My marriage needs a miracle. It is in grave trouble. I have been riding this roller coaster for far too long. Some of the worst things that people can say to each other has been said. I am struggling to see God in all of this. Please pray for my family.
Good Morning,
There has been little change but he has stopped saying terrible things. I keep looking for a sign from God but I am becoming very weary. I cry myself to sleep at night and I don't know how much more I can take.
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Mat 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mat 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
Mat 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
God has given us signs in the Scripture . Outside of adultery divorce is not a scriptural option. IF you and/or kids are in danger make your selfs safe,
I do not quote the Scripture lightly i have been were you are .
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mat 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
Mat 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
God has given us signs in the Scripture . Outside of adultery divorce is not a scriptural option. IF you and/or kids are in danger make your selfs safe,
I do not quote the Scripture lightly i have been were you are .
Andyindauk
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Hi Mom,
Poor poor you, my heart goes out to you. My poor lovely sweet sister, please be strong. It looks to me that you are the strong one in this situation, he's showing vulnerability, he's kicking out at you, you are the one he loves and so you are the only that matters to him that he can hurt. The only way through this is love, love, true love is the answer. Please read I Corinthians 13:1-13 -
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away. When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Please, give this your best shot. Follow biblical advice, he is your husband, one you loved so much you quite readily said 'I do.' You both gave that commitment to each other, and then had children. What you had was special, but something's gone wrong and I'm sorry I don't know what. I'm assuming from your post that you don't either, in which case we're a bit in the dark.
OK, you need to love and communicate, love and communicate and love some more. Try subtly to get him to open up, relax and chat, being strong, love and talk to him. Tantalise and re-seduce. Try to get back to how it was. Another passage-
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:31-33 NKJV.
Please give it your best best shot, try your best. Pray, pray and more prayer. That should work unless there's someone else involved, I really really hope that's not the case but the way to find out is try, give it your very best shot and see where it leads. With the power of prayer your loving father God will lead.
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Dear Lord God, when we find ourselves in waters way too deep and well over our heads, our world seems to implode and we're so out of control. In a situation like that where else can we turn and what can we do? The answer's easy, we submit to you, we get out of the driving seat and ask you to take control.
Please, dear God give Mom wisdom direct from your Holy Spirit to plan and see this situation through to the other side. Give her the moral strength to get through and somehow rescue her marriage. Most of all Lord, I ask that you cover that house with love, deep love, your love.
Thank you dear God that you are looking after my gorgeous sweet sister who's in tears. Please Lord I pray that you will replace them with tears of joy as she looks back and sees how you have loved, cared and brought her through this torrid time.
We love you God, love you, love you, love you and thank you for your love for us.
Amen.
Greetings, may i attempt to point you to the LORD in all this. I do not suggest your lot is easy, but as will all, we have a common remedy, which is to look unto the LORD and consider Him, to delight yourself in the LORD and let Him and His peace guide and rule your heart and mind. We all must face different trials and while we can get thinking ours is the worst, it is not, but and however, it is the worst that we get [and presently have] and in the Light of Him Who loves us, it is always a but a small thing. Allow the LORD to show you that in this He is giving you invitation to want nothing but Him, only Him and all He has for you!
I do not want to try to belittle the deep pain you have BUT i do want you to turn to Jesus as your Comforter and to get from Him His Comfort and joy in Who He is.
The woman who touched His robe and was healed had to press in through the barrier of being forbidden to do so, as well as the crowds, possibly consisting of mainly men, and she had to determine that she wanted what Jesus was able to give. As it turned out, He was not only able but willing.
May you find your peace in Christ Jesus the Lord, and may your peace be His peace.
Bless you ....><>
How precious ... are Thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.
Psalm 139:17-18
Whom have I in heaven but Thee? and there is none upon earth that I desire beside Thee.
Psalm 73:25
