I feel like a failure!

[ArmyWife08]

I know what I need to do. I know that I've been called to be the light for God, but honestly I am very scared. I'm such a shy person as it is, I can barely speak two words to people I don't know. I work full time, and I feel as if I'm put at the job I'm at for a reason. It is difficult most of the time. Not one person there is a Christian. They slander me and dont even know me, which puts me back in my "shy" bubble most days. I want to tell them about Christ. There lives are the very same as mine was until I got saved. I just wish I wasn't so scared of them and their remarks. Sometimes I feel like the Lord is far away or dissapointed in me because I don't do what he is asking of me!
Will you please pray for me about this?

 

[sunshineaaks]

I know what I need to do. I know that I've been called to be the light for God, but honestly I am very scared. I'm such a shy person as it is, I can barely speak two words to people I don't know. I work full time, and I feel as if I'm put at the job I'm at for a reason. It is difficult most of the time. Not one person there is a Christian. They slander me and dont even know me, which puts me back in my "shy" bubble most days. I want to tell them about Christ. There lives are the very same as mine was until I got saved. I just wish I wasn't so scared of them and their remarks. Sometimes I feel like the Lord is far away or dissapointed in me because I don't do what he is asking of me!
Will you please pray for me about this?

I've got you in my prayers, armywife. He will be your strength, He has promised. Live the life God has commanded in obedience to His word, some will see Him in you. Sometimes, that is the greatest witness for Christ, our lives in obedience to Him.

He's already said that people will say all kinds of things against us, use us and bring harm. You may well be the only one praying for the salvation of those at your work place. It does become easier to forgive those who bring harm, a little each time. Don't be discouraged, He is always with you and when you feel the most frightened, praise Him for being there with you. It does help

 

[ArmyWife08]

Thank you so much. Yes, that is exactly what I need to do- praise Him for being right there with me, instead of listening to Satan's lies and believing I am all alone.

 

[csuperman2009]

Your not alone.

Hi, Armywife Don't feel to bad your not alone I have been a christian for more then 20 years and i'm still not what I should be.
I'm a shy person to and to make matters worse I worked in a factory for 20 years and all they did was cuss and I did to one thing i'm not going to do is lie about it I cussed to and I hated myself for it, anyway people are going to think about you whatever theyer going to you can't stop that thats just going to happen and theres nothing you can do about it.
The best advice I could give you would be to get in the word stay in the word be a sheep amoung wolves because thats what you are in that kind of situation and when you mess up and you will everyone does just pray forgive yourself and persist and keep up the Good Fight you may be the only light for Jesus they ever see look at it this way you could be witnessing for Jesus the whole time your there and never see any results while your there it may be after your gone that someone you were not even awhare of may have been posittivly affected by you for God.
So please don't give up.
hopfuly a friend.
My name in chat rooms is Superman

 

[Hekuran]

<< I might be barking up the wrong tree altogether here, so feel free to discard this if I am way off beam >>

I was once at a seminar on evangelism, where one person put a hand up, saying that she did not feel she could be an evangelist because she was quite reserved and didn't develop friendships very quickly.

The seminar leader's answer was brilliant in its simplicity.

"That's okay. Just make friends slowly"

--

Is is possible that the God has a special place and a special purpose for a shy and fearful person at your workplace? Is it possible that there are hurting people surrounding you that need the understanding and care of someone who is naturally reserved?

God is not dependent on people who are bold, confident and eloquent. He uses people like you, as you are, to be a channel of his grace.

My thinking is that if God has placed you where you are for a purpose, it is because you are you, not so that you change yourself.

So have another look at your colleagues and try to discern how God might use a timid person for his glory.

 

[sharen]

Bible bashing is the worst thing you can do. Just be yourself. God doesn't expect you to be something you're not. He knows your personality.

Just be honest. Non-christians can often smell dishonesty a mile away, and trying to present something you're not sure of or pretending to be more confident then you are is a giveaway that you have an ulterior agenda in talking to them.

Don't be 'nice' to people to get to them in a faith way. It's nasty.

Be real and you can't go wrong. (God might have only called you there to shine and pray. He might not actually want you evangelising. Especially if it's so unnatural for you.)

God cares more about those people then you do or ever will. Just trust him. Not trusting him is the biggest mistake that most christians make in trying to 'spread the gospel'. It's a no-win game. Trust me. God calls people, not us. He'll use us, but the devil also can when we become deceitful or manipulative in the process. Let God be God. - Remember the golden rule, some plant seeds, others water but God and God alone brings the growth. Forcing a seed kills the plant. Overwatering it drowns it.

Let God be God. Just do what he calls you to do. He is big enough to fill the gaps.


