at all times.
It does not say,only if that friend receives love back as well. What is a friend? To many a friend is someone they can both help,and encourage without being involved themselves with them.
But that is not a friend!A friend endures with the other.A friend loves not expecting anything in return,a Friend loves without cause to love.Easyer said then done! I know this.But when you said I do,did you not consider this to be your very best friend? That no matter what happened, you both could indeed never be set apart from each other? But something has,so now what? matters not who's fault it was,you are both one in Christ!
So whatever happens to one happens for the other as well.Even if they do not think it so.Before the man or woman entered in your life, which you yourself allowed them to. Where were you then? In yourself i mean? Were you secure? Were you humble in Jesus? Did you look to the Lord to show you how to love? How to be of strong courage? How to be secure in yourself?What a friend truly means??
If the answer is no,then now is a good time to do just this! For who can a blind person lead? And where does a blind person go to be helped? The woman needs the help,and the blind man cannot lead her unless he can see first! When the blind man helps the blind woman,she sees,and by what she sees,can be his helpmate!
And she can cause in her man what the man truly does need!! HELP HIMSELF!! And she can be build up,and strongly encouraged that Jesus in her,has both comforted and helped Jesus in her man,so that now truly!! You are not 2 but 1 in HIM!( ephesians 5:25-33) In my humble thoughts this is just what all of this means to me. I know many may disagree,that is fine! You have every right to voice you own thoughts! That is what freedom is,and what freedom in our Lord stands for,to never make others restricted in any way! I hope, this has helped many of you.
