I need encouragement and help

[stack08]

I've been having a problem with my boyfriend of almost five years, I'm 20 years old and have been with him all through high school and into college. Its been good and bad. He's lied to me about some big stuff but we stayed together. He recently told me that he hasn't really care about us for months now. And that he doesn't like me in the relationship way anymore and doens't want to me with. He didn't break up with me, but he said that. Which i know I should end it right there just because of all that. But i started praying to God and he responded about it that i need to stop worrying, that he has it under control. That me and my boyfriend are suppose to be together and he has a future planned for us. But my boyfriend won't believe it, and i'm having a hard time to believe it too. Because he won't help us. His heart is hard, he says he's mean and he's a jerk and that he likes it. How can a relationship get better if he won't do anything about it? I'm trying to get him to work at it with me, but he won't. But he still hasn't broke it off, which has me confused because it seems like he wants it. But i don't know what to think, i'm stuck between what God said and what is actually going on in my life.

I know i'm supppose to trust in the Lord and believe what he says. But i'm struggling with that because i've seen no action behind anything i've been told. It keeps getting worse between me and my boyfriend. I feel like this is such a minor thing and petty, because its just a boyfriend, we're not married or anything. But we've been together so long, its very important to me. But not to him.

I don't know what to do.

 

[Gracealone]

The first thing I would ask you is, Is your boy friend a Christian?
He doesn't sound like it.
If he isn't the answer is easy for God has said to us to NOT be unequally yoked together.

How did you determine that God said to stay with him?

Everything I hear would say just the opposite.

I would back off until I see a heart change in him.

God does not want you in an abusive relationship.
He loves you!

Will be praying God give you grace and wisdom to know what to do according to his word, and not your feelings.

 

[Coconut]

Sister, you are not having a problem with your boyfriend, you are having a problem with yourself, in that you wont let go.

Let go...

Let God work out the details of your future.

 

[Boanerges]

Hi S08! I can remember being your age and having my heart broken. I thought I would die but I did not and I only came out stronger on the other side. It was only after that I met my bride of now 30 years. If I had clung to that other person I would have missed out on the most wonderful lady I ever met. Seek first God and His kingdom, He has a plan for your life.

 

[Giggles4God]

Also, relationships have to be built on trust and honesty. He hasn't been honest with you. If he isn't a Christian, you need to step away. Yes, it will hurt and yes it will take time to heal, but God is the Great Physician (even of our hearts) and He will repair your heart.