I feel irritated

[seta_soujiro]

I feel so lost. I read my Bible, I pray to my Lord, and yet, now, I feel completely lost. I have so many emotions running to me that I can't eat or sleep. I had a big fight with my friend over an issue. The fight wasn't with me, but with my mom and my friend. The fight was a whole misunderstanding. My friend is mad at me for not "understanding her" yet she doesn't understand me. I also feel trapped. I can't really talk to anyone about it. When I look at pictures of her and me, i get irritated because i don't know what going on. Things have calmed down, but only for her. Idk, i feel as if something is wrong with me, as if i'm missing something. I've always thought to myself, maybe i'm to nice, to forgiving. I try to be as nice as possible to others, but in the end, its all for nothing. It always has been. It makes me wonder, why should i be nice, when only few are nice to me. My friend, she only cares mostly about herself. She is always right and if you try to correct them, not in a mean or bad way, i get chewed out. Idk what to think or do anymore...

 

[ladylovesJesus]

We are to be like Jesus. Being kind is a good way to be. Remember we reap what we sow.

Give it all to God who is big enough. The battle is His not ours. Gal.5.22. tells you what the fruit of the spirit is.

Does she know Jesus?

Jesus never promised us a bed of rosies. We are so blessed compared to some places. We can share the gospel. We have food to eat. We need to learn to be thankful to Jesus and just shine for Him. Bring others into His Kingdom.

Keep your eyes on Jesus and find some good Christian friends who will help and encouarge you too.

God bless

LLJ :rainbow: :rose:

 

[seta_soujiro]

She is a believer.

 

[Chad]

Unfortunately a lot of arrogant people refuse to accept a little correction here and there. I've had friends that way, and they are prideful or just plain arrogant. I stopped hanging out with them because of this. I have no time, energy nor emotion to waste on such people who cannot be humble and kind.

Do pray for them, but consider surrounding yourself with godly people. Its sad to say this, but true that friends come and go like seasons. They will only bring you down and possibly ruin your walk with Christ as well.

 

[mounty]

I had a friend as a child who was very similar to yours it appears, we grew up together and it took its toll on myself and my other friends, we put up with her as we knew she did not have any other friends,

When i moved away we lost touch and i set up a bebo profile so school friends and i could chat from time to time, however this girl contacted me and within two weeks she had become rude and insulting toward me ,i had to close down my bebo page to keep her from contacting me,

I have removed her from my life, you cannot keep a person like this in your life as they will begin to place a gap between you and Jesus.
It may be hard but it is the only way when you have given them chance and chance again and they have not changed or accepted your point of view, it is sad no doubt but action like this is sometimes required.

I noticed you said the fight happened between your friend and your mother, if someone has disrespected your mother this should show you you need to take action, a friend should never disrespect your parents as it is the last straw.

God Bless and Much Love xxxx

 

[Word of Life]

Yes this could be quite a difficult one to deal with, as most of us don't like correction, and also some of us are prone to listening to this spirit of irritableness, from time to time. It's all about listening to the right spirit (The Spirit of God) and not listening to these wrong spirits, which makes us stumble. Of course this can only be done with God's help and guidance.

I love my own company, and being in my own thoughts, but when I get interrupted, I know I sometimes I snap and I get irritable with people, but I do know this is wrong, and with God's help, I must learn to say things in the proper manner and with kindness, but in turn, not to be walked upon either. It's all about finding the right kind of balance, without sounding, if one is better than the other and totally respecting the other persons feelings, before ones speaks.

I have learnt a lot from this site. God has shown me through various people here, I need to learn to listen more, and think before I write things down, as that person, whom is receiving and reading what I have written, is a much a human being as I am.

The one thing I disagree with, is being told something, just to make me happy and content. As most of us, including myself, doesn't want to hear the truth because we don't want to hurt them, nor do we like being hurt. In my view, I would rather hear the truth today, from people, and get a bit upset and deal with it in my own time and learn by it and move on in the appropriate manner.

Now saying all this, this issue was between your mother and your friend, this has to be their problem and they are the ones they have to deal with it. This should not reflect your relationship between you and your mother nor between you and your friend. You need to be open and honest with them, and tell them that. Taking sides is not the answer, but bringing them both back to God is the answer. If you can, get them both in the same room together and I would suggest you say something like this, "well we do have a problem here, between you both, but how would Jesus deal with it."

God bless you and take care.