In need of more advice and Prayers

[MiccyinFl]

Well here I am still seperated but my husband is at least saying he is willing to work on things . Thank you Jesus for that !! Although the words say he is willing , his actions sometimes do not . I am still very confused about what it is the Lord would have me do in these times .

I feel as though I am married and should do all that is needed to work this out . I take my vows very seriously . However when searching in the bible there are many instances where it says I am free of this bond to my husband . My husband has cheated on me in the past , as well as is a non believer and has left the home . But just because I can be free from this marriage , does that mean I should walk away ?

I just feel so sure that I am to continue on with my marriage and also continue to pray for my husbands salvation . I will confess that at times I feel as though i take back what I have given to the Lords hands .

Recently I have told my husband that we need to begin with the actions of working on our marriage , not just talking about it . We need to be spending more time together . It is hard to work on it with us in two seperate places , and he needs to either wholly commit to being in a marriage and working on it , or commit to being single . I told him that I do not want to again grieve for the loss of the marriage , but I will do so if need be , I had completely resigned myself that the marriage was over and handed my life situation to the Lord and his will , and as my testimony post says , then my husband turned 360 degrees and said he wanted to work on things . So this leads me to believe that my marriage is within the Lords will .

At the same time , is it the Lords will for me to be so confused and to suffer these things . Maybe there is a lesson Im not seeing here . Any advice is truly appreciated here .

My son is at his program , and working on his issues . He is getting much better grades and wants to work on our family issues . We were able to spend Thanksgiving together with other friends . My son was so proud to show my husband his new grades in school work .

I am thankful to the Lord for all these things . Where is the line of doing what needs to be done by me , and standing in wait of the Lord ?

I look forward to hearing from all . Pray with me for guidance .

Father you are a wonderful God , in you all things are possible . I thank you for all my blessings and for the comfort you give in my trying times . In Jesus' name i rebuke spirits of confusion and distraction . Lord send my the Holy Spirit to guide me and give me the wisdom needed at this time .
I ask these things in Jesus' name .
Amen

Miccy
Praise the Lord always !

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

Well here I am still seperated but my husband..

My son was so proud to show my husband his new grades in school work .

I am thankful to the Lord for all these things . Where is the line of doing what needs to be done by me , and standing in wait of the Lord ?

Miccy
Praise the Lord always !

Hi Miccy,
You have a really unique way of spelling your name. I'm sure you've been told that before : )

Son's are always seeking their fathers approval.

Just last night, I was sharing with a bunch of guys Rev.4:8. Sometimes in the most difficult of situations, it's hard to find the will to praise.
The four creatures helped me a time or two.

I know He's worthy of my praise. Even when I don't like my situation. Even when my anger is aimed at life.

" Holy, Holy, Holy is the Lord God Almighty. Who was, who is, and who is to come."
...there have been some times in my life when that was the only thing to roll off my lips.
Over and over, just as they did.



Do you have a trusted confidante you confide in, or a counselor with whom you can find strength?

This is an important step in your healing,the hope of your marriage being restored, and your son's father being accountable in his life.


I'm praying for you,

Marco

 

[Br. Bear]

Pray with me for guidance .

Father you are a wonderful God , in you all things are possible . I thank you for all my blessings and for the comfort you give in my trying times . In Jesus' name i rebuke spirits of confusion and distraction . Lord send my the Holy Spirit to guide me and give me the wisdom needed at this time .
I ask these things in Jesus' name .
Amen

Miccy
Praise the Lord always !

Greetings Miccy,


yes, Father, You are wonderful, and we do ask these things in Jesus name, believing..... and also ask for guidance for Miccy as she endeavours to glorify you in her life in all things.... amen


Miccy, dear sister in Jesus Christ the Lord,

you certainly have a load to carry.... but let us rejoice that it is not too much, for such is the bountiful love of our Saviour and Lord, Jesus Christ, that He will never give us too much. Thank You Jesus..... yes, thank You Lord that You supply our needs to do Your will, that You have given of Yourself even now in glory, You share Your glory in our favour that we may continue in praise and thanksgiving with joy and when the race is run, be still in worship and adoration of You alone. Bless You Jesus.


At the same time , is it the Lords will for me to be so confused and to suffer these things . Maybe there is a lesson Im not seeing here . Any advice is truly appreciated here .
Now, sister, you know that God is not a God of confusion.... and He has clarity for you, my sister... even as you suggest... maybe there is a lesson to see.

I will write more soon.


Bless you ....><>

Br. Bear

 

[MiccyinFl]

Marco thank you for your response , yes sons are always seeking their fathers approval , for my son his father has been pretty much absent from his life , my husband is his step father and they have had some very trying times . They are seeking to rebuild this as well !

I do not have a confidant I talk to , except my wonderful family in Christ here on TJ !


Br Bear thank you as well for your response . I am very thankful through the stregnth of Jesus my load has not been too much . I will be moving soon due to the foreclosure sale of my home as well in all this , some days it does seem to be too much , but the Lord reaches down and touches my heart and gives me that little bit extra i need to persevere . Thank you Lord for all that you do in my life . I look forward to reading the more to come later from you


Thanks for the prayers brothers

Miccy

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

dear sister miccy,

What can i utter to you is a little prayer. Hope this would encourage you and strengthen you even. Amen.

I pray that may the Lord continue to fill your heart with songs of deliverance, joy and peace, yes, even the sacrifice of praise. Amen.


Thou art my hiding place; thou shalt preserve me from trouble; thou shalt compass me about with songs of deliverance.
Psalm 32:7

By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to his name.
Hebrews 13:15

Amen.


Keep praying beloved sister and hold on, don't quit.

