I need prayer and guidance...

[duval.devin]

My name is Devin. Im 21 and live in South Carolina. Me and my wife, Krissy were living in sin smoking and drinking. Towards the end of our marriage we started clubbing. She enjoyed and I think she thought she missed out on something. She left me for another man about a month of clubbing. When we got married I feel like it was what we wanted selfishly and we didn't seek what god wanted. I thought I was saved and she was too, but as sin krept in and we started smoking and going down the wrong path, I feel like we were really lost. When she left I felt broken and I think it was at that moment I got saved. I got on my knees and cried out to God and told him I needed him and I couldn't do it without him. Since then I have gotten into church and been going through this divorce on adultry. She came over to the house last weekend and got the rest of her things and I was able to share how I have been changed by Christ like never before, but it didn't change her mind. It has been 3 months since she left and we will be totally divorce in the next 2 to 3 months. I wish god could fix this marriage and I pray that he would, but I also let him know that I trust him either way and know he has a plan. I know he doesn't like divorce, so it is hard for me to understand why he doesn't reveal himself to her now. I need guidance on this and maybe some thoughts and prayers. Thanks and God bless.

 

[Coconut]

Has anyone offered you counseling Devin? I`m sorry I did`nt notice your post sooner, but I would be happy to talk with you.

 

[duval.devin]

I would love that!

Thank you. I would love to talk. You can message me on here. Thanks for caring.

 

[Coconut]

No problem, I`ll send you a private message.

 

[lilyrose]

I couldn't help but start crying when I read your post. I'm going through a very similar situation. I too feel like my marriage spun out of control. Pure selfishness. Then anger and resentment. I was the unfaithful. I was blind and I lost myself, but somehow in the middle of all that chaos was God. I regret what I did with every cell in my body and even though my husband says he has forgiven me he still resents me. We are still separated. Though he tells people we are divorced. He says he wants to be with me but the shame that I caused him won't let him. He needs time. His family advises him not to take me back because I am no good. So here I am. Waiting and praying that our love be stronger than this.

I don't get it though, to me, my husband and his family (parents) were always faithful believers in God. They were even missionaries in another country. Maybe its something I yet don't understand because I have much to learn, but why won't any of them give me a chance?

 

[Jimbo_the_Larry]

Devin and Lilyrose...I am not going to offer counsel or advice, simply because I am not qualified to do so. But I am qualified to pray for you both, and I will do that as best I can. God does have a plan and purpose for our lives, and He does want us to be happy...and I have heard it said that we stand tallest when we get down on our knee's to pray.