is anyone out there who is hurting like me .

[christian 19]

I would like to know if anyone is in the same boat as me? , as in , feeling hurt , or had enough of life , deppressed , if there is there please could you pm me, coz , I feel like I'm the only one who is in this ........ , and if there is anyone who had enough of being single or just had enough of everthink , then please let me know , if you don't want to pm me, then post it here.

 

[Word of Life]

Well, we all have times in feeling despressed and down, even when we are married. Sometimes I feel I want to be single again, not to go out and meet other men. So don't think being married is the answer, because it isn't. I wanted to go into a ministry full time, but due to me being married, I can't, unless my husband comes with me that is, but he isn't as committed as I am.

Firstly I don't know your age and the reason for you feeling this way, but if you would like to me PM me with some personal background, then I will be there to help.

Here is something in the meantime.

Depression

Depression can be relieved by patiently meditating on God's Word and expecting Him to act. It's in the Bible, Psalm 42:6, TLB. "Yet I am standing here depressed and gloomy, but I will meditate upon Your kindness to this lovely land where the Jordan River flows and where Mount Hermon and Mount Mizar stand."

Prayer is a key to handling depression. It's in the Bible, I Samuel 1:10, NIV. "In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the Lord."

It is useful to count your blessings. It's in the Bible, Psalm 107:8-9, TLB. "Oh, that these men would praise the Lord for His loving kindness, and for all of His wonderful deeds! For He satisfies the thirsty soul and fills the hungry soul with good."

Praise can chase away depression. It's in the Bible, Psalm 34:1-3, TLB. "I will praise the Lord no matter what happens, I will constantly speak of His glories and grace. I will boast of all His kindness to me. Let all who are discouraged take heart. Let us praise the Lord together, and exalt His name."

Christian music can help dispel depression. It's in the Bible, Psalm 33:1-3, TLB. "Let all the joys of the godly well up in praise to the Lord, for it is right to praise Him. Play joyous melodies of praise upon the lyre and on the harp. Compose new songs of praise to Him, accompanied skillfully on the harp; sing joyfully."

Feeling depressed and discouraged doesn't last forever. It's in the Bible, Psalm 30:5, TLB. "Weeping may go on all night, but in the morning there is joy."

 

[Snowrose]

Hello Christian,

I have been reading most of your posts and you have been in my prayers. I was thinking about children when they have growing pains, they are not easy to handle for it can be painful to go through. It is also the same when we are growing spiritually. When circumstances arise in our lives, it is hard – some we do not ask for and some of our doing. There is no changing that but what can be change is how we react during these times. I speak because I was (or maybe still am at times). I did everything and fought to make sure all goes well in my life. So I looked to people for help and encouragement. That in itself is not wrong but when it leaves Jesus in the back ground - it is problem.

By God grace, He allowed me to go through the fire (my desert so to speak). My husband left me (13 years ago now) with three children and then 5 years ago the church I was going to - closed. Left alone not once but twice. How I fought to control things not only in my life but also that of my children's - not trusting in our Lord in any of my circumstances or life. Oh the turmoil that I went through – anger, bitterness, selfishness and distrust. These traits were revealed in that refiner's fire and yet He still loved me. Not only was I humbled - I was floored by His love. I stopped fighting and going to people to fill my emptiness. When I did this, I saw my own selfishness. Who am I to question God? Do I control my life? Did I give breath to my children? No.

In the words of this song speaks of the refiner’s fire (song by Steve Green):

There burns a fire with sacred heart, white hot with holy flame
And all who dare pass through its blaze will not emerge the same
Some are bronze, and some are silver, some as gold, then with great skill
All are hammered by their sufferings on the anvil of His will

Chorus
The Refiner’s fire has now become my soul desire
Purged and cleansed and purified that the Lord be glorified
He is consuming my soul, refining me, making me whole
No matter what I may lose, I choose the Refiner’s fire

I’m learning now to trust His touch, to crave the fire’s embrace
For through my past with sin was etched, His mercies did erase!
Each time His purging cleanses deeper, I’m not sure that I’ll survive
Yet the strength in growing weaker, keeps my hungry soul alive.

I am still learning to walk in this journey and yes, loneliness is hard but loneliness without God is harder still. Are you willing to except the difficult times as well as the good? Are you willing to grow weaker so that He alone is glorified? It is not about us – it is about Him and Him alone. His desire for us is to grow in Him and die to our selfishness. Just rest in Him, Christian. I love you and you will be in my prayers. God bless you as you journey on this pathway.

Love,
Snowrose

 

[christian 19]

word of life :i'm sorry but this post is for SINGLE people ONLY !,

 

[stephen]

word of life :i'm sorry but this post is for SINGLE people ONLY !,

Hey Christian 19........Single, Married, Divorced, Widowed, we want to pray for you. We want you to be successful...... Happy.

The psalmist said 'He is the lifter up of my head'

May your head be lifted..............I request this for you........in Jesus

 

[Fellowservant]

If any man or woman is feeling faint in thier christian walk, then let them pray, single or not.

Jesus said if we do not humble ourselves as little children, we will not enter the kingdom of God.


Luk 18:1 And he spake a parable unto them [to this end], that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;


1Pe 3:12 For the eyes of the Lord [are] over the righteous, and his ears [are open] unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord [is] against them that do evil.



Prayer is a key to handling depression. It's in the Bible, I Samuel 1:10, NIV. "In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the Lord."


