Is it time to move on?

[Maureen]

I find myself in a bit of a muddle at present, help and advice and prayer would be very much appreciated.

My husband, unsaved, was diagnosed as Diabetic approx 2 months ago, he had been very good controlling it with diet and is shedding pounds which he very much needed to, but as always the demon drink has a habit of turning up.
I have, for those of you who don't know, suffered from mental and verbal abuse through his drinking, for many years, since being saved the Lord has been a great sorce of strength to me.

Things of late had been good, although we do lead seperate lives, his includes his social binge drinking which I am not part of neither want to be.
I have my church occasions, he had been going with me and has heard the gospel now for approx 2 years but is still in his sins.

The problem arose on Sat night, when he got drunk at a house party, I was at Church Harvest, not a good thing for a diabetic person to do, very stupid in fact, this has sort of made me stop and think and take everything into perspective.

I had been helping plan his food, less sugar less fat etc, making healthy meals for him, now I feel it's been all a waste of time, I actually feel like I dont want to be here with him anymore. I am tired holding out the hand of kindness and this last episode seems to have shook me seriously.

We are not a young couple, in fact nearly 37yrs married.
I have put up with much in these years, adultery, his drinking, the abuse from it, the Lord healed our marriage when I got saved nearly 6 years ago, I know the Christian life has it's struggles, and I love Jesus with all my heart, but surely there comes a time when enough really is enough.

I welcome any words of wisdom, of direction any of you may supply.
May Jesus bless you with them.
Thank you
Maureen

 

[Fragrant Grace]

For God hath made me fruitful in my land of affliction
Genesis 41:52

Dear sister Maureen,

I do feel for you in this difficult situation and pray that the Lord will strengthen, encourage and refresh you.

As I was just praying for you and your husband I got a powerful image in my mind of this poor desparate lost soul, groping around hopelessly in a life of drink and sin. He will have seen changes in you over the past 6 years that he can't comprehend....and satan will be powerfully attempting to keep him from the truth...and Maureen you being a Christian present a challenge to satan....and that most wicked deciever will be attempting to sow discouragement into your heart.

So I believe this may be the time to really shower your husband with love and kindness, to keep on serving him and ministering to his needs, to shine with the love of Jesus. Love is the way to reach lost souls.

Now our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and God, even our Father, which hath loved us, and hath given us everlasting consolation and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and stablish you in every good word and work. 2 Thes 2:16-17

Dear sister Maureen, I will continue to pray for you, that the Lord will clearly guide you in this situation. And most of all that your dear husband will be saved and you can both rejoice in the joy of salvation

God bless you

Julia

 

[Brother Mike]

God Is Good.

I use to be a husband just like that!!!! Married for only 18 years though.

It is real hard when someone gets saved and the other lives like a heathen.

I posted this, to another man. I don't want to retype it here.

http://www.talkjesus.com/men/23631-divorce.html

Real faith never gives up. Real bible love never gives up. However, you not in bondage, and it may take a lot of time to sow enough word in and get the right teaching. There is nothing, wrong with separating and using that time to fellowship with your church, and getting stronger in the Word. He is suppose to be taking care of you, not the other way around. I did not say divorce or see other people. Spend it with God. Staying with him, will just continue to make you bitter, and you want to avoid that. When being a Pastor, I found this the most wise thing to do, as everyone has different levels of faith, and ability to continue to walk in love.

You can keep in faith for your marriage, without going through all the hassle and nonsense.

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Maureen]

Julia
Thank you for your words of encouragment dear sister.

I just can't shower anymore love I'm all run out.
I feel I've reached a cross roads and it's time now to choose which way, I am so pleased, thrilled even, that I have Jesus who will guide as to which road to go.

As for Evan he has heard the gospel time and time again, there are many praying for him, I'm drained.
He knows whom I love and adore, he knows who I will be following, he knows what Jesus has done for us unworthy wretches, still satan temps him.

What I do best is put my words into writing, I'm not a talker, good listener, so I wrote what was on my heart, I'm leaving it for him to read, I cannot just let him think everything is good with me, when it isn't.
I'm tired of being battered (mentally) and the Lord knows it well.

please keep in touch sister.

 

[Maureen]

Brother Mike
I cannot get into that link.
It won't let me access it.

I'd love to read it too.

 

[Maureen]

I use to be a husband just like that!!!! Married for only 18 years though.

It is real hard when someone gets saved and the other lives like a heathen.