(if you're failing, he'll let you know - but guilt is a very well used tool of the devil in this area and he does a lot of damage through it. Faith means TRUST.)

 

[csuperman2009]

If you would like me to leave I will.

Heckeron and Sheren, first I want to say I reread my post and there was nothing of an unkind or Bible bashing nature,I wasn't saying she had to do anything that they were doing all I said was that I was human made mistakes and she was to and she wasn't alone.
What I ment was in a work place whare no one is a christian you have to be as wise as serpants and as innocent as doves or a sheep amoung wolves, I in no way shape or form ment that shyness was a bad thing at all the truth is I think it's very sweet but in a work place non christians can sometimes see shyness as a weakness and they will use it to tear a person up it's sad but true.
All I was saying was when that happends and it will Jesus said it wasn't going to be easy but not to give up when she messes up to forgive herself and them and go on from there.
I ment no ill will at all but I believe you and all others will read into this whatever you want to.
All I was doing was reaching out to someone thats all nothing more I didn't want any hateful dabate over how much I know or don't know because all I was really doing was saying Hello really thats it nothing more and I thought I might be able to relate I'm sorry if I offended anyone one of my biggest problems is TRUST, I DON'T TRUST ANYONE I know there are people who are going to put words in my mouth that I did not mean at all it's sad because I'm not a new member Iwas hear before but if you don't want me back thats fine there are other chatrooms Superman.

 

[Boanerges]

I know what I need to do. I know that I've been called to be the light for God, but honestly I am very scared. I'm such a shy person as it is, I can barely speak two words to people I don't know. I work full time, and I feel as if I'm put at the job I'm at for a reason. It is difficult most of the time. Not one person there is a Christian. They slander me and dont even know me, which puts me back in my "shy" bubble most days. I want to tell them about Christ. There lives are the very same as mine was until I got saved. I just wish I wasn't so scared of them and their remarks. Sometimes I feel like the Lord is far away or dissapointed in me because I don't do what he is asking of me!
Will you please pray for me about this?

My friend, do not think God is disappointed or surprised as He knew all this before He choose to send His Son to die for you. He accepts you as He accepts His own Son who has been made righteousness for you and He is never farther than the lowest whisper.
Being shy is painful as I can testify but it does get easier as we start to open our mouths. I was in the same boat until I was thrust in the middle of 10,000 people with a handful of tracts and told to witness. By the end of the day I was over the trauma and having a great time telling everyone about Jesus. The best part is this- no matter what people think or say about us we cannot be hypocrites for we only declare the goodness of our Lord and not our own. If they talked bad about Jesus then yes we will perhaps be scorned as well but- it is a great honor in God's eyes for one of His children to bear such a reproach for Christ's Namesake.
My sister, if the Lord were only looking to use perfect vessels He would have to wait until His return and do all the work Himself.
Do not look for results- if God wants you to speak the results are for Him to bring about.
He leads we speak. Even if our hands tremble and out voice cracks we make a decision that the heart of God is to be declared and His truth spoken in love.
You are in my prayer,
many blessings in Jesus Name,
your brother Larry.

Mat 5:11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.
Mat 5:12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.

 

[Christ4Ever]

I know what I need to do. I know that I've been called to be the light for God, but honestly I am very scared. I'm such a shy person as it is, I can barely speak two words to people I don't know. I work full time, and I feel as if I'm put at the job I'm at for a reason. It is difficult most of the time. Not one person there is a Christian. They slander me and dont even know me, which puts me back in my "shy" bubble most days. I want to tell them about Christ. There lives are the very same as mine was until I got saved. I just wish I wasn't so scared of them and their remarks. Sometimes I feel like the Lord is far away or dissapointed in me because I don't do what he is asking of me!
Will you please pray for me about this?

Dear Sister ArmyWife08…Sounds kind of strange opening up my comments to you that way…don’t know the job that you are doing that has you working with people that have you afraid. The thing about it is that they’re probably afraid of you especially if they have an idea that you are Christian. We show that in little ways that a lot of people take for granted. We hold the door open for others, we say thank-you, your welcome, sorry about that, I apologize if what I said has hurt you, do you need help, do you need someone to talk to, I’ll be praying for you, saying a prayer before we eat, reading the bible, the list can go on and on. Some are verbal, some are non-verbal. In the work environment, it can be tough, because normally you’re the new person on the block, and you’re trying to feel you way around. The environment can be pretty rough too. Especially if you’re the only Christian! That’s where your faith in God comes in very handy, and trusting in His word can be extremely beneficial as well. Here are some verses you might want to look at on fear. Hope they can help you out. Psalm 27:1, Isaiah 43:1,
Psalm 34:4, John 14:27, Isaiah 41:10, 2 Timothy 1:7, Philippians 4:6-7, Hebrews 13:5-6
A moment may come where something bad will happen to someone at work. They’ll be down or upset. A skill set that you might not even realize you have from being shy is that you’re probably a good listener as well as an observer! You see things that others miss. You’ll probably see the hurt in someone before anyone else will. The devil doesn’t want you to help these people. So he attacks you with doubt, fear, and anything else that will take you away from seeing or hearing the cries of these people. Always remember who you have on your side!!!! So when the opportunity comes up, you don’t have to be ________ (fill in the blank with any word you think you have to be). What you have to be is who you are and that’s a child of the Most High! A phrase like “I’m praying for you” as you pass by on your way home so only that one person hears, or on your way to the restroom, or on break. You don’t even have to make eye contact if you don’t want to. Just remember to pray for them. I’m sure you’re praying for them already! Keep it up. Take one step at a time. Always remember, as you already know. You’re not alone! Praying for you ArmyWife08. YBIC

