I need some advice

[luv2bless]

I have 2 daughters from a former marriage. One is 22 years old and the other is 10. I also have a 17 month grandson on top of that. For years since when my children were younger they have lived with my parents. All because at the time when I was still married that my husband and I couldn't afford to take care of them financially. My last job I lost through no fault of my own and I had worked my last job for 5 and a half years. I'm currently on unemployment and don't get that much and it's enough just to pay my bills. My girls being under my parents care my other sisters continually stick their nose in my oldest daughter and my business. They're constantly keep telling my parents what I need to do instead of tending to their own business. Plus they keep attacking my oldest daughter and bashing me when I'm not there and telling me of how bad of a mother that I am.

Right now I feel so powerless because I want so much to take them out of there because the environment is mentally gruelling. My parents don't do anything about my sisters bashing me in front of my oldest daughter. Then when my daughter tries to defend me then they get defensive and tell her to mind her own business and stay out of adult business. Hello? My oldest daughter is an adult and she feels that she's in the middle of this. Nobody in my family wants to acknowledge their wrong doings. They want to point the finger at me and when I point the finger right back at them then they can't take the truth about themselves. But they love to dish the truth about me. I have prayed for my family for God to bless them and I never wished or prayed any kind of harm to them. I also asked God to heal them because they are so full of pain and vendictiveness. I feel so powerless in a way that I don't have the money to take my children out of there and I've asked God to help me in this situation. But I haven't felt anything in my heart to do anything. What should I do? How can I get my children out of there despite that I don't have the money to do it?

 

[HisFollower]

What about the twenty two year old? doesn´t she work? To work is good, regardless of the wages, and God would have work if we are able (i.e. not disabled or such like).
As for being a busybody, we must keep ourselves away from such. As for being spoken against, we which do believe shall take the wrong and forgive. Another words, if we suffer, we threaten not, even as Christ.
I´m sorry for your circumstances, but it is better to obtain work, than to remain idle; it is good for the soul of the honest laborer.
A sincere effort has to be made by us to do the right thing, for sincerity is what God looks for in us; not the sincerity of wanting to get something for nothing, that is not sincere: but rather the sincerity of proceeding forward in what is for the cause of right; then what we need shall God add to us.
One day at a time, and let todays own troubles be sufficient for today.

 

[luv2bless]

Yes my oldest works. She just started a month ago. But no matter what my family just acts like it's not good enough. I myself have been looking for a job and applying getting some job interviews with no job being offered to me. My passion is fitness and God has put it in my heart to help people be healthy. He has even confrimed it through other people. When I try to save what little money that I can save up there's always something that comes up to take it away. I need money to get my study materials so that I can become a personal trainer and a group fitness instructor. I tithe 10 percent of my income and any extra money that comes my way. But isn't there a way to confront my family with love and by God's word without anger, blaming, and fingerpointing? I'm determined to do things God's way and not my way and I know better not to do things my way. Believe me I have forgiven my sisters for their foolishness and judgement of me. The truth is that they don't want to forgive.

 

[s.i.e.]

But they love to dish the truth about me.

luv2bless: what is the truth about you?

 

[skipbeat]

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that?Matthew 5:43-46

Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10

"This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. <sup class="versenum" id="en-NIV-30640">15</sup> And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him." 1 John 5:14-15

"Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. "Ephesians 6:11

Perhaps trusting in the Lord to know what is best for you and your children might be the best way to go. Perhaps instead of asking God to help you with money so you can take your children out of the life you don't want for them, you should put your family in the hands of God and ask him to do as He sees fit according to your family situation. "And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people." Ephesians 6:18 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it." 1 Corinthians 10:13

The Lord knows all our wants and needs, and He will never, never let you down.

Hope,Peace, and Love

 

[luv2bless]

luv2bless: what is the truth about you?

The truth was about me was that I was doing things my way and always trying to figure it out. I used to have a bad temper and was easily provoked by my sisters or anyone else that crossed my path. I wasn't the best of mother to my children when I was married because I was all messed up myself. I used to think about nothing or nobody but myself and what I wanted. I wasn't the best wife either because I didn't pay my half of the bills all because I had the ambition of wanting to become a professional bowler. I wanted my things my way and if not there will be war. It was "All About Me". I had all the physical aspect of my bowling game mostly mastered but had always struggled with my mental game. It took me so long to realize when I was at the lowest part of my life when I no longer had anybody in my life. And at that time I knew that's when I needed God and gave up doing things my way and killed the "All About Me thinking and surrendered myself to God completely. I learned that thinking through my mother. When I started to go to church I then started going to bible study and became instanly hooked and rarely missed a session. My pastor opened my eyes to how much the bible applies to my life. My parents never taught me much about the bible. I've even expanded my learning of God's word through watching Joyce Meyer, Joel Osteen, John Hagee, and many others and I have learned so much. But I'm never done learning God's word. With all that learning I started to change my attitude and now it takes a lot for me to get angry. I now struggle with some things but I'm sure glad and praise God that I'm not where I used to be. I learned to grow up and learned that I can't always have my way and learned to have a good attitude when I don't get my way which was one of the hardest lessions that I have learned plus I learned to get over myself and think about other people. And those lessions that I learned are some areas that my family needs to learn. My family thinks that even though that I go to church, study my bible, go to bible study, and watch my christain shows and apply what I've learned to my life they still think that I haven't changed. They still think that I'm fake despite my effort to change. I have forgiven time after time of their stinking attitude towards me and my oldest daughter but they don't want to forgive. I even appologized to one of my sisters via e-mail and she didn't want to accept my appology. So I have done everything that God has put in my heart to do but the rest lays on God and my sisters.