I posted this, to another man. I don't want to retype it here.

http://www.talkjesus.com/men/23631-divorce.html

Real faith never gives up. Real bible love never gives up. However, you not in bondage, and it may take a lot of time to sow enough word in and get the right teaching. There is nothing, wrong with separating and using that time to fellowship with your church, and getting stronger in the Word. He is suppose to be taking care of you, not the other way around. I did not say divorce or see other people. Spend it with God. Staying with him, will just continue to make you bitter, and you want to avoid that. When being a Pastor, I found this the most wise thing to do, as everyone has different levels of faith, and ability to continue to walk in love.

You can keep in faith for your marriage, without going through all the hassle and nonsense.

Jesus Is Lord.

Brother Mike
some great advice in there, I thank you from my heart.
I think it has come to that time that I need to be away from him, I have never felt as I do today that I didn't even want to look at him, that is not good or healthy.
Believe me there is no inkling of a thought of entertaining other men, I have been faithful for nearly 37yrs I no intentions of changing that, even though he may not have been, but that was long ago.
The Lord Jesus will guide me, I trust Him fully, and fully dependant on Him.
Thank you for taking time to reply, if you could sort out that link I'd be very grateful.

 

[Brother Mike]

God Bless sister.

The link worked for me. Ah, it's under the Men's section.......... you being a female may not be able to access it. A man wrote about his wife leaving him. I have some links for free material to help you, if you go to the website. I would follow the advice. Leave while you still have a heart for him, and let the Lord start healing........ Here is what I posted to him.

Bless God Brother. Yes God will enable you. You believe this is a attack of Satan? Well, it is written that the Thief came not but to kill, steal and destroy.

IF your really interested, then I'll give you a few things.

When I got locked up for awhile, my wife left me for another man. She even sent divorce papers for my Christmas present, she also cut all contact with me and my children. You don't have any parental rights behind bars.

I had not heard from her in months, and months. I would cry myself to sleep praying about it every night, just miserable and feeling sorry for myself.

Getting the Divorce papers, I felt God was not going to help me. Holding those papers in my hand was a sure sign that any of my prayers were not working.

God had to teach me a lot of things about What a Christian is suppose to be. I was studying every book I could get my hands on at the time. In Prison your limited to what other inmates have, and the library. Some books that I really had been looking over were by Smith WigglesWorth, Kenneth Copeland, Kenneth Hagain. It seemed that there were lots of these books on being a Christian.
I also had other books on prayer and being a christian that contradicted what Brother Copeland, Hagain, and Wigglesworth were saying. It was pretty confusing.

Well, it was a few days past christmass, and I was lying in my bed, I heard God for the very first time in my life. He said that He was holding me responisble for my wifes condition, and being the man of the house, He gave me authority to change it.

I was just stunned. Like it was my fault she made those choices. I layed there and relized that my wife was in spiritual danger, and I agreed in marriage to be her covering. So, I jumped up and grabbed some FAITH books and read again about our authority as a Believer. I realized that Jesus said we have the power to tread over serpents and scorpians. (Luke 10:19) I then wrote a letter to myself and to the devil. I told The devil he could not take my family, and In Jesus Name his operations stop this day forward. I also commanded those divorce papers to be lost and ineffective.

I still had lots to learn though as I stood month after month. Someone that is in faith for something never gets sad, or down. They believe that they have recieved, they settle the issue once and for all.

First, I had take responisbility for the Curse that was in my life.

Pro 26:2 As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come.

Pro 26:2 As the sparrow in her wandering and the swallow in her flight, so the curse does not come without a cause. (BBE 1965)

All the curses listed in Deut 28 come for a reason. This is the Curse of the Law. In the Old Testament we had a bunch of laws that nobody could keep. Now we are under the new Commandments to love God with everything we have and love our neighbors as ourself. Breaking that Love commandment or love walk gives the enemy (Mr. Devil) to a place in our life. Paul said not to give the devil anyplace.

1Jn 5:18 We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.

Jas 3:16 For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.

Walking out of love, arguing and yelling, anything that is not edifify to the person we are talking to, breaks that love commandment. Any things goes at this point, every evil work can take place. All the curses listed in Deut 28 can take effect. The curse does not come without a good reason.

Deu 28:30 Thou shalt betroth a wife, and another man shall lie with her: thou shalt build an house, and thou shalt not dwell therein: thou shalt plant a vineyard, and shalt not gather the grapes thereof.

Horrible marriage problems come from someone not keeping that law of love.

What is Love. All these are not dependant on how someone treats us.

