In need of Advise

[denise12303]

I am currently bothered by the situation that I am in which causes me to become angry. I have a half sister whom is older than I from my fathers first marriage. Every since I can remember there has a been a falling out with her throughout the years. And its forever due to the choices she makes and the lies and rumors that she spreads about my family. Up until last year I basically threw in the towel as to wanting to try with her anymore. This woman has caused mental and physical harm to my family. Considering how I was young but still real very aware of what was going on and seeing her physically attack my mother has stayed with me forever. I have forgiven her but haven't spoken it to her. But I believe God knows how I feel about it and her. I have two small children whom I don't ever want to have to go through what I have had to go through in life. They don't deserve it and they don't need it. She LITERALLY brings out the worse in a person which is where the anger comes in. To me, I just honestly do not want to try anymore for sake of trying to protect myself and family. So many years of making the same choices, not caring who she throws under the bus,including our dad very many times,to get to where she wants to be, I feel like I shouldn't allow myself the hurt anymore. I think it's for the best. I know it's spoken in the bible, can't remember where I read it, but it said that God doesn't want you to surround yourself with non-believers or people that don't want to support your belief. I just wish that I could call God and ask him would it be ok if I just stop talking to her forever? I don't see any good coming out of it. I know she'll always be around cause we have the same family. But I guess what I'm asking is what would you do if you had to deal with a person like this and only knew of her in this way? Would you wash your hands with it all and move on and just wish her the best and keep on praying for her which is what I do sometimes, or would you keep trying? I honestly can't see myself trying anymore.

 

[stephen]

I have read your post dear lady and I hear the cry of your heart for peace, rest and blessing.

You are in my prayers. What can I say? Continue to be tolerant and patient....You are asking the Lord to help you.

Praying.

 

[HisFollower]

As followers of Christ our enemies are the enemies of righteousness, those that know to do good, and do it not, which is sin. But with our enemies whom it is our duty to love, we so do; but let us understand that love is "to care for"; and so if our enemy hungers, we give them food; if they thirst, we give them drink. Too many think of love as an affection, an emotion we must have toward our enemies; although even when they are in affliction, we shall comfort them sincerely. It is indeed an affection instilled in us by the Spirit of God, that is, the affection to care for their welfare, no matter who they may be; but again, not an affection or emotion such as we have for those that love us; but it is the same result od caring for those that do not. Moreover Christ tells us that we must "resist not evil", which is to say, we are not to confront nor withstand mistreatment, but rather take the wrong and forgive; which is the cross, and which is the law of Christ. As for praying for them, yes absolutely, we are to wish and hope with God that none would perish, but that they would rather come to repentnace; but repentance is voluntary, which it must be if it is to be sincere. All things which I´ve said are without any secular notion, which is why these things are not normal in this world; but those that belong to Christ cannot be a friend of the world, because those who actually belong to Christ are not of this world, and they hear God´s Word only; contrariwise, those of the world speak of the world, and the worldly hear them.

 

[cmiller217]

We must ALWAYS pray for them, help them if they need it, but there comes a time when youve said all u can say, preached all u can ppreach and tried to teach all u can that we just have to step back and let GOD dwal with them... We cant let anythinh, even family get between us anHim... Im not saying we should completely cut ourselves off from them but have no part in their ungodliness or foolishness and sometimes that means we have to step way back for a while... Just keep praying!

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[Brighthouse]

denise12303 Mark 4:24 says to be careful even for what we hear. As you well know, there is enough unbelief from the world alone to cause on to stumble let alone family as well! BUT!!

You knew there would be one!! lol I remember when I was as bad,what if Jesus thought like that?? Where oh where would I be?? We look at it,since they are lost,why become lost with them! There is one concern however you may wish to consider.Where are you in Christ? I judge you not,I am only asking.

We want the Lord's help,but we do not wish to take the time needed to call upon him?busy? sure I had that excuse,but excuses brought me sorry results as well.My goal is to not make you feel bad,but rather,look to and trust Jesus in every area of your life.easy?? lol Far from easy,but all the hard work you do,will indeed pay off for you.

I really hated my father,he was much like your half sister,he never had a kind word,he always told us what we could never do,rather then what we could do. He died, with me hating him even more for doing that.

It is not easy to deal with such a person!! But you will regret this,as I did. The easy thing would be to leave her in the desert by herself,she deserves it!! But my sister in Christ,we all deserve it!

Please read matt 18:21-35 This helped me greatly in understanding why we forgive. Your anger is not wrong,but it does no good for you either. Nor those you do care about,as i know they care very much for you!

Sure protect others from her,but do not turn your back unto her either.Jesus did not turn his back on us,as much as we really did deserve it! This like me,will take some training!! You sure are not going to do this overnight!!

But the idea is to draw closer to Jesus because of this,not further away, as the devil would want you to,causing you to just grow in your anger towards her.And there by only hurting yourself and those you do truly care for.

Please find a good bible based Church,and get involved. You want those close to you to interact with you,then you interact with the Lord,that is what he wants,because he loves you!! YES!! And so do we in him!! I hope this has both encouraged you,and brought some more light. remember LOVE covers a MULTITUDE of sins,( 1 Peter 4:8-19)not just for others!! BUT us as well!! blessing to you! I hope you enjoy the scriptures as well!!