murder in your heart

[Stormwinds]

Hi y'all,

I am a born agian believer, but I am having some issues with a person who has hurt people very close to me. This man abused his children and his wife. There was possible sexual abuse with the children and at least mental abuse (to the point of oppression/isolation not sure the right word, but I've heard "stockholm syndrome" used to describe her). Anyway, I have more than once wish him dead, actually thinking of various ways it could happen (but not with me "killing" in most situations. Car acident or a fellow inmate once jailed (he was arrested for raping another girl), falling on a sidewalk and an icicle falling an peircing his heart, other things.) I know that if he were dead it would be much easier for his wife and children to recover. She would no longer have this hold held over her, afraid of him returning, etc. And the kids would not be stigmatized by him. It is not as embarrssing (for lack of a stronger word coming to mind) to say your father is dead then to say you dad is "away" or your dad is in jail, or you dad is a pervert and rapist and can't be around you, depending on how honest you want to be.

I know it is wrong of me to wish this man dead, butI am not sure how to free myself of this sin. I just see the courts plea barganing and giving him a slap on the wrist or worse a finger wagging and him being free to terrorize and harm other innocent people. There is not much I can do from a legal standpoint but tell the truth when questioned about this man, and perhaps that is what is so frustrating. I know the Lord says that vengence is His, and I know if this man does not change his life he will be sentenced to an eternity of torture. Any suggestions on how to get these thoughts of death out of my head?

Stormie

 

[Jonah2005]

Prayer Is The Key!

Sometimes it's hard knowing what to do in a situation like this one.

If I were in your shoes I would probably pray for them & call the police every time I would witness the abuse going on.

I hear what you are saying. And I know it must be hard. But like you said, it is wrong to wish this man dead, all though it is a normal & narural feeling to have.

Instead of wishing him dead, try praying for him & his family. Ask GOD to soften his heart, that he may show compasion on his wife & children, and ask GOD to show HIS Mercy upon the wife & children.

Talk with GOD, tell GOD how you feel.

There is also the police, go into prayer first, saying why you feel the need to do this, and then report him to the police. {No need for a long prayer}.

Remember Jesus' Words in Matthew 5:43 - 48;

43. "You have heard that it was said, `You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.'
44. "But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,
45. "that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.
46. "For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?
47. "And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so?
48. "Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.

Try to bring GOD's WORD to them, so that they may learn of GOD & HIS Only Begotten Son Christ Jesus.

You can even do this by mail, leaving yourself to be anonymous, if you fear trouble could come of it.

By doing this, they could be getting some knowledge of GOD & of our Beloved Savior Christ Jesus.

But keep your words gentle & kind. 2 Timothy 2:24 - 26

24 And the Lord's servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.
25 Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth,
26 and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.

 

[Gracealone]

I'm not sure I can help, but will try.

From the time I was 15, I lived in such abuse.
I also would wish my husband wouldn't come home, for it only meant more rape.
later my three children also suffered abuse, and I thought I was being obedient to God by staying in the marriage.
For 13 years I suffered, my children suffered.
Then one day our neighbor came to the door, and announced to me that the twins that his wife had just gave birth to were my husbands.
I gathered my children into the car, and left.

I would seek help for this family, maybe by intercession, going to the police, or some authority to help them, as abuse can lead to murder.
They need to get out,and away from him to a safe place until he has had a change of heart.
God does not expect us to stay in an abusive situation.
For the safety of the children, God would allow separation. This is not normal behavior.
Talk to the wife, and get her to go to the police. She needs to protect herself, and her Children.

Our Pastor was a police officer, and as a Pastor he would advise the same thing.......flee to a safe place. Get help, before it is to late.

Years later:
I came to realize that apart from Christ, I was no less a sinner, than this man I hated, and God, in his love, had mercy on me.....

When you look past the sin, and see the need, you can find a way to forgive, just as we need to be forgiven.

Christ died for us, while we were Yet sinners, just as this man is, and my husband. He knew our every sin from the beginning to the end. None of them take him by surprise, yet he died, for All.

It is a normal thing to hate sin, God does, for it is sin that makes us like you are observing in this poor soul, yet Jesus died for him also.

Do what you can to help, then simply stand, in faith.

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

every time i would feel hate and anger in my heart because of injustice, prejudice, sin, etc.. i would ask God to cleanse my heart from all these defilement and ask his love and compassion to come down and be poured out in my heart. remembering what Jesus did in the cross while people throw insults on him and say he must be crucified though He did no wrong. I would denounce every hurt and hatred, or any anger. Is this possible? Yea. Through God's help we can. The Lord Jesus Christ has demonstrated it all to us. It's always wonderful to know how amazing is God's grace to all mankind.

I pray may you be able to receive the thing you're asking from God to let go that feeling/thought of hurt on that hurting person. The thing you ask is God's very will in your life and surely He will give it to you. May God's protection and healing be also in that family. Amen


The Lord bless your heart beloved sister. God bless you richly!!!



In Christ,


Sister. Reymielin

Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled; Hebrews 12:5


And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: 1John 5:14

 

[Boanerges]

Forgive.
Forgive.
Forgive.
Jesus commands us to forgive so forgive we must. We must ask Him to help us to see such people through His eyes. When our spiritual eyes are opened we will see such an offender for what he is; a lost soul in the torment of darkness and demonic bondage.
As far as his family they need to prayerfully make their own decisions. We must abide by the law of the land.

 

[Gracealone]

Yes, Forgive, and pray for the person you are troubled over.
When you pray for someone it is amazing how it changes you first.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

There is not much I can do from a legal standpoint but tell the truth when questioned about this man, and perhaps that is what is so frustrating.

We need to separate our emotions from the forgiveness process. We can't wait until we have warm fuzzy feelings about the other person. Forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion. Jesus asked the Father to forgive the men who put Him on the cross to suffer the most painful death ever suffered.

Your legal options in this situation are indeed few and feeble. However, your spiritual option of praying for this family and gathering an army of prayer warriors to join you is powerful beyond human comprehension.

"The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."
(Jas 5:16b NIV)

SLE

 

[denise04]

hi

Hi y'all,

I am a born agian believer, but I am having some issues with a person who has hurt people very close to me. This man abused his children and his wife. There was possible sexual abuse with the children and at least mental abuse (to the point of oppression/isolation not sure the right word, but I've heard "stockholm syndrome" used to describe her). Anyway, I have more than once wish him dead, actually thinking of various ways it could happen (but not with me "killing" in most situations. Car acident or a fellow inmate once jailed (he was arrested for raping another girl), falling on a sidewalk and an icicle falling an peircing his heart, other things.) I know that if he were dead it would be much easier for his wife and children to recover. She would no longer have this hold held over her, afraid of him returning, etc. And the kids would not be stigmatized by him. It is not as embarrssing (for lack of a stronger word coming to mind) to say your father is dead then to say you dad is "away" or your dad is in jail, or you dad is a pervert and rapist and can't be around you, depending on how honest you want to be.

I know it is wrong of me to wish this man dead, butI am not sure how to free myself of this sin. I just see the courts plea barganing and giving him a slap on the wrist or worse a finger wagging and him being free to terrorize and harm other innocent people. There is not much I can do from a legal standpoint but tell the truth when questioned about this man, and perhaps that is what is so frustrating. I know the Lord says that vengence is His, and I know if this man does not change his life he will be sentenced to an eternity of torture. Any suggestions on how to get these thoughts of death out of my head?

Stormie

do u understand sin is sin to god to god its all the same wether uve done wht he did or lied or stoled whtever its all sin to god, also god will forgive him nomatter what hes done