1Co 13:4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

1Co 13:5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

1Co 13:6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

1Co 13:7 Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

1Co 13:8 Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. ................................

So the first step is to focus on yourself, and How you relate to God. You need to get to a place where your not even considering your wife. You love her as Christ loved the church.

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,

So, no matter what your wife says, does, dates, files, Your not moved by this. This is not going to be overnight. It may take several months to get to this place, but seek it and pratice it. When thoughts of bitterness come, get on your knees and pray that God bless her and whoever she may have gotten with. Do not give the devil any place. Your not giving permisson for the divorce or for her to be with anyone but you. Your doing what you can to keep that love walk.

NEXT:

consider why you want your wife back. You said you were disabled, are you missing that support? Do you feel that your going to be lonley? These are other things you need to work on. Woman want someone strong, someone that does make excuses, someone that is strong in the Lord and the power of his might. All to often we miss people because we (Needed them.) We need to get into a position where our source is God, and the power flows from God, to us to the others around us.
The Word says by His stripes you were healed.

You don't have to stay disabled if you do not want to. It may take months of mind renewal, but the effects of healing will begain to take place if not suddenly. Any fear of loosing disability money must be overcome. God is your provider.

When my son was diagnosed with a rare form of Cancer, and the doctors said he was not going to make it. I was the strong one for my family. They were crying, I was saying be not afraid, he is healed and my God can not fail. You need to be the support for your family, Strong in the Lord.

So, Put the Kingdom of God first, and the other things will be added to you or fall in place. That was the hardest thing for me to over come and it took months. I had to go from feeling sorry for myself and missing my wife, to only Keeping focused on God. I believed our marriage was fine even though I had not heard a word from her. I also knew that God loved me and I just did my job to believe, If she did not take heed to God and did not come back, I was fine with that also. It no longer trouble me, but it was a long process of getting to that place. You can do it to. God will help.

NEXT: stay in the Word of God constantly. Most people don't want the victory bad enough to do this next step. What you put in is measured back to you. Never consider any other wife but the one you have now, Keep your faith focused on getting your family back togeter, there is no other outcome. Get help with others and stay away from all those that are contrarary to what your believing God. People mean well, but are full of bad advice.

I got the victory and we are still married after 18 years. My son is healed completly. It took a change in my first, and focusing on God, but what he has done for others he will do for you, and greater things will you see, all the Glory Be to our good, good God.

GEt some books by T.D Jakes. He has some great family material.
You can also visit my churh's website and download or order all the free material you want.

just do a google search for Keith Moore , Faith Life Chruch Branson MO.
Download or order the CD's on God's will to heal and check out all the marriage CD's
My pastor is very Good friends with Kenneth Copeland and studied under Bother Hagian for over 20 years. You will be blessed. It's ALL FREE!!!! POSTAGE PAID!!

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

I'm drained.....
I'm tired of being battered (mentally) and the Lord knows it well.

Yes dear sister, the Lord knows and He cares. He knows and understands what you are going through. These trials are also opportunities to grow spiritually and to reap blessing.

I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction Isaiah 48:10

He knoweth the way that I take: when He hath tried me I shall come forth as gold Job 23:10

Sister Maureen, I agree with Brother Mike,that you shouldnt have to go through all this hassle and nonsense. But your husband is a lost soul, who has heard the gospel many times....as you say many people are praying for him....he is so near to the Kingdom....only a step to Jesus. Is it not worth persevering and shining out the message of Jesus' love?

Commit all your feelings to the Lord sister..ask Him to deal with them. Meditate on His word and He will guide you.

I will be praying dear sister..I'll be in touch

With Christian love and prayers

Julia

Hast thou not known ?
Hast thou not heard, That the everlasting God the Lord,
The Creator of the ends of the earth,
Fainteth not, neither is weary.
There is no searching of His understanding.
He giveth power to the faint; And to them that hath no might He increaseth strength......
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings as eagles;
They shall run and not be weary;
And they shall walk and not faint.
Isaiah 40: 28,29,31

 

[Maureen]

Brother Mike
I can understand you saying leave while you still have a heart for him, because I don't understand how I even still don't, the long it's gone on and the times I've left and returned, amazes even me.
It is the Lord's input to me, and especially this time, I have had such a differant attitude over it, I have peace, stillness, and calmness, that is all of Jesus.

I have given over the reigns this time, He leads I'm following, I'm giving hubby time to prove he really means what he says this time, no more drink, that needs proof.

