I want to grow up!

[CrazyForChrist]

Does anyone else dislike being a teen? I cant stand it. I dont like to participate in what other teens do. I dont like to be thought of as a teen(and its not for the normal teen reason, it is because teens are very disrespectful). But i know why im here and what my purpose is right now, to help teens because im wise(not to be conceited) and i can relate to their problems. But ohhh do i dislike it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do anyother teens have similiar problems?

 

[Popples]

Im not a teenager now but once was and yes I have teenagers galore had actually 14 foster kids that were all teenagers... Its so hard to be a teenager now, I couldnt do it. When I was a teenager all my friends were normal teens and I was mature didnt want to do what the rest were doing. I new what I wanted and teenage stuff bore me, My teenages were different to there friends and found it very hard but I always said to them... Dont follow your friends lead them...be proud to be different....dont look to your friends for love, love yourself... yes its very hard to be a teen but dont just do what the rest of the teenagers do if your not happy doing that...be different and do what you feel is right and makes you happy.

 

[CrazyForChrist]

Thats exactly what i do Thanks, it just very draining and i feel quite alone. Not alone from God, but we all know you can feel 2 kinds of alone. But right now im working on it and God is always here for me! I just dont want to be a teen anymore! I feel quite out of place

 

[Manal_Tayar]

hey!

i was talking a bout this subject 2 days ago, with my mother, telling her, how i long to get older and just want to get over this part of my life, because i feel the same as you...

i think that is a normal part that all teens go through...and i'm only 15.5!lol

i prayed alot about it, and i think that it's great i'm still a teen, i'm trying to do as many crazy stuff as i can before i get old enough for it to be rediculous if i do such a thing..i'm trying to take advantege of every moment of my life!


ENJOY YOURS!
i'll be praying for you

Blessings

Manal

 

[Girl]

You really dont want to grow up too quickly!!... you want to enjoy this teen phase.. Cause kiddo, the teenage stage is where you pretty much figure out, just who you are and what you want to be.. Enjoy the freedom while you have it, cause once you pass the teen zone, you have to face the real world.. work..ect. Theres always something! Gosh..Meh?? i only have a three more sleeps... and i will no longer be a teenager...

 

[j4jh]

i think that being teen is awsome! yeah, there are some stuff that aint that good for my belifes and perspective.. but i think i would like to be a 13 again with what i know now. but its also good to grow up. just need to live the moment not worry about what you didnt do or missed and not to much worry for the future (G_d alone know and help to make a good future). we need to enjoy the moment (in good maners and get strong in christ ofcourse). i have also "normal" teen freinds and i dun like everything they do. but really its one the best years i have ever had espcially this 2 last years!
enjoy your teens as you can, and explore urself on the way.

 

[alicia_charne]

Aint it wierd how we spend our lives hoping and dreamin of being a certain age and then one day we arrive there and then we don't see what the fuss was over? And we realease that being 16 or 18 doesn't make you an adult or anything special like you hoped and believed it would?

 

[CrazyForChrist]

well what if we already came to know ourselfs? Took awhile but, idk. I just dont care for this age. But i would love to be 7 again All i know is that God is working through me to help out kids of my age group. I have already seen much progress and it brings joy to my heart. P.S. School is horrible. I love to learn but thats the oposite of what goes on in school.

 

[alicia_charne]

Crazy for Christ God made us to go threw the teeh phase it is part of His perfect will and ways that we all be babies then kids then teens then adults and then elderlies. Each phase is put there with a reason. Don't wish your life away. I never had my early teenage years because I was so busy living in the future and trying to prove I was as mature as an adult. You have the rest of your life for being an adult, Enjoy beeing a teen and the little responsibilities you have right now, this is the time God put on earth for us to find who we are (and often we think we know but actually have no idea-I have done that alot before).

Last night I was speaking to someone who felt the same as you and left school and started working. He is broken and longs for teenagism again. He regrets it.

