Is it from Satan?

[Maureen]

How would you deal with a husband (unsaved) who keeps on chipping away at you, just to annoy you, I know it's called mental torture, but I guess it's not as bad as some may endure.
Just to give an example he told me just last week that since I got saved (4years ago) I'm not a nice person and that the whole family think the same, I have 1 daughter 3 sons all married, I was devestated, only to find out that it was lies and it was himself thinking it, and that he then said he maybe was thinking it about himself. Huh!!!!
I could write a book, but wont its just to give you an idea.
I don't know how much more of it I can take, were married 35yrs and he has been like this even before my salvation, but it goes on.
I know the Lord Jesus will guide me as to what to do, and I'm so happy I have him to help me through it when all those years I hadn't.
Just would like to know what you think yourselves.
Thank you for taking time to read and reply if you can.
Lordbless.
Maureen

 

[Katie]

How would you deal with a husband (unsaved) who keeps on chipping away at you, just to annoy you, I know it's called mental torture, but I guess it's not as bad as some may endure.
Just to give an example he told me just last week that since I got saved (4years ago) I'm not a nice person and that the whole family think the same, I have 1 daughter 3 sons all married, I was devestated, only to find out that it was lies and it was himself thinking it, and that he then said he maybe was thinking it about himself. Huh!!!!
I could write a book, but wont its just to give you an idea.
I don't know how much more of it I can take, were married 35yrs and he has been like this even before my salvation, but it goes on.
I know the Lord Jesus will guide me as to what to do, and I'm so happy I have him to help me through it when all those years I hadn't.
Just would like to know what you think yourselves.
Thank you for taking time to read and reply if you can.
Lordbless.
Maureen

Maureen,
I feel for you, really I do. My mom is in the same kind of situation. My dad is "saved" but he does not show it, he puts my mom down all the time. He is a preacher at our church but during the week you would not know it. And he has not been there for me and my sisters. Sometimes I don't know how my mom handles it. But she goes to god when things get too hard.

1st corinthians ch7:16
-For how do you know, Oh wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, Oh husband, whether you will save your wife?

That whole chapter is on marriage. And that verse is talking to you, you have a man that is not saved and you are, show him by your christian ways how good life can be. Show him the Love of Christ. Who knows what God has in store for you. You can be sure that it is something great.

Here is a verse someone very special showed me-

2nd corinthians 12:9-10

And he said to me, "My grace is sufficiant for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness." Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, That the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ's sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.


Here is one that was just shown to me
1st corinthians 2:9

But as it is written:
"Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
the things which God has prepared for those who love him.

Your sister in Christ,
Katie

 

[ladylovesJesus]

Wonderful answers Katie.

I would say that to just show Jesus' love to him. The unconditional love. Be so pleasant to him and even when he is nasty just say something sweet to him.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. Prov.3.5-6

God bless you :rainbow: :rose:

 

[Maureen]

Thank you so much

I have tried even went to make him tea and he put his hand over his cup and ordered NO, and it wasn't cause he didn't want it as he straight way made his own, he's just been so rotten, so I've resigned myself to being quiet, then he has nothing to grumble at.
You'd think after 35yrs you'd take no notice, but since being saved my heart is so soft it is killing me. I can't show him a 'good life' I'm having at present when my heart is overwelmed like this, I've never been so sad in church in all my life as today, but praise God he lifted me.
I know I cant go on like this, I've took enough, I know to keep on asking the Lord's help in my situation, my head aches because of the upset.
I can relate to anyone living with an unsaved person, 'don't be unequally yoked' how true.
Thank you for your replies really appreciated.
I am leaning on the Lord, he will resolve this, I know, his way is perfect, not like ours.
Thank you again friends in Christ
Maureen

 

[ladylovesJesus]

Hi Maureen

So sorry to hear that he is not even allowing you to be kind and show Jesus to him.

You are right when you say His way is perfect.

I will keep you in my prayers and at this time all you can really do is keep praying for a change of heart in him and for his salvation.

I empathise with you, having to cope in this way.

Only too happy to try and help out.

God bless you sis. :rainbow: :rose:

 

[Faithful Son]

You're in my prayers too sister Maureen

Titus 2:1-5
1You must teach what is in accord with sound doctrine. 2Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.

3Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Titus 2:11-15
11For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. 12It teaches us to say "No" to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, 13while we wait for the blessed hope—the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, 14who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good.

15These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you.


God bless you sister, keep following the Champion of Salvation.
Much love
teraside

 

[Katie]

I will pray for you as well Maureen. It is good you have God first in your life, just know that he will never give you more than you can handle.

Many blessings to you

 

[monkeys]

Dear Maureen,

I am so sorry to hear about your situation with your husband. It is so difficult to be saved and have the one person who is suppose to be closest to you putting you down.

The first thing I can say is to pray. Do not stop praying. Satan is attacking you and your marriage. He is angry and jealous that you have chosen to be with God. He wants to destroy you in any way possible. Just like Satan did to Job. He tried to use Job's wife to convince him to curse God:

Job 2: 9- 10
His wife said to him, "Are you still holding on to your integrity? Curse God and die!" He replied, "You are talking like a foolish woman. Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?"

The second thing I can suggest is to be an example to your husband. He does not know the Lord. Through your actions, he will see the love of Christ. You could try to invite him to church, or to pray with you. Do not give up on your marriage, I do not think that is what God would want.

I pray that the Lord gives you strength and wisdom in this obstacle. May he lift you up and give you the words to speak to your husband, so that he too may know our Heavenly Father. Amen.

Many Blessings,
monkeys

 

[Tonyb]

My grace is sufficient for you...

Hi Maureen,

You've just got to find that place in God were your husbands chipping doesn't effect you in a negative sense but rather strengthens you and the divine glory and grace that is on the inside of you starts to flow out. The apostle Paul used to relish such opportunities because he knew when he was weak he was going to run into God's strength and God's ability.

These trials are just opportunities for God to show you how wonderful He is to you, and how He can display his strength and love to you in them. It's great way of proving to your unbelieving husband how great your God is too.

2 Corinthians 12:7-10
7To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. 8Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. 9But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. 10That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

So here's how you do it, you start to acknowledge your weakness before God by thanking Him for it, it doesn't to make sense but it works.
So when you are weak and stuck, and you can't do anything about the situation - in this case your husbands chipping - thank and praise the Lord for it then start to acknowledge God's grace – His strength and ability – to deal with it.

God's promise to you is, ' My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'
And, ' For when I am weak then am I strong.' Our Father God delights to do these things for us, its called growing in grace.

Blessings,
Tonyb

 

[Maureen]

Thank you again.

thank you kindly all of you but TonyB wow, you know on this second day
I am starting to know God's grace, in my weakness and how he has his
hand on the situation because I can endure, it was only brought to my attention when my daughter said 'Mum I couldn't go through that' my reply was but I can,
and it is only by God's hand that I can.
I praise Him from morning till night, I love him, for Calvary and for his love to us, he is my first, and I know that someday in His time he will save my husband if it were my way it would be sooner but God's way is always perfect.
He has brought me through very much, and still is, my Dad died last Feb and I am an only child (adult now though) so you can guess how much that hurt and through it all I was able by God's hand to take the pulpit in the church and speak from the Psalms which helped me while Dad was ill in hospital, I shared with the people gathered that it was by God's grace that I was standing there, and it spoke volumes to my family they said they saw God at work Hallelujah, as I'm a quiet, shy sort of person, but God held my hand and I took that step of faith, stepped out of the boat, He did the rest.
So I know this is only a temporary set back, it is my husbands birthday this Friday so I'm going to see what I can find to buy him, surely that will speak of the love of God, who holds no malice.
Thank you all again keep writing I'm enjoying hearing from you all I haven't been here for ages but think I'll start now and visit regularly. If you'll have me.
Lord bless Brothers and Sisters love you's in Christ.
Maureen

 

[ladylovesJesus]

Hi Maureen

I am glad to hear how the Lord has been working in your life. Thank you for sharing this with us. The grace of God upon our life is not dependent upon us. Praise the Lord.

It is good to see you here and please keep coming and visiting us here. We love to have you here with us for fellowship and supporting one another.

Be blessed :rainbow: :rose:

 

[Maureen]

Thank you for your kind words LadyloveJesus
I'm having a great time here sharing and reading your words and God's
I'm not going anywhere.
Thank you again.
Maureen