He doesn't know it but he's on a very last leg, I have a peace about finding somewhere for me and my dog, if he breaks his word again.
I always find he can go 3 perhaps even 4 weeks then he has to have alcohol that's when he binges.
I've cleared the air with him, made him realize this is what he's become.
This is the final for him, I know in my heart, I will leave with the Lord, and my way will be paved, because I have gave all I could to help him, I will be ready to go, if and when.

Thank you all for your help, it is greatly needed.
please keep my husband in your prayers.

 

[Brother Mike]

Praise God.

God Bless you Sister. I believe you feel your Husband may be gone soon if he does not shape up. I think you kinda have a knowing about this.

Don't fret dear Sister, Your responsible to the Lord Jesus Christ as he is the real husbandman. It took me awhile to really understand that my real brothers and sisters were the Children of God. Had my wife not turned around, I knew her fate as the Lord let me know what would happen. I finally had a peace about that.

Thank God we have the authority to take all the demonic pressure off someone so that they can have a clear mind to see the truth.

So, in praying.

Satan, we command you to take you hands off Maureen's Husband, you will not longer blind his mind to the glorious light of the Gospel, allowing him freely to make the right choices. Lord Jesus, you said pray that the laborer will be sent in to the harvest, and the Holy Ghost convicts the world of sin. We believe that the right laborers are being put in the path of Maureen's Husband, those that he will listen to, and come to reason that Jesus is the best Choice for his life in all love and obedience. We also believe that Maureen's Husband will be cleansed with the washing of the water by the Word, and end up with no spot or wrinkle, loving Maureen as Christ loved the church. We thank you God that your word never fails, weather Maureen, is with her husband or not, as you have not called her into this new life to be depressed and held back from serving you fully. We thank you Father for performing your word mightily as you can not lie. We give you Praise and honor and consider this matter settled in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ!!!!

God Bless
Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Maureen]

Thank you Brother Mike
for your lovely prayer, may it please the Lord Jesus to fulfill it, His will be done. Amen.

You are so right, about my attitude over this, I have had so much of me chipped away over the years, it is hard to find any feelings remaining, but in the Lord's strength, only He has given me the enablement to carry on regardless of circumstances.

It is truly only through His goodness to me, that I have no bitterness, or anxiety, over this recent episode, instead I have a calmness, even to be civil with Evan regarding it, that's so not like me.
I do know also that plans are drawn up, as he has promised to quit drinking, somehow I'm not fully confinced, I told him this has to be proved, I cannot just take his word on it, as he has let me down so many times.

If he doesn't keep it, I am going, I know I cannot take another one time, once more is just too many, I will know in a few weeks what it is to be, as he usually can't go more than 3 weeks then he itches to get drinking.
So it really is a matter of time.
But while I wait, Jesus is with me, and if I have to go He will come too.
I know He will never leave me nor forsake me.
Haven't we got a marvelous Saviour by far.

 

[Brother Mike]

God bless you sister.

Well, lets believe what we prayed. It will come to pass, no doubt.

You need to base your leaving (If you leave) on a unction from God, not on if he drinks again or not. Because of prayer, and I just quoted scriptures, God is faithful to perform his word. He may come home smashed drunk, but that does not take away the fact God is not powerfully working on him. That next time, really is his last drink, and not only that, but a perfect husband, getting stronger and stronger in the Lord, Growing up to be all God had intended him to be.

So, just don't start packing at the sign of trouble. Were not scared of the Devil. Make sure you get that check in your heart on to go or to stay. You will recognize it as God's direction. He is faithful.

God Bless Sister.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Maureen, I can relate to the anguish you feel. My wife is an obsessive hoarder. This has been going on for more than twenty years. She literally filled our house with junk. In 1996 the house was legally condemned and we had to live elsewhere until it was cleaned up. I began to pray for God to intervene. She responded to the cleanup by filling it up again.

In November 1998, the Lord told me she would be healed, but He didn't tell me when. The hoarding continued. In 2003, the house was cleaned out a second time, but the hoarding continued unabated. In 2006, we sold the house to a re-habber (took a loss on the deal) and moved into an apartment. I kept praying, she kept hoarding - until about a month ago when our landlord threatened to evict us at the same time I was gathering family members and friends to confront her and get the issue settled.

Finally, her resistance broke. Family members and friends from my church moved in to help. Much stuff has been gotten rid of, the place is being cleaned, and she's seeking professional help. But, it took twelve years of praying and believing. Jesus told us the mountain would move if we refuse to let doubt take root in our hearts (see Mk 11:23), but He didn't tell us it would happen quickly. Hang in there, keep believing.

