I have found myself in a bit of a pickle.

[LindenLady]

I have pretty much decided on my course of action for the dilemma I am in.. I am going to hand it over to the Lord to handle.. and leave it at that.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

I've found that the Lord rarely reaches out and lifts us out of our dilemmas. He walks us through them.

SLE

 

[LindenLady]

Well, let me just say that since I got on my knees and prayed about it, and decided to let the Lord handle this for me, I now feel a sense of total peace about the decisions I am making regarding this dilemma... Since I did hand it over, lo and behold, the worship leader from our church *also my bf* called me to chat... and she mentioned one of the folks in question... so I discussed the dilemma with her... She agreed with the way I decided to handle this situation.... and yes, the Lord will lead me in any and all decisions made... especially concerning this situation..

 

[Boanerges]

The peace that passes understanding! Jesus promised us storms but He also promised He would be there with us in those storms.
What a privilege to be able to trust Him as we walk by faith.
You are in my prayers my friend.

 

[LindenLady]

One of the parties involved in this situation called me this morning to talk about how lovely the snow and ice looked over the hills and hollers.. However, having been around the block more than one time, I knew that she called to "talk". So, after we oooed and ahhhhed over the simple beauty that blanketed the countryside.. I broached the subject and ask why she 'really' called. She then apologized and asked forgiveness for her tirade against me. I told her that I already had forgiven her and that I had moved on... I am not a grudge holder. Life it far too short and it is not what the Lord would not wish for me to hold a grudge... She then asked if we could resume our former friendship and pick up where we left off before her vitriolic phone call threw our relationship into chaos. I said that because we are both a part of one church family, that we will remain as such. But for us to be buddies again will take some time. The wound is still fresh and still stings, and so I suggested we not dive into a close relationship headlong, but to perhaps wade into it slowly and thoughtfully and respectfully. She agreed and we wished one another a wonderful day and said our goodbye.. '

So, already the Lord is putting things in motion...I have no idea what will transpire with the 3rd party and I saw that individual at church on Wednesday, and no a word of greeting was uttered from them. A cold shoulder was all that hubby and I received... Again, I place it in the Lord's hands to touch their heart.... and I will pray for them.

 

[SavedByHim]

One of the parties involved in this situation called me this morning to talk about how lovely the snow and ice looked over the hills and hollers.. However, having been around the block more than one time, I knew that she called to "talk". So, after we oooed and ahhhhed over the simple beauty that blanketed the countryside.. I broached the subject and ask why she 'really' called. She then apologized and asked forgiveness for her tirade against me. I told her that I already had forgiven her and that I had moved on... I am not a grudge holder. Life it far too short and it is not what the Lord would not wish for me to hold a grudge... She then asked if we could resume our former friendship and pick up where we left off before her vitriolic phone call threw our relationship into chaos. I said that because we are both a part of one church family, that we will remain as such. But for us to be buddies again will take some time. The wound is still fresh and still stings, and so I suggested we not dive into a close relationship headlong, but to perhaps wade into it slowly and thoughtfully and respectfully. She agreed and we wished one another a wonderful day and said our goodbye.. '

So, already the Lord is putting things in motion...I have no idea what will transpire with the 3rd party and I saw that individual at church on Wednesday, and no a word of greeting was uttered from them. A cold shoulder was all that hubby and I received... Again, I place it in the Lord's hands to touch their heart.... and I will pray for them.

Forgive me for being blunt, but if you had truly forgiven her, the "wound" would not even be there anymore. Ask the Lord to help you truly forgive her-she did the right thing by coming to you to make peace, but it sounds like you are still holding a grudge.

 

[LindenLady]

Well, SBH if you had known what transpired, perhaps you would not be so quick to make such a judgement. I HAVE forgiven her, and I am not holding a grudge.. If I were, I would not have considered trying to rebuild our friendship. What you don't seem to see is that we are mere humans with humans emotions, and when someon hurts you deeply, you can forgive but the sting sometimes remains and needs time to completely heal.

 

[SavedByHim]

Well, SBH if you had known what transpired, perhaps you would not be so quick to make such a judgement. I HAVE forgiven her, and I am not holding a grudge.. If I were, I would not have considered trying to rebuild our friendship. What you don't seem to see is that we are mere humans with humans emotions, and when someon hurts you deeply, you can forgive but the sting sometimes remains and needs time to completely heal.

I was not trying to be judgemental. You asked for advice, and I'm saying what I feel, based on what I have experienced myself, and from what I am reading from your post.

Yes, we are human and have human emotions, but the fact of the matter is, is that Jesus says to forgive, or we will not be forgiven ourselves. He doesn't say to forgive and hold a grudge either.

I've had plenty of people make me angry and hurt my feelings, and when it happens, I immedietely go to Father and ask Him to forgive me for being angry, and to help me overcome my anger and forgive AND forget, from the bottom of my heart.

Then I pray for the person who hurt me. I ask God to bless them and show them His love....it's pretty much impossible to be mad at someone that you are praying for. And I make it a point to try to make peace with them right then....because the Bible says not to go to bed angry.
I apologize for making you angry. God bless you!

 

[LindenLady]

I am not at all angry. Just wanted to make something clear to you. Nothing more.

 

[stephen]

I have pretty much decided on my course of action for the dilemma I am in.. I am going to hand it over to the Lord to handle.. and leave it at that.

Wisdom indeed. We are never at a loss when we hand it over to Jesus

In His Love

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Forgive me for being blunt, but if you had truly forgiven her, the "wound" would not even be there anymore.

Such wounds do not disappear, nor should they. The pain will dissipate through forgiveness, but, like a scar, the wound stays. Jesus cautions us to be "shrewd as snakes and innocent as doves" (Mt 10:16). Shrewdness should grow out of a rightful desire to avoid more hurt. Though the Lord spoke these words within the context of preaching the gospel, they also apply to our daily interaction with other imperfect sinners.

SLE