In need of guidance

[MiccyinFl]

I will try to keep this post as brief as possible , but I have alot going on right now , so I beg you forgiveness if it goes on too long .

A little over a year ago I began my journey to God . It has not been easy , and I have not yet reached a total rendering to Him as of yet . I have faltered along the way , sometimes for longer periods of time than others . I have noticed lately as I grow closer to God , that my life has suffered many attacks from the enemy . It is getting so hard to stay on track towards God .

My 14 year old son , also faltering in his journey , is currently awaiting sentgencing within the juvenile justice system . He has repeatedly stolen from the home , and has gotten into trouble with the law for things he has done outside of the home. He has had a very difficult relationship with my husband ( his stepfather ) for a long time now , and recent events between them have caused my husband to leave the home .

I am now trying to help my son , save my marriage , and continue to provide for both of my children . It has been a rough couple of weeks here , and I have spent alot of time praying and asking for strength and to be shown the right path to take with all of these issues .

My biggest weakness is the need to be in control of any situation . I know that the enemy is using this weakness of mine , and is trying to pursuade me to act when i should be standing and praying and letting God do his will . I am weak and give in to these urges , and end up causing more damage to the situation .

I do not wish to have my marriage end in divorce , but I also need help in learning how to look to God first not my husband . I need help in handing over control of the household to my husband , to be submissive to him .
My husband believes in God , but is not a very religious person . As I grow closer to God I cant lean on my husband for guidance there .

It is all so very confusing and overwhelming and any advice is greatly appreciated .

I apologize for the lengthy post , and look forward to any and all responses.

Miccy

 

[Meagen]

Hi, I'm not sure how to go about this biblicaly but i can offer some advice from experience. My brother of 21 is now in prison and finising out a one year one day sentence. He has been active in the world of theft since he was 16 and we (my mother and I) have learned that maybe this is EXACTLY what he needs. So possibly this experience may straighten out your son. Also what may help is if you teach from the word about obedience and then set your expectations high, and punish your children EVERY time they dissobey. I am 17 and my mom never really punishes me when I argue with her, but after watching my pastor and his wife with their kids I now have an understanding of how I should act and of the punishment I should recieve sometimes.

As far as your husband goes. My dad moved out because of my brother. And now they are divorced, but i see many different things that could and should have happend. To me Marrige is a HUGE deal. It should be to one person and that is it and I see you feel similarly to me. So the best advice i can give you is to PRAY, and pray hard. Because not only will prayer help you here it can help you with the enemy. You see (and I'm sure you've heard this many many times) the closer you get to God the more the enemy wants to hurt you. He will bombard you with as many attacks and all at once that he can. Have Faith that the Lord will provide you. And (i have to work really hard on this one) instead of focusing on the bad parts of life think of all the things God has already done for you and provided you with. You have a home, a husband, two children..and I'm sure many more things. God will look out for you! Just give Him the praise and glory he deserves.

 

[Br. Bear]

My biggest weakness is the need to be in control of any situation . I know that the enemy is using this weakness of mine , and is trying to pursuade me to act when i should be standing and praying and letting God do his will . I am weak and give in to these urges , and end up causing more damage to the situation .
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It is all so very confusing and overwhelming and any advice is greatly appreciated .

Miccy

Greetings Miccy,

Let us look now to the Lord and Him alone... and let us look to see what He is doing with your weakness....

for it is Jesus who is your Lord and He has beautiful plans for you my sister.

Remember these words...

Beat your plowshares into swords, and your pruninghooks into spears: let the weak say, I am strong.
Joel 3:10


and....

2Corinthians 12:9-10 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

Miccy, we all are subject to urges from time to time... and please don't beat yourself too harshly... for Jesus our Lord took your beating for you.... honestly... if you are struggling as it is, at least be kind to yourself, for His sake, for He, Jesus Christ the Lord, loves you and always will.

Now you spoke well about standing.

In Ephesians chapter 6, we read these glorious words ....

:10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of His might.
:11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
:13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
:14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
:15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
:16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
:17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
:18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

From here, these words of counsel we find in the Bible, let us draw near...

Thus my heart was grieved, and I was pricked in my reins.
So foolish was I, and ignorant: I was as a beast before thee.

Nevertheless I am continually with thee: thou hast holden me by my right hand.

Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory.

Whom have I in heaven but thee? and there is none upon earth that I desire beside thee.
My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever.

For, lo, they that are far from thee shall perish: thou hast destroyed all them that go a ******* from thee.
But it is good for me to draw near to God: I have put my trust in the Lord GOD, that I may declare all thy works.
Psalm 73:21-28

and we read in Hebrews 10:22....
Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water.

Yes, Miccy... we can draw near to the Lord and look to see His hand upon our lives..... and you must tell yourself this... for even to you my sister, He says... Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Matthew 11:28-30


So, what is His burden?

Look again to Ephesians, sister.....
:18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

for it is in serving in love, serving others, that we are given His peace each day... and as members of His Body, engrafted into the True Vine, the Lord Jesus Christ Himself, that His life flows freely through us.

Yes, busy your soul for those members who are in need of His love... and you will see more and more each day His blessed will being performed to perfection in your life.


Let Jesus take full control of your family situation.. let your heart be fully focused on Him and cast all your care to Him so you can serve Him with joy and gladness.


With gladness and rejoicing shall they be brought:
they shall enter into the king's palace.
Psalm 45:15


I pray these words have helped you sister, in Jesus name... amen


Bless you ....><>

Br. Bear



These things have I spoken unto you,
that my joy might remain in you,
and that your joy
might be full.
John 15:11