 

[s.i.e.]

luv2bless: bless you sister. All of this, and more, may be true about you. But what is the truest thing about you? The undeniable thing about you? The unmovable fact about you, no matter what it is that you sister or parents might say, or implant, into your brain or the brains of those you love?

The truth about you -- and me -- is far better than what you just described about yourself....and the reason that it is far better, is that it is a free gift.

In your description about yourself, there was a lot of words like learning, watching, changing, studying, applying, trying (to be the best, or remissing that you may not have been), and doing. Do you hear that in your words? In your heart? Sister, I pray for rest for you. You may be wearing yourself out by should'ing on yourself. God does not ask you to should on yourself. He invites, loves, waits, longs, cries, watches...

You.

Here are some insights into the truest true, about yourself:

I am the salt of the earth. Mat5:13

I am the light of the world in & through Christ Jesus. Mat:14

I am a child of God. John 1:12

I am a part of the True Vine and Christ’s life flows through me John 15:1,5

I am Christ’s friend. John 15:15

I have been chosen by Jesus to bear much fruit. John 15:16

I am Jesus’ personal witness sent out to tell everybody about Him. Acts 1:8

I am a slave to God, making me holy and giving me eternal life. Rom 6:18

I am a child of God. I can call Him my Father, Daddy. Rom 8:14, 15

I am an heir with Christ, inheriting His glory. Rom 8:17

I am a dwelling place for God. His Spirit and Life live in me. I Cor 3:16

I am forever joined in God and am one spirit with Him. I Cor 6:17

I am a new person in Christ Jesus. My past is forgiven and everything is new. 2 Cor 5:17

I am at peace with God and he has given me the work of helping others find peace with Him. 2 Cor 5:18, 19

I am a child of God and one with others who are members of His Family. Gal 3:26, 27

I am a child of God and will receive the inheritance which he promised. Gal 4:6, 7

I am a saint, a holy person. Col 1:2

I am a citizen of Heaven; seated in Heaven right now with Jesus. Eph 2:6

I am God’s building project, His handiwork, created in Christ to do His work. Eph 2:10

I am a prisoner of Christ so that I can help others. Eph 3:1, 4:1

I am righteous and holy Eph 4:24

I am hidden with Christ in God. Col 3:3

I am the expression of the life of Christ because He is my life Col 3:4

I am chosen of God to be holy and dearly loved. Col 3:12

I am a child of The Light and not of the darkness. 1 Thes 5:5

I am chosen to share in God’s Heavenly calling. Heb 3:1

I am part of Christ; I share in His Life. Heb 3:14

I am one of God’s Living Stones, being built-up in Christ as a house for God. 1 Pet 2:5

I am a member of the chosen people, a royal priesthood, a people belonging to God. 1 Pet 2:9, 10

I am only a visitor to this world in which I temporarily live 1 Pet 2:11

I am an enemy of the devil. 1 Pet 5:8

I am a child of God, and I will be Christ’s when He returns. 1 John 3:1, 2

I am born again in Christ and the devil will never defeat me. 1 John 5:18

I am not the great “I AM” (Ex 3:14) but by the Grace of God, I am what I am. 1 Cor 15:10


SINCE I AM IN CHRIST, by the GRACE OF GOD:

I am now acceptable to God and completely forgiven. I live at peace with Him Rom 5:1

The sinful person I used to be died with Christ, and sin no longer rules my life. Rom 6:1-6

I am free from the punishment my sin deserves. Rom 8:1

I have been placed into Christ by God. 1 Cor 1:30

I have received God’s Spirit into my life. I can recognize the blessings He has given me. 1 Cor 2:12

I have been given the mind of Christ. He gives me wisdom to make the right choices. 1 Cor 2:16

I have been bought with a Price, I am not my own; I belong to God. 1 Cor 6:19, 20

I no longer live for myself; I live for God. 2 Cor 5:14, 15

I am God’s possession, chosen and secure in Him. I have been given the Holy Spirit as a promise of my inheritance. Eph 1:13, 14

I have been blessed with every spiritual blessing. Eph 1:3

I was chosen in Christ to be holy before the world was created. I am without blame before Him. Eph 1:4

I was chosen by God to be adopted as His child. Eph 1:5

I have been brought out of slavery to sin and forgiven. I have received His generous grace. Eph 1:7, 8

