Making friends

[Animosity]

I couldn't really figure out the best place to put this, so I figured
this would be the best area of the forum. Sorry this is long,
but there's a lot of issues involved with this.

The few friends I do have live out-of-state from me, so it's not possible to hang out with them in person. Contact with them via phone/e-mail is sporadic. Gradually the other friendships I've had, they've just let them drift, and treat me like I don't exist.


I haven't really had any new friendships in about 5 years.

I've tried to make new friends, but have encountered numerous problems while attempting to do so.

These are....

1.I can't find anybody my age who shares my interests. I have to have more in common with a person than we're both real Christians to develop a decent friendship with them.

2.The people who I do have something in common with, are much older than me. This isn't a problem, but unfortunately it makes it very difficult to be able to relate to them. We have different views on
life, due to the age gap, and yes this applies to older Christians too.

3. The people who DO share my interests and we have similar personalities, views, etc. I can't hang out with them in person,
due to the physical barrier.

4.Half the time in order to befriend somebody I have to put on a mask, act and think a certain way to be accepted. Being myself
isn't good enough.

There is the issue of trust. I anticipate developing a decent
friendship, and as soon as that happens, it will just drift, and
I'll be treated like I don't exist. I immediately think this will happen, because it's how I've been accustomed to being treated for years on end.


Last but not least people will probably say 'you have to be a friend to have a friend'. That if you're always miserable and depressed to be around, you don't deserve friends. With real friends, they don't
just ditch you because you're going thru a hard time, they're
there for you thru thick and thin.

I wish people would try to understand that I wouldn't be so
miserable, depressed, stressed, angry etc. if I had support from true friends. I'm not saying this justifies how I act, I'm just making a point. I do try to be aware of my actions and thoughts, how
they affect others.

People say that not everybody is like this, however with friends, and trying to make them, these are the kind of people I keep encountering. Sadly, in regards to friendships, non-Christians have treated me better than Christians. Not all Christians do this, but
most of them have.

 

[Kit Carson]

Hey:

Watching this thread for a week or better and I guess everyone is skeered.

I do not really know how to answer you, make you feel better, but I have only two true friends. One is our savior Jesus and the other is my wife. Everyone else I consider them suspect and fair weather at best.

I never do pretend. If they do not like me as me, tuff. That is their problem. I have found that anyone who does not conform to the world and accept is always viewed with suspicion. I am not normal .Lol!

In life and in business and other situations you will meet many people. Once in a great while one or two in your life will become friends. But life has a way of separating this, due to ones job, life, changes in the lives of both who are friends and so on.

In life and business I have been cheated, unfairly accused, and people daily begin their conversation to me with a lie. People will start that lie stuff on the phone with me before the discussion even gets to the point of going to their home to fix something. They are seeking the cheapest price, and they are expert in using others for their own gain, and expert in figuring out how not to pay for a service. They are people. They are what they are. They have learned to use others and such as they act in all walks of life. It is what it is.

Well keeping it short, those in life , you cannot count on. You cannot consider them friends as they are not. It is just how the world is and how things are. I consider all aquaintences not trusted friends.

My little girl asked me something about trust the other day. She said Daddy, I have worked at my job for three years and the owner still does not trust me. Why?? I asked her how many have been fired where you work and she sid at least a dozen for stealing this or that ......so I told her even your Daddy does not trust anyone either, we always treat people as we wish to be treated but in the back or our mind is always the knowledge that we cannot trust. This attitude is an earned attitude, and is what I call caution. Do not leave the tool locker unlocked or the shop unlocked as you will pay the price if you do. So in life we learn to be nice but not trust.

People are people no way to change them.

But hey there is one friend, he is always there, comfort and a smile are always there and his name is Jesus. That is the sure constant and the sure truth in this world.

May God grant you the understanding of the world and provide you the comfort and knowledge of his trust and true friendship, and show you that in spite of the trials of life, your smile will still show. To simply accept life as it is and not be concerned .

I do not worry about the world and others. Nothing surprises me as I expected it before it happened. It is the modern way.

Take Care

Kit

 

[Coconut]

Hey:

Watching this thread for a week or better and I guess everyone is skeered.

I have`nt got enough sense to ever be skeered, I simply did`nt see the thread

I am not normal .Lol!

Now here see...I`m not sure what Animosity will think if the only two people to answer this thread are not normal LOL!


Animosity ...I can relate...except for 4...I refuse to wear a mask...and I make well sure everyone I meet sees the real me ...like me or leave me.

Kit is right..."People are people no way to change them." God taught me something years ago about relationships tho, if I want to see change in others, it has to first take place in me, and so that is how I began to pray, and continue to pray "Lord, change me!" This little bit of understanding has had a real impact on my life....long story...but the short of it is, begin to pray that way, and you will see what I mean.

Love & Blessings <3