SLE

 

[Maureen]

Thank you both for your help and concern.

SLE I have heard about these sort of complusions, can't think of the proper term.
They are serious too, I understand that also.
I know Evan is being dealt with by the Lord Jesus, and I also know it will be in His own time and not mine, he maybe under conviction, and I'd say has been for some time now, but I know the Lord is sure, He knows his heart, I don't, and although it's not easy to live with, Jesus has been my comfort and strength.

I could not have come thus far without Jesus, for sure.

And whatever the Lord has in store I know will be for our own good.
I do believe and I will believe.
He gives me faith enough to trust Him for the future.

 

[Brother Mike]

Praise God.

Glad to hear from you again.

If he does come home drunk as a skunk. (skunks drink?)

Do not say a word to him!!! This is very important. Just smile as if he handed you a million dollars. We are letting God take care of this, and we are not getting in the way. Trust me on this.....

Next, the decision to leave will not be hard or to stay. God already knows what is going on. Things are happening you and I can't even see. You will have a peace about leaving or staying, and it will be clear. Your right, God knows the heart, even it it is swimming in Alcohol. He can light a fire and burn it all away, leaving things open and bare.

Victory is clear, lets see what God can do, as what he has done for others, he will do for you, and greater things than these shall we see, all the Glory goes to our good, good, God.

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[stephen]

I had been helping plan his food, less sugar less fat etc, making healthy meals for him, now I feel it's been all a waste of time, I actually feel like I dont want to be here with him anymore. I am tired holding out the hand of kindness and this last episode seems to have shook me seriously.

Seems you have done all you could for your man.......But you have to consider your own situation at this time. Life can be difficult when all is well. when all is not well it surely becomes jolly hard work.

A difficult decision for you. I cannot advise in matters of man and wife, the decision has to be yours. But I pray at this point. My instict would say .....move on

 

[Maureen]

Oh again dear brothers I sincerely thank you,

Brother Mike, just to let you know, last Sat night when he came home so drunk, I never even took him under my notice, it was as if he wasn't there, not a word did I speak, and I wasn't angry, I was annoyed but he never saw it.


To all,
These days since are a little strange for me, I have never before heard my husband admit to being bad, being drunk, and never drinking again, in the house of God, yes in church, in the hallway, to some of my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, one of which Patsy took him very seriously as she too is diabetic, took him under her wing, and made him promise to her that he meant every word, which he did do to her, she also said, she would be enqiring of me about it.
Then after the meeting Evan asked Lloyd the Missionary there, if he wanted pointed to the Lord that he would want him to be the one to point him, Lloyd as you can imagine was thrilled to hear such words, and willingly made himself available anytime of the day or night for him, he had told me this before we left for the meeting but I never expected him to say anything to Lloyd about it.

It tells me things are happening, the Lord's Holy Spirit is doing His work, I only hope and trust this will continue with him, that satan will not steal it, as he now will be out to win, but as we know he is a defeated foe in the name of Jesus.

Please pray on, it is only by lifting him up to the throne of grace on wings of prayer, that he will be saved, as it is the Lord's will that the lost will be saved.

Thank you dearly for your concern and taking time to answer my post.
I do really appreciated your wisdom and God given advice.
I know these matters are taken seriously and answered accordingly.
Thank you.
Jeremiah 11 v 29
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. NIV

This verse I was given by the Holy Spirit soon after I was saved, I believe we are given words of God for a reason, even though it maybe years before we see any of those words come to pass.
I also know the Lord knows I would prosper best with my husband, but He also knows I'd walk away from anything or anyone if He so requires it, as immediatly I got saved I was willing then to accept it if my husband left me for becoming a Christian, because I knew, and even in such a short space of time, talking 3 weeks, by telling him I'd got saved as he'd always warned me I wasn't to become a Christian, but I had this real sence of assurance from Jesus that He would be with me always, and I didn't even know thenthat verse in scripture were He tells us, 'I will never leave thee nor forsake thee', I just knew.

 

[Brother Mike]

Just to remind you. Luke 10:19 we have authority over the devil. At the name of Jesus he must bow and listen to us.

This is what we prayed. get these scriptures, write them down, and keep them in front of you. confess them a few times a day. Faith comes by hearing the Word!!!! (Rom 10:17)

2Co 4:4
Mat 16:19
Mat 9:38
Joh 16:8
Start at Eph 5:21-33
Joshua 23:14 There are others.
John 10:10 He came to give life!!
Jer 29:11
Eze 37:14 What he has spoken, He will perform.
Mark 11:24 when praying believe you have your answer and not waiting on it.



