In need of advice...

[aric49]

Hello Everyone,

Tonight, me and my brother went to a party where we knew there where going to be drugs and alchohol. I went with a bunch of friends that I knew where not going to drink, my brother being the driver and my friends riding in a seperate car. We had a pretty good time... untill I noticed my brother drinking... This really hurt me deeply.. He's my brother and he had the responsibility of driving me home. I really thought he would be responsible enough to not drink.. Being that I wasn't around him all night, I had no idea how many drinks he may have had. When it came time to go, I told him I would drive because I have my learners permit and I`m a pretty good driver. He got really mad at me because I guess I made him look bad in front of his friends. I finally got my way and drove home, him swearing at me and telling me how much respect he lost for me all the way. I knew in my heart that I was doing the right thing.. But still.. I feel really hurt in what he told me, and the fact that he drank when he knew that he would be driving.. Does that make any sence?? Please.. I just need advice about the situation. He told me he would never forgive me, and if I wanted to go home, I should have gone home with the friends in the second car... But, who knows how many more drinks he would have had???

Much Love in Our Lord Jesus Christ,
--Aric--

 

[CliffS]

aric,
Tonight, me and my brother went to a party where we knew there where going to be drugs and alchohol.

This is your problem!!!!!

Can you play with fire and never get burned????
Is flirting with danger that much fun?????

You were in a place you had no busness being ,doing something you had no business doing with the potential for serious consiquences and your worried because you and your drunk brother had a squabble?????? Stop with the kid's games, grow up, get over it . You got much more serous problems to deal with.

You ought to thank God nothing more serious happened!!!!!

I've been there done that already.
Try helping pick up your best freinds body and putting it in a body bag!!!!
Or maybe you would like to wake up strapped to bed in a detox ward because somebody slipped drugs into your drink at a party.
Or maybe wondering what you might have done or who you might have hurt or killed while driving blind drunk the night before.
Ever seen a person die of acohol poisening or drug over dose???? I have!!! They arn't pretty sights,either of them.
You know were it all starts????????

Right here

Tonight, me and my brother went to a party where we knew there where going to be drugs and alchohol.

You know that white stuff that's in the center of chicken crap???
Well, my freind that is chicken crap to.
Going with your brother into a situation were everything is wrong and doing one thing right don't make you a hero.
Somebody was looking out for you and if your smart you'll learn from it. If not, Guess we'll be seeing you in the 6 o'clock news.
In the mean time I'll be praying for your family.

Much Love in Our Lord Jesus Christ,

Don't just write or say it. Live it!!!

 

[Faithful Son]

Hi aric, I have to agree with CliffS on this. You had no business being there.

I have found myself in similiar situations throughout my youth. The fact is your post reminds me of my life. I have a brother who likes to drink aswell. I can't do anything about the situation, it is out of my hands, and it's too much detail to talk about. I live in a small town, there is a pub about half a kilometer from my house. My brother is a regular there. I don't have a drivers or learners license and I'm 22 years old. The fact is I'm not planning on getting one either. I have seen my brother drunk in his car and I'm in the passenger seat, speeding and endangering my life. This happens when I go with him to visit my mom for instance, or it happens when he had a bad week and the weekend started. It's party mode all the way. I used alcohol about 2 years ago and I have been drunk before, not a pretty sight. The fact is, I can't do anything about my situation, I'm in it and I have to submit to the fact that it's out of my hands. If I were to get a drivers lisence, I would become the chofir. I would have to be the one driving my brother around to the party places and drinking holes, and I'm not doing that.

If I don't get in the car with him, I stay at home. I never go anywhere in any case, and if I do, he's either drunk or in a speeding mood. The advice I'm trying to give you is this. Don't do things you will regret, don't go to parties, period. Even if you don't drink or use drugs. Stay at home or visit a friend at his house rather. I have been beaten by my own brother because I did not want to join his party, or because I spoke up and said I'm doing that. I have been ignored and been treated like dirt. It will only change if God changes it. All I can do is pray, and all you can do about your brothers attitude is pray. Start now, before you forget to pray and start hating him, that happened to me aswell.