If God didn't want you to be a teen at this stage He would have ommitted you from these years but He hasn't so just enjoy it, when else will you be able to stay out late, have sleep overs, have your parents run around after you, date in the day, not have to work from 8-5 just to able to pay the rent?

Be wise maximise on this time ok?

 

[CrazyForChrist]

thanks alicia, but, i havemost of the resonsibilities of an adult and the work and such(didnt leave school for work, but i work alot) but i get none of the rewards of an adult. It is like being a rocket scientist and getting paided minimum wage of 6.75. I wish i would been a teen or just be an adult. Not in between.

 

[sober]

i never really enjoyed my teenage life, my teen life is painfull, i admit i regret that i never really liked those moments( despite the fact that i used to drink and do drugs)

the only thing i differe from other teens is, i am respectfull to other people, plus i do stand out to "teen values" such as wat MTV says


the other thing, as i read, i am happy to see dat not all teens are shallow and obnoxious

you can enjoy your teen life w/out being disrespectfull and outrage, becarefull you might do things you think is fun, but you might pay for the price

 

[Princess487]

Hey...being a teen isn't too bad....I grew up way too fast. I guess i'm ahead of the teens my age and by much more mature. I graduated highschool at the age of fifteen and started college at sixteen. I find it a surprise sometimes that i'm only sixteen. Hanging out with older people constantly puts me in the mind frame that i myself am older when i'm not. but..that's not the point. the point is...Teen years, those are your only ones. As a teen, you could do so much. If you start brainstorming things you can do to witness Christ or just help others. If you do get involved, it's so much fun. You really feel as though you're doing something. Even if everyone else your age is out partying and doing foolish things, you could put your strength and energy into doing something useful. I think about the things I could do in the next 2-4 years and it really gets me excited. If teens quit wasting time and get their act together, trust me, so much will be done. But dont regret being a teenager. It's tough, i understand, but trust me, you dont want to grow up too fast.

 

[CrazyForChrist]

Hey...being a teen isn't too bad....I grew up way too fast. I guess i'm ahead of the teens my age and by much more mature. I graduated highschool at the age of fifteen and started college at sixteen. I find it a surprise sometimes that i'm only sixteen. Hanging out with older people constantly puts me in the mind frame that i myself am older when i'm not. but..that's not the point. the point is...Teen years, those are your only ones. As a teen, you could do so much. If you start brainstorming things you can do to witness Christ or just help others. If you do get involved, it's so much fun. You really feel as though you're doing something. Even if everyone else your age is out partying and doing foolish things, you could put your strength and energy into doing something useful. I think about the things I could do in the next 2-4 years and it really gets me excited. If teens quit wasting time and get their act together, trust me, so much will be done. But dont regret being a teenager. It's tough, i understand, but trust me, you dont want to grow up too fast.

you must be a geneous, i dont know how you graduated at 15! But you see, being a teen would be "fun" if i did the normal teen things. But i dont. So blahhh! i dont even know. Im so confused so im just going to keep praying. Praying it the best thing i can do.

 

[Princess487]

you must be a geneous, i dont know how you graduated at 15! But you see, being a teen would be "fun" if i did the normal teen things. But i dont. So blahhh! i dont even know. Im so confused so im just going to keep praying. Praying it the best thing i can do.

Hey, what are the things you aren't doing that you think will be fun? I know one thing, no matter how much Fun you're having, if you don't get enough of God's love you will feel empty. YOu could be doing ministry work and have a blast for a while, but if you dont continually come to God to experience His Awesome Love, you'll be empty. There's really nothing in this world outside of God. You may temporarily get satisfaction, but in the long run, you will be empty. But there are so many things you can do to enjoy yourself. you dont have to be like a white crow among black ones. but you gotta remember who you are.....
and no, i'm not a genius....