Satan, we command you to take you hands off Maureen's Husband, you will not longer blind his mind to the glorious light of the Gospel, allowing him freely to make the right choices. Lord Jesus, you said pray that the laborer will be sent in to the harvest, and the Holy Ghost convicts the world of sin. We believe that the right laborers are being put in the path of Maureen's Husband, those that he will listen to, and come to reason that Jesus is the best Choice for his life in all love and obedience. We also believe that Maureen's Husband will be cleansed with the washing of the water by the Word, and end up with no spot or wrinkle, loving Maureen as Christ loved the church. We thank you God that your word never fails, weather Maureen, is with her husband or not, as you have not called her into this new life to be depressed and held back from serving you fully. We thank you Father for performing your word mightily as you can not lie. We give you Praise and honor and consider this matter settled in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ!!!!

Let me shout with you as God is working mighty in your life!!!! Praise God!!!

Now a lesson about faith. This is what you said.

It tells me things are happening, the Lord's Holy Spirit is doing His work, I only hope and trust this will continue with him, that satan will not steal it, as he now will be out to win, but as we know he is a defeated foe in the name of Jesus.

1) when I prayed, you agreed. Jesus promised that it's a done deal. (Matt 18:19)

2) I prayed only scripture. What God said is truth, what your husband is going though are just facts. Jesus said my Word is Truth and Spirit, and Truth will always overcome and change any physical fact.

3) God is not continuing anything. His word is already out on the subject. This matter is settled, and it is God's love for your Husband that will allow your husband time to grow and experience God while dealing with low self esteem and the hurts that cause him to act the way he does. You have what you asked, God's word can not fail. How long it takes does not matter as the result is going to be the same. A husband that loves God, and does right.
We are not looking at results, we are looking to Jesus and the eternal word of God. We may see progress, we may not see progress, but that does not matter. We know the outcome. This is the kind of faith that will move mountains. So give God thanks for the time you see changes, but we are still waiting for that great husband in Christ Jesus, which will surely happen.

4) Satan is not trying any harder, and he can't steal anything. You would be dead long ago if he had the ability to do it. As you said he is powerless. There is no way he can overcome the Word of God. He can only operate in the natural and try to get us to believe that the Word of God is not working. Remember the first lie he told Eve in the Garden?
"Surly God did not say you would die? Surly the way your husband is acting, that it's not going to work? Surly that cancer is spreading and God did not really mean by his stripes you are healed? LIAR!!!!!

I knew that you were not going to leave and I knew that your husband would get drunk again. I also knew by the Holy Ghost that the strength would be there for you.

Your husband has flesh and feelings. God is gentle. If your husband even looks like he is going the wrong direction again, I want you to laugh out loud and say

"HA, Ha devil, this does not move me. I already have a great Husband, and My God's words will not fail. HA HA devil, you loose, and my God will surly make sure that his Word comes to pass completely with nothing missing or broken in my life. My God loves me with all his heart and I love him with all my heart. So go think on that Mr. Devil, because your defeated in Jesus Name.

Nah 1:9 What do ye imagine against the LORD? he will make an utter end: affliction shall not rise up the second time.

I know this is a crash course in faith, but never say anything that is contrary to the Word of God or what your believing for. Do not write it, and take the Word and cast down thoughts.

Now get ready for that new husband, and meditate on what life is going to be like with both of you serving God. Think of your testimony that will help others in troubled marriages. Think, back on how you got the victory so you and your husband can relate this to others.

Think on these things. Do what I told you.

God Bless Sister.
Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Maureen]

Brother Mike
Your shinning, your words bring great assurance, also God's word used by you.

I am going to stand firm, believing in Jesus, His word, for what He has started He will also finish.

Psalm 84 v 11
For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.

that confirms it.

 

[bruren777]

Maureen,
I know your pain, not as a spouse of one with a drinking problem, but a former alcoholic. We have been married 38 years, I finally gave it up in 1983. I never physically abused my wife or children. I did use verbal and emotional abuse, part of the problem was my refusal to admit that I was sinning. AA and the AMA said that alcoholism is a disease and it's not my fault. That is not true alcoholism is sin!

My wife sought help through Al-Anon and prayer It helped her understand how to deal with it and to realize that God is an ever present help.

You and your husband are in my prayers!

Blessings!
In Him,
Bruce