 

[Giggles4God]

I have heard that sometimes the only sermon people will ever see is your life. That doesn't necessarily mean you must talk to people, but I would try and do what God asks of you. Who knows, maybe you are to go around the job praying each Monday for a good week. Maybe you are to show them who you are. Maybe while on your lunch break you read your Bible while you eat not to push at them, but to show who and what you are.

Sometimes just saying hello can get people to talk. Maybe put little notes on their desks or whatever...the ladies ones of course. Saying things like I wanted you to know that I've been praying for you...maybe you heard them talk about a need or something.

Just some ideas.

 

[sunshineaaks]

Thank you so much. Yes, that is exactly what I need to do- praise Him for being right there with me, instead of listening to Satan's lies and believing I am all alone.

You are so welcome. I've found this works wonders in my own life, AND keeps bitterness against someone who talks bad about me, totally away as I pray for them. And like I said, you may very well be the ONLY one praying for them and their eternity. Even if that is only one person in the entire work station. I've also found that there aren't many, who call themself Christian, willing to pray for those who bring harm or discord to one's life. (I was also one like this)

Nothing is by chance or fate or karma, God's still in control and can use it all to His glory, even if that is for you to become closer to Him in spite of it all. It won't be easy, dear sister, but HE is ALWAYS there. :wink:

 

[ArmyWife08]

Heckeron and Sheren, first I want to say I reread my post and there was nothing of an unkind or Bible bashing nature,I wasn't saying she had to do anything that they were doing all I said was that I was human made mistakes and she was to and she wasn't alone.
What I ment was in a work place whare no one is a christian you have to be as wise as serpants and as innocent as doves or a sheep amoung wolves, I in no way shape or form ment that shyness was a bad thing at all the truth is I think it's very sweet but in a work place non christians can sometimes see shyness as a weakness and they will use it to tear a person up it's sad but true.
All I was saying was when that happends and it will Jesus said it wasn't going to be easy but not to give up when she messes up to forgive herself and them and go on from there.
I ment no ill will at all but I believe you and all others will read into this whatever you want to.
All I was doing was reaching out to someone thats all nothing more I didn't want any hateful dabate over how much I know or don't know because all I was really doing was saying Hello really thats it nothing more and I thought I might be able to relate I'm sorry if I offended anyone one of my biggest problems is TRUST, I DON'T TRUST ANYONE I know there are people who are going to put words in my mouth that I did not mean at all it's sad because I'm not a new member Iwas hear before but if you don't want me back thats fine there are other chatrooms Superman.

Superman, Thank you so much for your kind words! You are right, we mess up but we pick ourselves right back up ask for forgiveness and keep on going! I understand not being able to trust. It is easier to put our guard up then trust and get hurt. Escpecially if all we have been is hurt by others in the past- by people we were supposed to be able to trust. I don't think the others meant any harm directed toward you in their posts. Thanks again friend!

 

[spirit1st]

When ever you get three full days ? Fast water only reading the bible and praying ,He will help you those three days!
You can work the first day of the fast !The 2nd is very hard satan will try everything to stop you! The third day is Wonderful your mind is so clear and You HEAR HIM great!

You will Break every yoke that binds you ! Anything that holds you back for the Greater Relationship , You and HE wants with You! Things will become very clear to you!
Do not be fearful when talking with HIM.He your best friend and HE Only wants the Very best for you ! He is a giver not a taker!
He LOVES us MORE than we love ourselves!

 

[csuperman2009]

Nice to meet you I'm gone.

Thank you, but I'm not Armywife I wrote to her because of her I feel like a failier post.
And all I got was basicly yelled and told to mind my own bsiness, I'm not really new Iv'e been hear before but I don't like drama when I didn't start anything So I'll make this short nice to meet you I'm gone Superman