 

[CrazyForChrist]

The things im not doing that i know would be fun? I get so shdgfjlkashdfkjawehjdf with life that i feel like i would love to load up on drugs and drink away this sdfjghjkadlfhgsdjk. But i dont. And i dont for do it because God has told me not to and i know its stupid. Also im a guy and all, !!!!! I crave woman. They are all around me and im constantly tempted.But i do not give into lust. I dont even masterbate anymore, which im quite proud of.:shade: Takes alot of self controll for me for that one. But all this dfsjkhgsdj everywhere and i cant take it. It is completley nuts. Some one help please

 

[Eve]

Hi CrazyforChrist,

Life can feel a bit mad and intense at times. You are right in some respects that there are some not so nice aspects to being a teen eg raging hormones, spots, peer pressure etc...but there are some really awsome aspects too and it seems most people don't get to appreciate being a teen when they are young and then look back and think I never had it so good. :ip:

I hope that you are not trying to take on too much responsiblity, it is ok to ask for help. You have some very wise brothers and sisters here who would be more than happy to help advise in whatever way they can. :boy_hug: :girl_hug:

Just remember you are not alone. The Lord knows you, even if you don't know yourself yet. Be patient and maybe a little bit pro-active and things will all work out fine in the end. :rainbow: :wink:

God Bless

Eve

 

[sunnyjohn]

Thank you Eve for ur letter

 

[CrazyForChrist]

Thanks Eve, but the thing is, i do have alot of responsibility. There is nothing i can do, for much of it comes from God. I feel blessed he put so much trust in me to do this Task. But i just want to feel loved and i need attention. Sure parents give it, but at this age that isnt what we are looking for. We look to other teens for attention and such. Especially attention from the other sex and interacting with them. This stinks big time. I keep turning to God. Its all i can do.

 

[Eve]

Hi CrazyforChrist,

So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1cor 10:12).

If it is any consolation I know what it is like to be a teenager and want to feel loved and have attention from the opposite sex in fact I craved it. Although, I am not a teen anymore I went through a time when I felt a distance between my parents and myself. At that point I felt very alone even though I was surrounded by people.

Those feelings in me contributed to a teenage pregnancy. I looked at having a baby through rose coloured glass (although I did not plan to have a baby at the time I thought the baby would give me the love craved) and that outlook resulted in me taking what I thought was a calculated risk. I obviously love my daughter but it was the wrong time in my life to take on extra responsibility and parent a family. I was not a Christian at the time and didn't really have a guide to follow. I didn't have the holy spirit to bless me with self control.

Anyway my point is that you have a solid faith something which I didn't have during my teenage years. You will never be alone. The door has been opened to you. You have light in your life and a glorious future to look forward to. You have many adventures ahead of you and some of them you have to journey on your own and some later on when the time is right you may chose to share with someone special.

All you may need is just to take a step back to assess and look at things. Maybe there is a Christian youth retreat you could go to. Do you have a plan to go/do something positve and enjoyable at the end of all the hardwork and responsibility? Sometimes it helps if we have something in the near future to look forward to, to keep us motivated and keep our objectivity and positivity. What are your goals in life? Everyone needs to feel like they are making progress. The Lord wants you to be performing at your best, he wants that you do what is necessary for yourself so that you have clear head and a clear conscience, so that you can ultimately bring glory to his name and save others. Before we can help others we need to accept that there is soul inside us that needs nurturing also. A firefighter puts his own oxygen mask on first before he tackles the blaze and rescues others!

I will say a prayer for you that the Lord sends you the answers that you need.

God Bless

Eve

 

[EuphoricForest]

wow eve, that even helped me out!
nicely put. And also great posts by everyone else.

Just remember, CrazyForChrist, like somebody pointed out, you have a whole legion of people here that can and will help and support you. God has a plan for you and you apparantly are aware of this. Therefore , although at times it may be extremely difficult, try and put all of your trust in the Lord.
For relationships with females will come, just trust the Lord, as you know already.

Dont worry, Im here for you brother, as is everyone else here.

Peace, Love, and God Bless!