I guess what I'm saying isn't so profound and wonderful, but it's a means to an end. Alcoholics, or people that use acohol have mood swings, it starts with being happy, then it turns to something bad, they always have that something in their mind they're not happy about. This means anyone who is in the way is the target. Pray for your brother, be real specific with him that you are not going to participate in his activities and if he wants to be mad at you, let him be. You'll be safe.

love
teraside

 

[calluna]

Aric49,
I agree with Cliffs, even though his approach is a little harsh. (Cliffs a little note - 1Peter4:11 'If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God'.
Why even bother going to these partys, you know how they always end up. People getting drunk, throwing up, acting stupid, fights, permiscuous sex, its just so ugly and not a place God wants Christians to be.

Proverbs1:10-16
If sinners entice you do not give into them
"if they say come along with us"
My son do not go along with them
do not set foot on their paths
For their feet rush into sin
they are swift to shed blood."

You need to decide who are you going to serve, Jesus Christ
or the world (satan)
We cannot do both.
With regards to your relationship with your brother, he will calm down and realize you did him a favor. The priority here is to be right with God.

Calluna

 

[uknowme]

hi...
well im not going to start talking about if it was wrong you going to the party or not!! since im 17 and i love to go out and party with my friends!!!and yes i drink acohol....and i have had some BAD expreiences with it to!!! i´ve also been to parties where some people took drugs...even my friends but i didnt!!!

so yeah to get back to you and your brother!!!....well he was drunk and said somethings that hurt you....my sister gets drunk alot...and she is a year younger than me...( i dont wanne make her sound bad....dont get me wrong but if she is out and drinks alcohol she gets drunk!!!) well anyways i always watch out for her...when im there too....cause i dont want anything bad happen to her..i guess i just try to protect her!!!okay well one time she really hurt me with what she said!! anyways the next day i told her that i was hurt and kinda mad about that!!! she said she was sorry and everything and didnt mean it...
maybe you should talk to your brother about what happend and tell him that he hurt you with what he said...!!!!that could help...and pray!! that usally always helps...

take care
kara

 

[Eve]

Hi Aric49,

I was exposed to drink and drugs at a young age (14). It was friends who stopped me going down the drug route but at the time I thought drink was the only way to have fun. I was thrill seeking but didn't realise it at the time. I've had my drink spiked without my knowledge not that it made any difference with all the alchohol I was having. Make no mistake you will be targeted.

However, there are no excusses for myself all I can say is I was an easy target foolish, young, naive and rebelling against anything and everything. This period of my life lead to many mistakes and regrets that torment me to this day.

Do not under estimate the power of temptation. 'the devil took him to a very high mountain and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor. "All this I will give you," he said, "if you will bow down and worship me."' (Mat 4:8)

Even Jesus was tempted and make no mistake you and your brother are also being tempted. 'lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil'.

Don't waist your life making the same mistakes I did, the only thing you will be missing out on by not going to these parties is a whole heap of unnessary anguish and regret. Your friends think they are having fun at the moment but it will all come back to haunt them like it has with my friends. Ask the Lord to give you strength to resist their pull.

You are more lucky than you realise you have Jesus in your heart to guide you, I didn't. However, as you have this knowledge you don't have any excuses to participate in the things you know to be full of sin and evil.

You also can't expect your brother to respect you when it seems he doesn't even respect himself.

It may sound like what we are saying to you seems harsh but there are other ways of getting high and having a good time, that don't involve drink and/or drugs. Things that are a heck of lot more fulfilling and exciting. It won't be easy to resist but it is important and worthwhile that you do as you will be ultimately rewarded.

God Bless you and keep you safe.

Eve

 

[p8ntballer5420]

i know this may not be a big long post but this helps me, simple letters W.W.J.D. ( what would jesus do ). If your confused about something or not sure about what to do next just think what would he do. i understand how you felt when you did the write thing but then someone got angry at you for doing it. Dont feel bad about what you did that night because it was a smart idea and mite have saved you and your brothers life. Godbless you and may you continue your walk with Jesus Christ.