I know the wife is to submit to her husband and to God, but as was said when praying about something and God gives an answer...it isn't He who is divided.
Mark 3:25
And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.
The division doesn't come from God. It comes from satan. Satan would LOVE to see marriages, families, homes split.
What needs to happen is for unity in the home to abound and that neither one husband or wife separate themselves from their spouse.
This situation is one of many ways that satan tries to break the house apart.
Psalm 127:1
Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
If God is not the foundation of a marriage, a house, what is?
If God has not kept the city, house, what is?
Who is the watchman for the city, the house? Everyone should be the watchman for their own house. The husband and wife, instead of tearing down each other, need to be building each other up. Praying protection over each other so that satan doesn't get a foothold in.
I truly believe if husbands and wives would pray and read the Bible and seek the face of God together and privately every day, these kinds of things would not happen.
I can see the situation in my mind. In pictures...the husband and wife have agreed on something...but in the shadows lurks an evil presence...a demon one a mission. A mission to steal, kill, and destroy this marriage. He puts ideas into heads...he breaks the bond of agreement. He puts resentment in the minds and hearts of the husband and wife. He says to the wife "You don't need to submit. That's just a way for hubby to make you a rug so that he can walk all over you." To the husband the demon says "Jesus isn't the main head of this family. You are. Make your wife see that you are the head."
So the wife is bitter. The husband is prideful. And both lost the focus. They took their eyes off Jesus. Now, who will 'break' first and say they were wrong? *ha* "I won't say I'm wrong" the wife says. "Me either," the husband shouts.
A fight. Silence. Maybe even separate rooms to sleep. A wedge came between them. See. Even this seemly small situation can lead to separation...division...strife.
I am not sharing this to say...there is no hope, etc.
Because there is. What the husband and wife need to do is take the focus off of their feelings and what that demon said and put it on God. Let God heal and break the resentment, pride, etc. God can do it, too!
Remember a house divided against itself can not stand. Let God unite the house...the family...and help it to withstand any attack from the enemy. Let's place our houses..our homes upon the Rock...of Jesus...so that our families and marriages can withstand the test...and the mission of the enemy.
On Christ the solid rock I stand...all other ground is sinking sand!