I have been made spiritually alive just as Christ is alive. Eph 2:5

I have been raised up and seated with Christ in Heaven. Eph 2:6

I have direct access to God through The Holy Spirit. Eph 2:18

I may approach God with confidence, boldness, and freedom. Eph 3:12

I have been rescued from the dark power of satan’s rule and have been brought into the Kingdom of Christ. Col 1:13

I have been forgiven all my sins and set free. The debt against me has been cancelled. Col 1:14

Christ Himself lives in me. Col 1:27

I am firmly rooted in Christ and am now being built-up in Him. Col 2:7

I am complete in Christ. Col 2:10

I am spiritually clean. My old sinful self has lost its power to rule my life. Col 2:11

I have been buried, raised and made alive with Christ Col 2:12, 13

I died with Christ and I have been raised up with Christ. My new life is hidden with Christ in God. Christ is now my life. Col 3:1-4

I have been given a spirit of power, love and self-control. 2 Tim 1:7

Because I am set apart and one with Christ. He is not ashamed to call me His brother or sister. Heb 2:11

I have been given great and valuable promises. God’s nature has become a part of me. 2 Pet 1:4

 

[Brighthouse]

Sister luv2bless.Many have spoken very well here,and I know there love in there words help you much. Like you,life was all about myself,after Jesus came,because like you,I could not have even crawled from under a snake,Holy Spirit taught me 3 main lessons.

1.Mark 6:4-6 My family sure could not believe Jesus could have ever taken over my life! For one thing, they did not want to believe this! As you know our will matters much in what we are able, or not able to do in the Lord. 2. because of one,Matt 7:6! Instead of talking about Jesus to them,I knew I was going to have to show them Jesus! And 3.When you wanted to become a professional Bowler,you knew one thing for certain!! You would have to work very hard to become this.You worked very hard to become fit as well!

Discipline in God's Word, to study hard( 2 tim 2:15),to always do our best,even though from time to time, we sure are going to make mistakes,means we allow Jesus to fix us from the inside,so we can then show him on the outside.

This of course does not happen overnight,but like getting fit does not happen over night, or becomeing a professional Bowler either,here this is much harder!! WHY?? because to allow Jesus to fix our inside,we must allow him to fix our very mind.( rom 12:1-2)

Words to me are more powerful then any earthy substance!! Hurtful words given to you,prove to yourself this is true. My Mom and brother would say,what are you doing? Have you lost your mind!! No, I am renewing it.When words of anger strike at us,we have to grow some very tough skin,it comes with the armor.( eph 6:10-20) BE strong in the Lord,and how we become strong in the Lord,is giving love back when you are hated,when you give kind words to hurtful ones,when they speak lies,you speak truth.( Mark 4:24)careful always to what you hear as well.

It is easy to sit here at my computer and write these things to you.I am not you!! BUT!! I was!! after 3 very tough years,Jesus broke though to both my mom and my gay brother! Not because I pointed,but rather because I choose to let Jesus in me become an example to us all. They saw,they asked,and when they did,I knew Jesus had broken not only me, but them as well!

Find a good bible based Church,you need support!! We all do sister!! the radio and Tv help,but they are not what we need to sustain us. They are a band aid. You situation is much tougher then covering. up a deep wound with only a band aid.

Be not discouraged!!,nor feel alone!! Just do the best you can do for now,and grow.Yes it is painful,sometimes you will fall down and hurt yourself as well. But you are no quitter!! You my dear sister are what Jesus calls you!! YOU are an OVERCOMER!!( rev 21:7) Rev 2:7, verse 11,verse 17,verse 26!! Rev 3:5,verse 12,verse 21 Does it look the same to you,as it does to me,that our LOVING Jesus is really looking to tell us something here?? Just something for you to consider is all. Our prayers are with you!! The body of Christ as a whole has a great need!! And that need sister is love from each other!! TO ONE ANOTHER!! AMEN!! blessing always to you.

 

[luv2bless]

I just want to thank you all for giving some guidance in using God's word to that I can handle this his way and not mine. I need to keep studying God's word more intensely just like I do with my workouts at the gym. Yes it did take a lot of hard work to lose weight. God instilled in me self motivation and the disicpline to lose weight and it wasn't easy. I know that my family has no clue with the hard trails and tribulations that I have already gone through, but I know that God knows and has seen it all. I do belong to a bible based church and I go to bible study on Tuesday evenings and rarely miss. God has given me people who do love and accept me for who I am in Christ and I'm very thankful. When I had completely submitted myself to God and his ways my bowling had improved by 6 pins and my mental game becoming stronger and consistant all because I declared Jesus as my Lord and Savior and asked him to come into my heart. I couldn't have a much improved bowling season without Jesus and the strength, grace, and wisdom to bowl well last season and I'm so thankful and praise him for it all. Everytime that someone would congratulate me on bowling a good game I would say thank you and tell someone that I give all the praise and glory to God because I could have not done it without him and I'm nothing without him.