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i'm so tired...

Truehearts

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i have been really busy at church this past few weeks.. we prapared for our church anniversary and it pretty much occupied 100% of my time those weeks... along with that i have neglected my academic responsibilities and i am struggling with self dicipline, i am graduating this semester and we have to pass a very important paper in order to graduate... so bec. im so busy at church i got left behind. Now i feel so guilty and depressed of my situation. I have totally lost my spirit in participating with the other activities at church to come. They expect alot on me. But im not in my best condition right now. I want to stay away from them... I dont even wanna see them. I feel so tired and wasted. And ofcourse my relationship with God is also very much affected. I havent gone in church for two consecutive weeks... I know i am in my rebelling attitude right now... all my insecurities are hunting me again. And instead of making my way right...I am doing things i know would hurt people and things that will make my situtation worst. I wanna go closer back to Him.. but my heart is full of bitterness and pride. Please help me...
 
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I bet that many of us have been overburdened, and felt guilty about wanting to stop everything. I know that I have.
It sounds like you are a true servant, possibly with the spiritual gift of mercy... and people with that gift can get run over so easily. I oversee most of the volunteers in my church, and I tell you... it's so easy to ask people with that gift to help out because I know they'll say yes. But God doesn't want you burned out on His Kingdom. He wants you to enjoy whatever you do for Him, whatever ministries you are involved in.
Remember, even Jesus had to get away for some quiet time!!
So, as hard as it may be to do this, think about approaching the person who is in charge of the church volunteers, or the pastor, and tell them that you are taking a break. You don't have to leave the church to do this.
If you're not right with God, the greatest ministry is worthless. You can't be so focused on good works (even if you don't think you are, if you have that gift, it's ingrained into you) that you are ignoring God.
Just today I had one of my best workers tell me that she needed a break. And I will give her as much time off as she needs, and when she's ready, she'll let me know. I do this because I don't want her to quit totally; I don't want her to feel guilty for taking a break; I don't want her so frustrated that she just leaves God's Kingdom. We all need breaks. That's why God rested on the 7th day... not for Him, but to show us that since God takes a break, how can we not?
And once you are over your immediate obligations, and have some quiet time with God... you will probably find that you are re-energized and ready to do some more ministry.
God bless
 
Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest. Joshua 1:9

Dear Truehearts

Slow down. Take some time to wait upon the Lord. Give Him all your feelings of bitterness, pride and exhaustion...and ask Him to deal with them. Ask him to rekindle you heart with love and to fill you with His peace. Once you have sorted things out with the Lord everything else will follow so much more easily.

Ask the Lord to guide you and to help you learn from this situation. Remember the Lord is with you in these 'cloudy' trying times...try not to loose sight of His wonderful love.

Men see not the bright light which is in the clouds Job 27:31

Praying that the Lord will bless you and refresh you both spiritually and physically.

Julia




 
Dear Truehearts

I was just reading these words from Unto the Hills by Billy Graham...and as I read I thought of your post

...Sometimes when we visit Switzerland we go....high up in the Alps on chairlifts. We cross over miles of land, looking down at some of the most beautiful flowers to be found anywhere in the world. These flowers have survived the heavy snows of winter. The burdens of ice, snow and winter storms have added to their lustre, beauty and growth. It is hard to believe that just a few weeks earlier these flowers were buried under many feet of snow. Our burdens can have the same effect on our lives....

Out of pain and problems have come the sweetest songs, the most poignant poems, the most gripping sries. Out of suffering and tears have come the greatest spirits and the most blessed lives.

When He hath tried me I shall come forth as gold Job23:10

He will carry you through this sister.

With continued prayers

Julia
 
But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost,
Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.

Jude 1:20-21


Greetings Truehearts,

how blessed you are to have such loving care in your sister jskm, and this because of the love of God in Christ Jesus the Lord shed upon her heart for you, just as He has shed His love upon you, that you may grow in His grace and care.

Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
Ephesians 6:18

How wonderfully we see the Scriptures come alive...

1Corinthians 12:12-21
For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ.
For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit.
For the body is not one member, but many.
If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?
And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?
If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling?
But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.
And if they were all one member, where were the body?
But now are they many members, yet but one body.
And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you.


Likewise, the refreshing advice of ephesians4_23, to rest.... to take some quiet time... how valuable this advice is to you Truehearts.


If I could please add that just as you are confessing here your needs, you shall be lifted by the Lord and carried through this time.
Had you sat and grumbled to yourself, you would become like a smouldering fire with every puff of complaint stirring a rage within your heart that might otherwise consume you.. but our Lord in His great love and care for you, one of His very own children, has stirred His fire within you and the feelings of guilt, depression, being lost, tiredness, rebellion, insecurity, bitterness and pride will be utterly consumed by His holiness as you continue to seek after Him and desire to have His help.

Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.
He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.
Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall:
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Isaiah 40:28-31

Bless you ....><>

Br. Bear



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From C. Spurgeon...

And I will remember my covenant.
Genesis 9:15

Mark the form of the promise.

God does not say, “And when ye shall look upon the bow, and ye shall remember my covenant, then I will not destroy the earth,” but it is gloriously put, not upon our memory, which is fickle and frail, but upon God’s memory, which is infinite and immutable. “The bow shall be in the cloud; and I will look upon it, that I may remember the everlasting covenant.

Oh! it is not my remembering God, it is God’s remembering me which is the ground of my safety; it is not my laying hold of his covenant, but his covenant’s laying hold on me.

Glory be to God! the whole of the bulwarks of salvation are secured by divine power, and even the minor towers, which we may imagine might have been left to man, are guarded by almighty strength.

Even the remembrance of the covenant is not left to our memories, for we might forget, but our Lord cannot forget the saints whom he has graven on the palms of his hands.
It is with us as with Israel in Egypt; the blood was upon the lintel and the two side-posts, but the Lord did not say, “When you see the blood I will pass over you,” but “When I see the blood I will pass over you.”

My looking to Jesus brings me joy and peace, but it is God’s looking to Jesus which secures my salvation and that of all his elect, since it is impossible for our God to look at Christ, our bleeding Surety, and then to be angry with us for sins already punished in him.

No, it is not left with us even to be saved by remembering the covenant.

There is no linsey-wolsey here-not a single thread of the creature mars the fabric.

It is not of man, neither by man, but of the Lord alone.

We should remember the covenant, and we shall do it, through divine grace; but the hinge of our safety does not hang there

-it is God’s remembering us,
not our remembering him;
and hence the covenant is an everlasting covenant.

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Galatians 6:9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
 
thank you so much.

I bet that many of us have been overburdened, and felt guilty about wanting to stop everything.

...it's so easy to ask people with that gift to help out because I know they'll say yes. But God doesn't want you burned out on His Kingdom. He wants you to enjoy whatever you do for Him, whatever ministries you are involved in.
Remember, even Jesus had to get away for some quiet time!!
So, as hard as it may be to do this, think about approaching the person who is in charge of the church volunteers, or the pastor, and tell them that you are taking a break. You don't have to leave the church to do this.
If you're not right with God, the greatest ministry is worthless...

i was on tears wen i finish reading your messege, yes i have always been that person that would not be able to say "no", moreover, when i am active in the ministry, i cant help but think about it, even as i go to sleep... the last things that would linger in my mind is ..how can we do more?... and yes maybe i have come to my utmost wearing... suddenly i want to stop. You also pearced my heart when you said that the greatest ministry is worthless if im not right with God. I want to take your advice of taking a really good break at the same time building up a stronger relationship with God... but prayerfully first that i would overcome all the bitterness that satan have put in my heart.. Thank you so much sister.
 
sister thank you so much...

Dear Truehearts

I was just reading these words from Unto the Hills by Billy Graham...and as I read I thought of your post

...Sometimes when we visit Switzerland we go....high up in the Alps on chairlifts. We cross over miles of land, looking down at some of the most beautiful flowers to be found anywhere in the world. These flowers have survived the heavy snows of winter. The burdens of ice, snow and winter storms have added to their lustre, beauty and growth. It is hard to believe that just a few weeks earlier these flowers were buried under many feet of snow. Our burdens can have the same effect on our lives....

Out of pain and problems have come the sweetest songs, the most poignant poems, the most gripping sries. Out of suffering and tears have come the greatest spirits and the most blessed lives.

When He hath tried me I shall come forth as gold Job23:10

He will carry you through this sister.

With continued prayers

Julia

Dear Julia,

Thanks for even remembering me through your reading... it amazes me that joining talkJesus have become more than what I expected. You are the first persons that I have fully open this situation that i'm going through right now... like those flowers, i know that my brethrens in church have notice the change in me with just a few weeks... although i don't want them to notice it, especially the new youths...but I myself is adjusting, i keep telling myself that i dont wanna be that person anymore... i just wanna be a regular attendee and have a really deep relationship with God on my own... but I know that the moment I step in, God will lay all those things i kept hangin'... I am so confuse... before i burned out I was suppose to build a new ministry, it's a theater group, alot of our youths have potentials and i believe i could use that opportunity to schedule new Bible study groups and even encourage them to make their gifts useful in His kingdom.. I am also handling primary sunday school class, about to attend the sonicflood concert, help organize the coming youth evangelism filmshowing, a celebration fellowship and as member of the youth core plan ahead for the schedule of activities and evaluation in the youth ministry... but now its all floating in the air. I told one of my youthmates to dessiminate my responsibilities to the other youths and to not include me in the activities to come.