Just a brief testimony.. One of our dear sister here suffered the same situation with you, and she almost gave up on her life and family. After almost a year and a half of struggle and patience, now all is going well to her marriage and to her family. We've been witnessing how the Lord is restoring everything now to her. And they are now becoming a happy family again. She's been used by the Lord mightily today in his vineyard. Amen. The Lord is faithful..


Keeping you in prayer dear sister in Christ..



Reymiein

Miccy, dear sister in Jesus Christ the Lord,

you certainly have a load to carry.... but let us rejoice that it is not too much, for such is the bountiful love of our Saviour and Lord, Jesus Christ, that He will never give us too much. Thank You Jesus..... yes, thank You Lord that You supply our needs to do Your will, that You have given of Yourself even now in glory, You share Your glory in our favour that we may continue in praise and thanksgiving with joy and when the race is run, be still in worship and adoration of You alone. Bless You Jesus.


Bless you ....><>

Br. Bear

Amen Bro. Bear


When times seems difficult and hurting, tough or whatsoever...

A shout of praise and rejoicing is a powerful tool for us to endure and gain victories. Amen


Make a joyful noise unto the LORD, all ye lands.

Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing.

Know ye that the LORD he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.

Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name.

For the LORD is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations.

Psalm 100


Amen.

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings again sister,

I am still praying and seeking only Jesus to be exalted in our lives, and will write soon.

Bless you ....><>



Br. Bear



Psalm 93:1-5
The LORD reigneth, He is clothed with majesty; the LORD is clothed with strength, wherewith He hath girded Himself: the world also is stablished, that it cannot be moved.
Thy throne is established of old: Thou art from everlasting.
The floods have lifted up, O LORD, the floods have lifted up their voice; the floods lift up their waves.
The LORD on high is mightier than the noise of many waters, yea, than the mighty waves of the sea.
Thy testimonies are very sure: holiness becometh Thine house, O LORD, for ever.

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings again, Miccy,

how are you now?

I just feel so sure that I am to continue on with my marriage and also continue to pray for my husbands salvation



Recently I have told my husband that we need to begin with the actions of working on our marriage , not just talking about it . We need to be spending more time together . It is hard to work on it with us in two seperate places , and he needs to either wholly commit to being in a marriage and working on it , or commit to being single . I told him that I do not want to again grieve for the loss of the marriage , but I will do so if need be , I had completely resigned myself that the marriage was over and handed my life situation to the Lord and his will , and as my testimony post says , then my husband turned 360 degrees and said he wanted to work on things . So this leads me to believe that my marriage is within the Lords will .



Where is the line of doing what needs to be done by me , and standing in wait of the Lord ?


I suppose it comes down to who is calling the shots.... who is in charge of your marriage.

Only the Lord really knows what has gone on behind closed doors over the years, but we can be sure that He still desires us to honour Him with our trust and love.

Have you asked yourself these questions......?

• Can you trust your marriage totally to the Lord?
  
• Can you trust him with your husband.... that He will do His will in your husband's life and that He can order your husbands steps?
  
• How much credit do you give yourself for the good things in your marriage?
  
• And who gets the credit for 'bad' things?

Now, as for doing what needs to be done, we all need to put Jesus first.... which is easily said..... but do we?

In a marriage, we needs look at Jesus and see that in loving Him, as Christians, He will bring His life into ours, which in marriage terms, is a healthy marriage. For you, it is perhaps one-sided, with your husband being a non-believer, but that does not mean you ought love the Lord any less.

Often, in marriages, Jesus is given an option to fit into it... sort of, us first, then "please Jesus, bless our marriage." We see people getting it all sorted out the way they think it should be and asking Jesus to join in to their plans.

He wants our marriages to be beauty filled, pure and holy, full of joy and peace. These qualities/fruit are only found in Him ..... and not the icing on top of the cake, but rather, the backbone to a solid marriage, blessed by the Lord.

Does any of this make sense, Miccy, and can these words minister to you at this time?
I pray they do, for His glory and your blessing.


Bless you ....><>



Br. Bear



Psalm 25:4-6
Shew me Thy ways, O LORD;
teach me Thy paths.
Lead me in Thy truth,
and teach me:
for Thou art the God of my salvation;
on Thee do I wait all the day.
Remember,
O LORD,
Thy tender mercies
and Thy lovingkindnesses;
for they have been ever of old.

 

[MiccyinFl]

Hello dear Br Bear ,
I wish to thank you for your concern and ministering to me and many others here . I have found recently (just in the past few days actually ) how internal i have been . Yes of course I want my marriage to work , and be always happy and trial free , but that just isnt the way any aspect of life is .
The past few days have been a little rough for me , trials with others as well as life in general . Then something happened the other day . Around the corner a family of 8 was put out of their home due to a fire started by a space heater . They had 2 young infants . I knew i needed to do something for them . I have prayed on my own as well as with others here on TJ . I called the local police station and found they were accepting donations there and got sizes for all the family members for clothes . I went to work and had 2 others there help me to pay for some clothing for them , and brought it to the police station yesterday . It is very sad that this family has had to deal with a tragedy like this , but it told me , reach out to others . Look out beyond yourself . The Lord is there watching over us and will provide what we need .
Though this externally has nothing to do with my situation , the message for me was there .
My husband and I are truly on the road to repair . The timing and control are not mine .
I do trust the Lord with everything !! He is my healer , my comforter , my Father.
The steps arent always easy , but the Lord is with me always !! That makes them easier to handle .
I am sure I have been rambling , but I have just been so filled the past 2 days i can barely contain myself .
Thank You Lord for all the blessings in my life , as well as the pruning I need . Thank you giving just what I need when I need and exactly how much . Thank you for loving me first Lord . Bless all my family in Christ , and for leading me to them .
In Jesus' name
Amen

Miccy