I need a bit of counseling/advice on a break up

[Shiloh]

January 24, 2013

I am sure everyone goes through this, yet it never has been easy for me to deal with. I dated a guy seriously for over a year, and during that time, he would flip flop about wanting the relationship. Of course, my emotions were up and down trying to deal with it. I am struggling so hard with this. He says that it is him, yet when it comes down to it it feels like it was something I had done. Maybe I wasn't pretty enough, *itchy enough (it seems that majority of women are nowadays), maybe I wasn't aggressive enough, maybe I was too kind and caring?

We used to talk & text everyday and now that I am just a "friend", he rarely says anything to me. It is so very hard when I was so much a part of his life and his daughters' lives. I feel like I am starting to get a bit obessessed because I feel so left out. I have been forcing myself not to text him, but at times it is so hard.

I have struggled with my faith over the last year, because I felt that unless I really tried to find my happiness, I wasn't going to have it. I have had a very rough childhood/teenage years, so I tend to be very shy around people I don't feel comfortable with. I have trust issues, which I have to learn to relax them over time, as I get to know someone. My faith has been waning, because (of course, it is my fault, he wasn't a Christian, but he was interested in it) I have been so disappointed in the direction my life has went.

I honestly do not know if there is hope for me, as being a Christian. I truly love God, but I just feel that my worth isn't very much. I have never done anything amazing or probably ever helped anyone get saves. I feel that I am a lousy Christian.

I just need some direction because I really feel so lost, and I know a Christian is suppose to turn to other Christians when he/she needs help. I just don't have any Christian friends here in town. As I said, I am shy, and have never been very social with others. How do others cope with heartache and rejection?

I am sorry. I am just so at loss regarding things. The break up just adds to the other issues right now.

 

[Bobby J]

It is rough and tough breaking up a relationship. More importantly is your relationship with God. If you do not have a right relationship with God then it is impossible to have a right relationship with another.
First of all if you have said a simple prayer such as Jesus come into my life and save me then it is written Jesus said I will never leave you nor forsake you. If you have not invited Jesus into your life you must do it now. That is the only way to get right with God.
Once that is done one should seek God and his righteousness and all the other things in life that are needful will be added unto you. Matthew 6.33 We have to get the word of God in our minds know it then we can live it. in the meantime we do the best with every situation we can. Everything we do must line up with the word of God or else satan unknowingly to us comes into our life messing with our minds and the minds of others turning everything bad.
So I say the best advice I can give is get right with God and sing praises of joy to him 24-7 for it is written the joy of the lord is our strength. When we pray regularly and sing sweet love songs to Jesus who is our righteousness with God then Joy takes the throne depression and bad feelings leave. It is in the prayer and praising life style that we live a happy joyful life even in time of trouble. Stay full of joy even if you have to force it on for that is the Jesus heart-ed way of life.
May God strengthen you with his might and joy; rejoice in the Lord always Philippians 3.3 & 4.4.

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

speaking from my own experience through divorce...it wasnt until i learned to keep my eyes on God and not my spouse for my happiness that i became a partner worth having around ...realationships in this world and time are fleeting at best.. BUT GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU OR FORSAKE YOU. place youre eyes on Jesus seek out the Things of God and He will add all that is needed according to His plan for youre life and when you find a mate that is also keeping his eyes on the things of Christ then you dont have to worry or work as hard at it as God blesses the union ..Keep youre self pure for God has someone just for you i promise ..God said its not Good for man to be alone and that means that there is someone for you .wait for Gods timing ......ive been married now 16 yrs to a Godly woman and it makes up for all my mistakes before i trusted God and not my own desires and wisdom....Bless you and may you be found in The lords will at this time ....Rev