Sounds good to me...pray, God answers the prayers of the just, or should i say righteous saints:star:


God bless

 

[Strypes]

Christian,

As I read your post, I thought of my own struggle with being single. Being single is hard. But you are not alone!!

Being obedient to God's word by being chaste until marriage is very difficult in this world that flaunts sexuality in every media.We are not called to live like the rest of the world lives.

To Follow Jesus not the world.

and it is difficult to deny yourself the pleasures the world flaunts.

Just allow Jesus to live out your divine life and he is with you every SINGLE day!!

Don't fret and know you are not alone!!


There is a scripture of which I am reminded .. a very powerful passage

I would highly advise memorizing the whole passage.

1 Peter chapter 5 (NIV)

6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

8 Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 11 To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen

 

[chinaski]

Hi Christian_19

I can relate alot to what you are describing. I used to want to die and my life was very difficult. I am also single and lonlyness can be var hard sometimes but with the help from Jesus I can now say my life is so much better. . I discovered that the more I read the bible and ask God for help my depression gradually faded. When I stopped it gradually came back. This showed me that Jesus and the bible really works.

Depression can be extremly hard somtimes. It oftes blinds us so that we cant see clearly. I myself have gone trough many years of depression, anxiety and selfesteem problems. Usually the most difficult about all of this is that friends and family often dont understand what you are going trough. This can make you feel alone and can make the depression even stronger. Sort of like a downward spiral.

What I would encourage you to do is try and find a christian counselor to talk about theese things. It is often very helpful to get an outside oppinion from someone who works with theese kind of things. They can help you realise things that you do not see clearly for yourself.

What helped me the most was sort of distansing myself from my own depression. That can maybe sound a little strange but I can explain.
Since we are made in the image of God his intent for us is not to be filled with depression. That means in other words that it is unatural for us.

Usually thoughts of depression and low selfesteem comes from previous bad experiences. When we as children grow up we look around us at to figure out who we are. Sometimes we can run into bad people that will put us down and hurt our selfesteem or say things that make us depressed and get a wrong image of ourself.

God's thought for us are of love. He sais he loves us so much that he has written our names in his right hand. Think about that for a moment.
He is trying to tell us how important we are to him. This means that our negative thoughts about our self is not from god but from this world and therefore lies.

And the good news is that we can ourself change the way we think about things.
This is what helped me the most. I thought of my depression as merely a sickness like the flu or similar only it was in my thoughts.

in 2. corinthins 10:5 it sais:
"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to christ"

We can take our thoughts of depression capture with the help from Jesus!


This means swapping out what we think about ourself with what he thinks about us.

How do we take it captive?

What I do is this, Whenever I get a thought that seems to put me down or make me depressed I try to identify what thought it was that put me down. I then write it on a piece of paper and try to see if I can remeber how long I have been thinking like this and very often this bad feeling or thought is a result of some bad experience.

Now that we have identfied the problem how do we fix it?

Here is a few steps we can take to help us fix it and change our thoughts to truth and acording to what the bible tells us about ourself.

1. What do I really think about myself conserning this thought/problem?
2. Where does this feeling/thought come from?
3. Is it reasonable of me to think this way?
4. Could the way I feel about this thought/problem be wrong?
5. What would someone else than myself that knows me say about this problem?
5. What does Jesus tell me about this problem?

Now that we have found out that this thought is actually not Gods thought about us we have to search his words to find out what he is telling us.

Now we can use this as a deffense whenever the "problem" comes back. We memorise the scrpiture from the bible about his thoughts for us in this situation and use it whenever the bad thought or feeling comes back.

Whenever the problem or bad thought of depression comes to us we can say NO, this is not true besause Jesus sais: .......

By doing this every time we feel depressed we will gradually swap out our bad thoughts with new truth from the bible. After a while the truth will take the place of the lie and this will change our downward spiral thoughts to upward spiral thought.

It sais in the bible that the truth will set you free.

I know that this can be very difficult but with the help from a christian councelor or maybe a priest it can be an easier task.

Gods love to you Christian19 I will pray for you.

 

[calluna]

Hi Christian, all these wonderful encouraging posts by people who care about you. It doesn't matter whether we are single or married. Never turn down someones' prayers, Christian love or Godly wisdom that they are offering you. Accept these things with a humble heart.

I just heard a great sermon from my church and it was about friendships. The pastor was saying if any of us are complaining that we are lonely or have no friends, then we are partly responsible for our lonliness. We have to reach out to others, let us be the first one to say ' hello' to someone, or offer help, get involved in the community and church. People are not going to be knocking on our doors. And if you are wanting Christian friends in particular then, you have to put yourself in places where there may be. And pray to the Lord to bring them into your life. Seek and ye shall find, Christ promises joy, peace, happiness.....we have to go after it my friend, it isn't going to drop in our laps.

"But seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Mathew 6:33

Christian 19, in the past I have felt like you but things changed when I started removing the focus from myself and onto Jesus. When we take time to look outside of ourselves and look to Christ and see what we can do to help others and serve God, it can be just a simple thing as visiting an elderly person who is lonely and needs the company, or running errands for someone who is sick, we may find our depression will go and our lives are fuller and freer and alot happier. I pray you will not reject any of this advice given by myself or others and your life will become filled with the Joy of Jesus and you will walk in the fullness of Christ. He is able to fill your cup until it overflows.

Calluna