My heart is in serving God, but I feel guilty of being too busy at church that I'm not that really busy with the Lord. My plan is to take a break and rekindle my relationship with God, yet what shall I do? If I show up my heart will be torn apart in not participating, and if i dont show up i will dread more and might totally loose it... im sorry i know u have given me a lot of advices... but im still in a drift. :embarasse
 
But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost,
Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.

Jude 1:20-21


If I could please add that just as you are confessing here your needs, you shall be lifted by the Lord and carried through this time.
Had you sat and grumbled to yourself, you would become like a smouldering fire with every puff of complaint stirring a rage within your heart that might otherwise consume you.. but our Lord in His great love and care for you, one of His very own children, has stirred His fire within you and the feelings of guilt, depression, being lost, tiredness, rebellion, insecurity, bitterness and pride will be utterly consumed by His holiness as you continue to seek after Him and desire to have His help.

Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.
He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.
Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall:
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Isaiah 40:28-31

Bless you ....><>

Dear brother bear,
you're right that if i grumbled myself it will eat me up... i guess this will hold me from taking a break... thank you so much for the beautiful picture of flowers (it reminded me of my favorite qoute from my teacher..the greatest stone is tested with the greatest pressure in earth = diamond, just like those beautiful flowers that bloomed with time) and the Bible verses that you have given ... you know its funny because the propose name for the theater group that i was suppose to start is "ONE BODY" and that is our reference text... God is so amazing for giving me people like you and for bringing me here at tJ... it helps me a lot. Although i'm still confuse its keeping my hopes up.
 
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Dear sister Truehearts,

What a jumble of confusion is going on in your heart. Sister, I say again slow down...forget all those responsibilities just for a while and wait upon the Lord.

You say I'm not really that busy with the Lord. Dear sister get busy with the Lord in prayer and meditation upon His word....nothing else matters if your heart is fixed on Him. All this church stuff will fall into place if you put the Lord first.

Even if you don't know what to say to Him just express your confusion and His love will begin to untangle all the church business in your heart.

Be thou there till I bring thee word......Matthew 2:13

He knoweth the way that I take Job 23:10

Dear sister may your restless heart wait on the Lord.

In everything you are enriched by Him 1 Cor 1:5

God bless you and praying for you

Julia

 
thanks... i will work out being really busy with Him before getting back in the ministry... I want to find peace in Him, i know He knows my inner heart and will sustain me.

...everything will follow if I put God first...everything.
 
WORD OF THE DAY: LINSEY-WO(O)LSEY

A textile material; a strange medley.

Per Michael Quinion:

"Back in Tudor times in England there was a coarse linen material called linsey, whose name was formerly believed to have come from the dialect word line for linen, but is now thought to be from Lindsey, the name of the village in Suffolk where it was first made. Linen was woven with wool to make a less costly fabric that became known as linsey-woolsey, with the ending of wool changed to make a rhyming couplet.

Henry Smith, who was a Church of England clergyman and a renowned preacher — he was known as Silver-Tongued Smith — included this comment in his sermon, A Preparative to Marriage, that was published in 1591: “God forbad the people to weare linsey wolsey, because it was a signe of inconstancie.” He was referring to the Biblical prohibition against wearing clothes made from a mixture of linen and wool.

Rather later, linsey-woolsey became an inferior coarse cloth of wool woven on cotton. You can tell its humble status from Elizabeth Gaskell’s mention of it in Sylvia’s Lovers of 1863: “How well it was, thought the young girl, that she had doffed her bed-gown and linsey-woolsey petticoat, her working-dress, and made herself smart in her stuff gown, when she sat down to work with her mother.” The Ohio Democrat commented in 1869 on local small farmers who had come into Charlotte, North Carolina, to sell their cotton crop: “They were uniformly dressed in the roughest sort of homemade linsey-wolsey.”

Punch had fun with its name in its issue of 14 February 1917:

When I grow up to be a man and wear whate’er I please, Black-cloth and serge and Harris-tweed — I will have none of these; For shaggy men wear Harris-tweed, so Harris-tweed won’t do, And fat commercial travellers are dressed in dingy blue; Lack-lustre black to lawyers leave and sad souls in the City, But I’ll wear Linsey-Woolsey because it sounds so pretty. I don’t know what it looks like, I don’t know how it feels, But Linsey-Woolsey to my fancy Prettily appeals.

Because linsey-woolsey combines two fabrics, the word came, as early as the end of the sixteenth century, to refer to a strange mixture and so to confusion or nonsense. Shakespeare was an early user in All’s Well That Ends Well (1601): “But what linsey-woolsey hast thou to speak to us again?” It’s long defunct in this sense; one of the last users was an anonymous critic in The Examiner in 1823: “A perking, prurient, linsey-wolsey species of composition.” [Perking: upstart, insolent or impudent.]"
 
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